PND Support Thread

Anyone been in a mother and bay unit , iam going to one and iam very scared x

support would be good please xxx

thank you , i hate this illness

Originally Posted by Skye1

Hiya, my baby is 15 weeks ond now.

I was diagnosed and treated for PTSD a few years ago so my doctors and MW were on their guard ready for me to get PND. I never imagined I would, but two weeks after the birth it hit me like shit.

I've had a hell of alot of pysical symptoms with the deppression, I finally agreed to take meds for the first time, 8 weeks ago. It took about 5 weeks for them to kick in properly, but I am so glad I started the meds. Straight away I started to sleep better on them.

How long have you been on the meds for ?

I was also diagnosed with PTSD but not til after I was diagnosed with PND. After a long career in EMS they finally discovered I had PTSD. I have been in meds 5 months and have had 7 med changes. They just can't find a suitable combo to treat the PTSD and the PND together. Glad you found meds that work for you. What are you taking?

Originally Posted by nora

Anyone been in a mother and bay unit , iam going to one and iam very scared x

support would be good please xxx

thank you , i hate this illness

hiya, I went to a MBU between may and June 2010. It was the best thing I did for my PND.

Please don't be scared. I know it's hard not to be. The staff in the units are really supportive. The continuous care gave me a chance to get my medication correct. I also got so much more confidence with my little girl.

If you've got any questions please feel free to ask. X

Been to drs and taking lorazapam and sertraline. first pill was last night and this morning.

i feel worse!! Why>

Not sure hun, what did they doc say about when it may take effect. It might take a few days to stabilise x

does anyone else worry about never being able to forgive yourself for feeling this way in the future. I just look in my LO eyes and know the day will come when i am better but how do i look at him and know that there were times when i wished he wasnt around. I worry i will drag the guilt around much much longer than i will the actual PND.

Originally Posted by babyhopes2010

Been to drs and taking lorazapam and sertraline. first pill was last night and this morning.

i feel worse!! Why>

Quick update: i feel alot better already.altho iv had inlaws over this week so its eased the pressure off looking after LO constantly.


as far as the guilt pp mentioned. i feel better now. i literally didnt want her the first few months. i did feel guilty for a while but i was strugglin and not well then. x

Hi,
Been told I have PND and docs have given me pills, but haven't taken them. DH doesn't want me to, and I don't see how taking a pill will help me cope?....
My DH works away 3/4 days a week and I'm always petrified being on my own. I look at the baby and get anxious and scared. We don't get much sleep and I hardly have time to go for a wee.
I'm not entirely sure why I feel like this, but it started the day she was born. Birth was traumatic and she was whisked off to Special care. Had to transfer hospitals to a horrible place and was bossed about in special care and told what to do and not to do with my own baby. Felt really small. Was in soo much pain and had no painkillers. Had no sleep for 3 days. Tried to breastfeed and eventually gave up after 2 weeks. From the moment I arrived home, have felt sooo low, anxious, scared, worried etc Midwives have come in every day to help, but now they need to stop coming. HV has started and been once, but all they say is I'm doing ok. Noone can take these feelings away.
I look at LO and feel petrified. My DH has been brilliant helping, but he has to work, and sometimes he's soo tired the guilt is too much.
I really feel like I can't cope. I don't know what to do. Thank you for letting me vent

Hi Floofymad, What you've written I could of written myself a couple of years ago.

In regards to the medication nobody can force you to take them but the decision should really be down to you.

Unfortunately midwives can only carry on visiting for a limited time post birth. I would speak to your HV. Maybe show her what you've written here.

Whilst medication can help I think your GP and HV need to provide you with more support. As well as medication I was referred to a crisis support team and also the recovery team.

Do you have any family or friends around during the day? Could you arrange to meet up with them.
Also, I know the idea sounds daunting but sometimes going to baby groups can help. I used to dread going to groups but was always glad I did once I got there.
I found groups like baby massage and bounce and rhyme were good as the activity took my mind off things. They also were great for bonding with my LO.

If you decide to start taking the medication it would be best to have some extra support for the first few days. I've noticed from a few posts on here and from my own experience, that the first days taking AD's make you feel worse.

I hated hearing this myself when I had PND, but it really does get better. My daughter is two now. We have a wonderful relationship. I enjoy every moment with her.

I really hope things get better for you soon. X

Nice post