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Old Jun 9th, 2013, 08:09 AM   41
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I don't think it'll ever go away for me, but if my partner didn't want anymore I would NEVER trap him into it. If you love your partner, you respect what they want just as much as what you want.

I'm stupidly broody at the moment, a few of my friends are pregnant & it's making me so jealous!



 
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Old Jun 9th, 2013, 08:14 AM   42
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My want for another hasn't gone away yet. We knew that we wanted our first two very close together - there is a 13 month age gap between them. We've agreed to have one more, but we're not starting TTC until the beginning of 2015. I'm hoping the feeling goes away after #3 cause we're definitely not having 4! X



 
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Old Jun 9th, 2013, 08:57 AM   43
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I watched a Dr. Phil where a woman got pregnant with 3 or 4 children by her husband having sex with her while she was asleep!! She finally realized with one child because she got pregnant even though they hadn't had sex in several months. While this is a more serious situation because the sex wasn't consensual, the deception is the same. He wanted more kids and she didn't. It ruined every ounce of trust she ever had. That same episode had a woman who claimed their LO was an accident because she was on BC but she had really stopped taking her pill, that relationship was ruined too.

My DH and I don't have secrets and I couldn't live my life harboring a secret that huge from my partner. The guilt would eat me alive. I also respect him and value his opinions and wants regarding expanding our family.



 
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Old Jun 9th, 2013, 09:32 AM   44
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I watched a Dr. Phil where a woman got pregnant with 3 or 4 children by her husband having sex with her while she was asleep!! She finally realized with one child because she got pregnant even though they hadn't had sex in several months. While this is a more serious situation because the sex wasn't consensual, the deception is the same. He wanted more kids and she didn't. It ruined every ounce of trust she ever had. That same episode had a woman who claimed their LO was an accident because she was on BC but she had really stopped taking her pill, that relationship was ruined too.

My DH and I don't have secrets and I couldn't live my life harboring a secret that huge from my partner. The guilt would eat me alive. I also respect him and value his opinions and wants regarding expanding our family.
Are you sure that was real? Surely the woman must of been aware of having sex? Wow, she must be a very heavy sleeper



 
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Old Jun 9th, 2013, 09:45 AM   45
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I watched a Dr. Phil where a woman got pregnant with 3 or 4 children by her husband having sex with her while she was asleep!! She finally realized with one child because she got pregnant even though they hadn't had sex in several months. While this is a more serious situation because the sex wasn't consensual, the deception is the same. He wanted more kids and she didn't. It ruined every ounce of trust she ever had. That same episode had a woman who claimed their LO was an accident because she was on BC but she had really stopped taking her pill, that relationship was ruined too.

My DH and I don't have secrets and I couldn't live my life harboring a secret that huge from my partner. The guilt would eat me alive. I also respect him and value his opinions and wants regarding expanding our family.
Are you sure that was real? Surely the woman must of been aware of having sex? Wow, she must be a very heavy sleeper
Maybe he had a tiny penis? no seriously, it was real. She was an extremely heavy sleeper and he always worried that she didn't love him as much as he loved her, and he felt more secure in their relationship with each child. It was sick!

I found the story:

http://www.drphil.com/slideshows/sli...ew=&versionID=

He deceived her in some way with every child!



 
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Old Jun 9th, 2013, 09:54 AM   46
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Woah!! The anger! I can honestly say that a little suprise gift of another child in a steady home would be seen as a blessing. Can a man seriously not be happy with a beautiful new baby in the home? I honesly find that hard to believe, who could resist that little face!! The rape story is sad, that I can agree with, but I in s steady home, a beautiful little oops, I know my DH wouldnt stay angry for long, possibly 15 minutes lol



 
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Old Jun 9th, 2013, 09:55 AM   47
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DH and I never wanted children, but almost 10 years into our relationship, I changed my mind. As you can imagine, this was a huge blow to him. Obviously it would have been FAR easier to fake an accident and deal with the consequences, but I respect him and we both had to be on the same page. Breaking the news to him that I wanted a child after so long of mutually agreeing that kids weren't for us was incredibly difficult. We argued and had long discussions on the topic, our future, how our relationship would change, etc. for months and months, and in the end, he agreed. If you're ever thinking of tricking your partner into a child, it means you need to TALK and be open about how you're feeling!

I should add that he's a WONDERFUL father and keeps commenting that this is the best year of his life. I'm so glad that he's happy with the outcome, but this would feel horrible if I deceived him.



 
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Old Jun 9th, 2013, 10:36 AM   48
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Woah!! The anger! I can honestly say that a little suprise gift of another child in a steady home would be seen as a blessing. Can a man seriously not be happy with a beautiful new baby in the home? I honesly find that hard to believe, who could resist that little face!! The rape story is sad, that I can agree with, but I in s steady home, a beautiful little oops, I know my DH wouldnt stay angry for long, possibly 15 minutes lol
You make me sick. The fact that you're continuing to defend something so wrong just boggles my mind. You obviously can't be reasoned with.

And for the last time - IT WOULD NOT BE A "SURPRISE" GIFT.



 
Old Jun 9th, 2013, 10:58 AM   49
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I don't see why ppl have to get so angry and heated about this. I would never have an oops either but every relationship is different. Maybe in PP's relationship a No means "No but if it happens, Yay." Yes, her advice isn't good advice but when I originally read it I took it to be a tongue in cheek comment and not serious advice from one woman to ALL women. Please let's not get so het up?
I wanted to share my deep longing with other women cause I truly believe only other women with the same longing would ever understand the feeling.



 
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Old Jun 9th, 2013, 11:06 AM   50
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Considering she keeps defending her comment, it's obviously not tongue in cheek. And it's not about "if it happens, yay" since she said men don't know what's right for them and need help deciding. It's so violating and wrong!! How you don't see that, I don't understand.



 
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