Wow this thread is getting nice and busy now - it's so nice to have the support of other people who are going through the same stuff.
PieMistress - woohoo, that sounds like brilliant progress on the night time sleep. Naps are a lot harder. I have read elsewhere that developmentally night time sleep is consolidated before day time sleep - I didn't really feel like Thomas was ready to go to sleep in his cot until he was four months old and I used to rock him in his bouncy chair for every nap - he transitioned pretty easily when I did move him though. I'm not saying that's what you should do as obviously it must be better to be consistent for day and night, but if you do end up having to rock him to sleep I think it's not a disaster while he's still so young. It's definitely not a failure - you are doing brilliant!
HistoryGirls - yeah it sounds like getting rid of the dummies is going to be the hardest step for your LO - but you know it has to happen if she's going to learn to get back to sleep without your help.
Lyre - that's interesting about keeping him up a little bit longer - I've been trying that a bit with Thomas too - he does seem to be able to go longer than 90 minutes now that he's sleeping better at night but still doesn't seem to be able to stay up longer than 2 hours. He managed an hour nap this morning (I did wake to sleep so don't know if that helped) and he is napping again now so we'll see how that goes.
Jacs - that's strange about your LO moving the night feed earlier too - I wonder what that's about? Last night was back to 3 a.m. feed which seems to be turning out to be the most common time for him to wake for a feed.
jacs, i know, i feel really mean now that i was keeping him up without realising it...
just gone down for second nap of the day and no protesting at all!!!!!!!! asleep in minutes, really cant believe the improvement and hes a different baby when he's awake, we can play together now for over an hour and he doesnt get grumpy! so so happy x
Jacs - I'll certainly take that drink if we're in the area - where about in Ireland are you?
Polaris - the video monitor has been a godsend through all of this. It is so much easier to track her sleeping. Plus, like right now, I can see she is just up and she is lying oohing, laughing and chatting and it is so cute. I almost want to leave her there just to enjoy it! But I'd better go get her. My cue that she is ready to get up is that she looks towards the door!
Historygirls - yep, the dummy has to go. But look at it this way, you were going to have to have a fight with her at some point any way to get rid of it. To my mind, doing it now when she has little other option but to cry for a bit then sleep, is much better than dealing with a toddler tantrum later!
Someone said it takes 3 days to build a habit and that is true. But it also takes 3 days to fall back into an old one. So for those who are afraid they have "failed" because they resorted to something...anything.... one time to get a break from it, you haven't gome back to the start, it's just a little blip. Dana makes mention of this kind of thing e.g when they are sick. Once in a while wont hurt, but if they are ill for a week and you take them back into your bed for that week - then its back to the beginning. But every once in a while wont hurt.
As for getting OHs to read the book - mine did it after the second night. I'd outlined the basics but after a couple of nights of trying it we were fraught and bickering and he kept saying "this can't be right" In frustration I yelled "well if you would read the f***ing book you'd find out!!!" So he read it the next day Remember, they don't really have to read it all at once, start them on the chapters outlining the steps to take and if they want to they can read all the rest of it later.
Sleeping in the car / pram etc. We never made any attempt to stop her doing this. But now she only ever does if she is knackered. I think in the first instance, for a couple of weeks, it is best just to avoid having them in the car / pram. Be at home for naps etc as far as is practical, even if it means missing out for a wee while. I became a hermit! Now we commit to at least 2 of her 3 naps in the house and make sure we aren't out every day. If you have to go out - consider having them in the front east - Abby never slept when she was next to me. If you aren't comfortable (or are unable) to do that, try just talking to them or singing loudly But if they sleep, it's no biggie, as long as it isn't every nap.
I'll reiterate again - I would say the one mistake we've made is that Abby now won't sleep easy, anywhere but in a cot. We're going to start one nap a day in her pram in the house as all week we had to be out through one of her naps and she just wouldn't settle. I expect some tears in getting her into it, which is why we are starting at the weekend!
Originally Posted by lyre
does anyone else feel like you're always putting them down for a nap! lol. it's funny how it punctuates my day now...............not sure what was going on before this week. lol
It definitely does feel like that. And before she became easy to put down I hated it! at the weekend I'd make Mr Foo do it because it was sooooo draining. But now, 6 months on, it is brilliant and I can break my day down into morning tidy up, lunchtime sitting on the sofa watching Judge Judy and doing this, then afternoon catch up on paperwork, or housework etc. It's brilliant! I do miss her sometimes though.
Polaris, Lyre - excellent news on the nap!!
PM - great progress!
Jacs - I was the same, thought DD would just nap anywhere! Can't believe it!
So nice to read all the good news
Foogirl, that's what I think is holding me back - I love DD napping on me.
Basically, I've not done well with naps again today. I need you all to give me a real kick up the backside, because I know I'm being rubbish with them...and it's purely due to me loving her napping on me. I'm being selfish, really
DD had a short nap in her cot, woke up crying, and I didn't even manage five minutes before scooping her up...she was asleep on me within seconds!
PLEASE boot me up the bum!! I know it's better for her to nap in her cot...I'm just feeling bad due to her teething, and want cuddles!
This may be overkill TennisGal, as I couldn't find a blinkie that was quite right, but consider it your booting!
Nah, I think it's hard as it is, but when you feel you're LO isn't on top form, you just want to cuddle them all day long!
Thanks Foogirl, might try the front seat thing. I'm not in Ireland (nowhere as pretty!), I live near Newcastle in the North-East. This means you will have to be a hardened drinker to come out for your bevvy!!
i put lo down for a nap at 11.30 and did wake to sleep and she's still asleep now - 2 hrs 30mins and still going - she did wake during this time but has gone back to sleep - now i don't know if it was wake to sleep or that she has a cold - i'll keep trying it though - great tip Polaris thanks
Welcome, Elski, Historygirls and Bloodbinds and good luck with the programme - great support here
HG - My lo was a dummy girl - we would be up so many times replacing it - it has been just over a week now since we stopped it altogether - it was very hard and so tempting to give it when she was in a state but we perservered - the poor thing was desperately sucking away at her blankie yesterday - i felt so awful but its getting better - be strong
TG- its only natural to want to give lo hugs whe they are ill - lo is ill with the cold but she doesn't like it when i try to hold her to sleep - so i put her in the cot. i know its hard but she will learn - just do it when you are ready How is her teething going?
PM - i was sleeping in lo's room all this time but when i started the training i moved back to our room as i felt we were both disturbing each other and i felt i couldn't expect her to self settle if im in view - she would expect me to get up lol - thats just what worked for me but my lo is older - do what you feel is right
Glad you are feeling better polaris - we all need to have a rant - it feels so much better after
Jacs - i keep lo in the front seat in the car - she does nap but not for very long - too busy looking around lol
i too don't like to leave lo when she wakes from a nap - it's not that often that she'll just lie there - normally starts crying straight away so she is clearly tired
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