Hello ladies,

This is my first post so Hi!

Not sure if this is the right section to post in or if premature would be better, please let me know if it is.

Anyways, one of my best friends had her little boy 2 weeks ago, he was 7 weeks premature, his lungs were'nt developed properly and he couldn't feed properly etc so was in intensive care for a week, he's now in special care and is doing ok, he's got a fungal infection at the moment so can't be moved to a cot yet, aparantly this is nothing to worry too much about and will clear up. They don't know how long he will be in hospital yet.

My friend is going to the hospital every day, usually comes home after a few hours then goes up again with her husband in the evening. The past few days she has been spending all day up there with him.

She is really down at the moment which is to be expected, I haven't got any children yet so cannot imagine how it must feel to leave your baby at the end of the day and come home without him, she is expressing as well, not sure if that is bringing her down too?

So to get to the point! I am going to see her tonight for a bit of girly support, is there anything I can do for her that will help? i'm thinking practical things? I can buy her chocs, flowers etc and just be there for her. I really hate seeing her like this and just want to help.

So, has anyone got any suggestions to cheer her up or are the chocs and chats enough?

Sorry for the mammoth post and thanks

Theres not a lot you can do but be supportive which is what you're already doing

It sounds exactly what I was doing, going up and down to hospital,expressing, its is very tiring!. Just be there as a friend and throw some flowers in if you like, ahhhh all girls like flowers

Maybe you could offer to drive her to the hospital a couple of times, if you can?

If you have time you could also take some food for them, she'll need good nutrition at the moment, and I bet they can't be bothered to cook!

yeah just be there to listen and i am sure she would appreciate some flowers or a wee card with nice words! she has a good friend in you xx

Be there to chat but you can also offer to tidy the house, or just start doing the dishes or something small like that when you're there. Bringing a dish of lasagne or something that can just be popped in the oven so she doesn't have to think about dinner for a couple days would also probably be greatly appreciated.

Also if its girly support you could go the totally girly route and bring over what's needed to give her a mani/pedicure and a facial/face mask and totally insist on pampering her!

There are some really great idea there. Just being there for her will be great for her right now