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Loo, I love her name and she is truly gorgeous!
I'm just about to start writing my birth story but I was in labour for 5 days so it's going to take me a while. I promise I'll spoiler it so you don't have to read it if you don't want to.
Just a quick question for anyone who had this time or previously, a c-section. I have the most excruciating shoulder pain which i know is normal referred pain after stomach surgery. I've been having peppermint oil capsules and peppermint tea to try and help but I keep getting spasms in my shoulder which is radiating down my arm and across my neck and chest. Nothing I try makes a difference and it's more painful than anything I felt in labour. Totally serious! Any idea what I can do to try and relieve it?! I'm begging!
This is my birth story. It took 5 days and nothing went the way I had hoped so you are welcome to avoid reading it if you don't want to know.
My birth Story:
My waters spontaneously ruptured at 5pm on Wednesday, whilst I was lying in bed waiting for DH to get home from work. Luckily, I'd literally just changed the bed and put a plastic sheet on to it catch anything during the labour. There wasn't a hugh amount of water and it was totally clear so I kind of wondered if this was it or if I'd just peed myself a little!
Anyway, I put on a normal pad which was soaked within 2 minutes and then moved onto a mat pad. Much more successful. I phoned the labour and delivery ward who told me to come and get checked to make sure it really was my waters. I phoned Neil who came home quick sharpish and we went in both feeling really excited although as I said to my MW I was going to feel a right numpty if it wasn't my waters.
Spent an hour on the monitor and pad was checked. MW was totally convinced that it was my waters and the toco monitor showed that I was having some mild and minor contractions but not in any real pattern. We were sent home to try and make contractions start and was advised to bounce on my ball, keep my legs open as much as possible and be as active as possible.
I phoned my mum to let her know what was happening and she decided to drive up that night. She arrived at about midnight and we all went to bed feeling really excited that this must mean something was about to happen.
I slept really well that night (oh dear!) so no contractions then. Had breakfast and Mum and I decided to go for a long walk. I had a couple of reasonable contractions during the walk but again they didn't turn into anything exciting. We prepped the house for the planned home birth still expecting that that was what was going to happen. Beds remade, kitchen cleaned, bathrooms cleaned etc. However, still nothing.
Went into hospital again to be checked out. Baby was still happy. I was still losing loads of water. Sent home again to carry on bouncing and try and make the baby be born but was told that I would need to be in the hospital for 9am to be induced if contractions didn't start during the night.
I tried so hard to make contractions start and they got to the point that they were about 6 minutes apart but not particularly strong. This went on for a couple of hours and then tapered off and disappeared during the night. At 10pm I started crying realising that things weren't going to go the way I had hoped. I told my husband that I felt like I'd failed our baby because something had happened that had stopped my body from responding in the way that it should do. I was really scared by the idea of being induced having heard any number of horror stories about synto inductions but we decided to take each step at a time. I knew the hospital had made a note of the fact that we'd wanted a home birth and they decided to let me have some time in the Midwife led Unit when I arrived instead of going straight to the labour ward. I was so hopeful.
After a lot of waiting around I was examined and found to be posterior and unfavourable. I was given the pessary and contractions started within about 30 minutes. Everything was going well until I had a big gush of waters which moved the pessary. A new one was put in and contractions continued. Unfortunately the same thing happened about 6 hours later. The MWs were hopeful that the pessary had been enough to kick-start my labour and I was left to carry on in peace. I'd sent my mum and DH home by this point and at about 9pm I phoned them to tell them that contractions had stopped. The MWs were still hopeful that the contractions would start during the night but yet again they didn't. When I had to tell them that they had stopped completely, a decision was made to induce me in Labour and Delivery using the synto drip. I am given IV antibiotics because by this point my waters had been broken for about 60 hours. I'm all prepped and am hooked up to the monitors again. I didn't realise it but this was going to be my constant companion for the next 24 hours. The baby appeared to be happy and healthy and was still moving around nicely which was quite a feat given that there weren't any waters left.
I phoned my DH at that point as I had been told that I would be going as soon as possible as they weren't happy about how long the baby had been without waters. Mum and he arrived at about 8am and then we waited, and waited, and waited. I was seriously worried about the baby by the point because although the monitor was looking fine I couldn't help but think about how long my waters had been gone. Eventually, after 8 hours of waiting, I was brought down to Labour and Delivery, given more antibiotics, more monitoring and the synto drip was started. I was examined and was found to be a finger-tip dilated but still needing further effacement.
My contractions started pretty much immediately. I had asked about mobilisation and was told that as long as I didn't pull out my drip I could bounce on my ball and move around as much as I wanted. This was music to my ears and I spent the next 13 and a half hours moving, swaying, bouncing and generally getting to grips with the contractions. They kept asking me if I wanted any pain relief but in all honesty I didn't. It took 1.5 hours to turn it up to maximum but even on that dose I was doing fine. The baby was still fine and I was feeling great. I was examined at the end of this time and was found to be... 1cm dilated but fully effaced. I was a bit disappointed. I had been fantasising about finding out I was 6 cms and was about to have a baby. But this was not to be. The MW checked with the Doctors who decided to leave me where I was because I was making some progress. I was to stay on the drip for another 4 hours.
For some reason, I felt that the contractions were getting worse so I asked for G and A which I loved although it did make me talk rubbish! I felt like I was finally getting somewhere as they were more directed and more painful than they had been. AFter 4 hours I was checked again and was found to be 1cm dilated and fully effaced so, effectively, there had been no change at all. I felt really deflated but knew the decision was now out of my hands. I knew that I was going to have a c-section.
This was arranged and I talked it through with the Doctor, signed the consent forms and was taken to theatre. I was a given a spinal, everything was set up. My DH arrived in scrubs and pretty soon afterwards our beautiful baby Astrid was born.
We hadn't known her gender but where both delighted that she was a girl. We were told she weighed albs 13.5ozs and that as a result it is unlikely that I would have been able to give birth to her in any case without help. This is some consolation as I do sort of feel that I didn't get anything that i had hoped for in the birth I had. She makes it all worthwhile but I'm having difficulty getting to grips with what happened.
We are all so lucky that after 84 hours of no waters neither she nor I had any ill effects and both of us are happy and healthy. I'm finding the recovery from the c-section difficult because I've been getting spasms in my right shoulder. I know it's just referred pain from my diaphragm but they're horrible and nothing seems to make any difference to them.
There is a bit of a story about what happened after the birth for the 2 days I was in hospital but I'll write that some other time as I'm not sure I can cope with it at the moment. The MWs and the care I was given can't be faulted but I think what happened was the product of all the stress of getting to that point.
When I write this down, it's difficult to really see what the problem was. It was a logical progression from one thing to another which meant that Astrid arrived in the best way for her. I feel, however, that I didn't get the opportunity to actually give birth, I never felt the urge to push and I feel like my body has let me down. I'm really sad about the things we had planned and I'm upset that I wasn't able to give that to my DH or Astrid.
I had made the decision to go with whatever happened and to make the best of it. My DH says that I was great during the labour part and showed great strength of character. My MWs said that it was such a shame that I didn't get the labour I deserved.
I'm concerned about what happened because I want to know what will happen next time around, about how the c-section will limit my choices and if the same thing will happen again. I'm no longer concerned about the pain or coping with it but I just want to know that it doesn't have to be like that.
I'm going to stop writing here because I don't think I'm really getting to grips with what I'm trying to say. At the end of the day, Astrid is worth everything I went through but I feel cheated and upset by what happened.
Laura...your birth story made me feel really sad even though I've never had a c-section I can really relate to what you are saying...having a vision in your mind and then that not happening must be really upsetting. A similar thing happened to my friend...she was induced for 48hrs but it totally failed and she went straight to c-section, her baby was big too 9lbs 9oz.
Personally I don't think you've failed at all!! nor has your body! I think you were a complete trooper to be honest...I'm not sure I could have lasted as long as you did without demanding a c-section!. Ultimately I it's the baby that counts....and Astrid is beautiful
Maybe tell the MW about how you are feeling when you speak to her about your shoulder and ask about VBAC chances for next time
So excited to continue on into the mummy group. I love reading the birth stories!! It seems as though emergency c sections are much more common then I thought! Having had one myself I understand the whole feeling like you cheated thing! I spoke with my mum about it and she assured me that I didn't cheat as I labored to nearly fully dilated before I had the c section and if I had of tried to give birth naturally to brax he wouldn't be here!! Im sure we will eventually get our heads around it!
I can not believe my little baby is 2 weeks old today!! It's going so fast and he has changed so much! I am really lucky as he is such a good baby! I'm expecting him to change at any moment but currently he's sleeping quite well at night he went from about 10.30 till 3.00 was awake for an hour by the time we changed his nappy and fed him and setttled him again then he slept till 7.00!! He really is good!!
He had passed all his health checks with flying colours!! His a strong baby since birth he could hold his own head up and roll onto his side!! I love being a mummy and he makes it so easy for me!!!
In regards to the cord stump, we bathed bubs a few days after birth. We were told not to worry about it, we cleaned the cord a few times with a cotton tip and some water. That's all we did untill it fell off. It did take a while to fall off though.. About a week I think!! Anybody else had a shower with their bub? It's so fun!! He just loves the shower!!
Mitch - yay for being home... I thought it is absolutely mental that they let us home with Noah without giving us an instruction manual!!! hope Mia is settling in well and you're doing ok...can't wait to see some pics and read your birth story but we'll give you a bit of time to do that! and very glad you had and liked the epidural too. xxx
Loo - sounds like your 3rd stage was a bit mental!!! That's always the slightly overlooked bit isn't it!!! glad all is well now though and that you liked the epidural. AMAZING isn't it when you need it. Dharma looks absolutely gorgeous hun - be very proud!
Laura - thank you for posting your birth story hun - it resembles mine quite a lot too...and I think you did fantastically well going all that time on full dose synto with only G&A. I was squealing for an epidural very quickly! Please don't feel bad about ending up with your C-sec - I know it wasn't what you planned or hoped for but these big babies just don't want to come out and getting them out safely in a controlled manner has got to be the most important thing and you are in no way a failure - the recovery from these damn C-sec are pretty awful on top of an enormously long labour. I've been quite positive about my induction/c-sec nightmare because I felt like we made the right decisions for both me and Noah at the right times and trusted my body and what it was(n't) doing...but I'm very disappointed in the whole labour/delivery thing - found it in no way joyous/empowering/fulfilling at all - just wanted him out. And then in theatre he was the last thing I needed. I wasn't expecting that.
EDIT: Mitch just seen your comment on Mia sleeping... I would reiterate all that has been said...we soon learned that Noah needs nappy/feed/burp/cuddle before putting back down in pram/moses basket... and for the first week at night he would sleep on DH's chest downstairs in between feeds so I could recover some sleep... he's now in our room and sleeping fine between feeds. Mum gave me a tip thats been invaluable - hot water bottle in moses basket when i'm feeding so its all warm and snuggly when he goes back down - instant sleep success. MW told me I had to feed/burp/nappy change/feed but that ended up with me being plastered with milk vomit so go with what you feel is right. Cuddles are essential and from all the stuff I've read you can't spoil them with love so cuddle away guilt free with pepperoni in her hair!!!! hope your first night went ok xxx
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