For the past few days I've been upset about how my labour went I know we can't push back time ....

The reason behind it for me is I can barley remember a thing.Ivy was posteier ( back to back) So I had constant contractions for 3 nights at 5 mins apart but failed to dialte from the Friday to the Monday evening past 1cm so I got no sleep for 4 nights... I also had a huge huge huge bloody show what they kept me in hospital for over night incase my placenta ruptured on the Friday....

When labour finally started on the monday night I was so tired I was worried about how I was going to get her out with no sleep or energy.. I hadn't ate the whole time since Saturday evening due to how strong the contractions was in my back I couldn't lie sit down or even stand up I just had to roll about!Then when I got into established labour 4cm I got given Gas and air and I think this is what ruined it for me... I didn't open my eyes during the whole thing because I was so high all I can remember from the whole thing is screaming and whaling at the top of my lungs because my back felt like it was going to break in two.... I don't even remember what the midwife looked like who delivered her.......

The whole thing is just a blur I can remember segments but I can't remember much that's what disappointing me I can't remember the first time I looked at Ivy and that's really bothering me.. I just remember her getting placed on me and she did a poo and I was stroking her because I still couldn't open my eyes through the sheer tiredness....

I don't know if any one else feels this way but I do think it has affected my 'bonding' experience in a way... as I was too tired to look after her and Ill when I got home

Hi my whole labour and hospital stay was one big nightmare.. i wasnt prepared for what was going to happen all i was prepeared for was a natural water birth and going home in 6 hours.. my waters broke at 41+7 on friday and saturday i still hadnt started contracting much went into hos had sweeps and i was on my own when contractions started as my mum n hubby wernt allowed untill i was passed 4cm it was lonely and scary.. then they were alowed when i went down to labour ward gave me epidural and the hormone drip - contractions ontop of each other nothing worked! Got to 6cm and they said i had to have an emergency section i was devestated .. i wanted my mum to see her bein born .. my husbad wasnt allowed in while they did the spinal block i was so upset when she came out i hardly got to see her they wudnt let me do skin to skin we didnt get to do delayed cord cutting or bf as soon as she was born.. but i was fine with tht becoz i thort id be going home tommorow..nope even tht didnt go to plan my baby had a lung infection from waters breakin and her not being delivered till very late after she was in nicu for few days nil by mouth so i didnt get to bf her to start with then i had a woumb infection and bled so much it was touch and go.. i was home after 2 weeks its so sad becoz the babys greatgrandma came all the way from abroad to see her.. she only got to see her a short while. I am so disapointed about how it went i find bf dificult still but i am realy trying i think it wud have been easier if i got to bf frm the start but im trying to let my dificult experince go im so lucky shes perfectly healthy x

I had back to back labour. I missed a lot too, however the thing I wish I could reverse was one of the midwives in the room. I hate to use the word ruined, but I felt as if she ruined the whole experience.

I booked a home birth and bought a pool. It as my second. My first labour was a long and difficult one ending in an assisted delivery with vontouse( baby was OP) This spurned me on to go for as natural a birth as possible. I went to hypnobirthing classes practised optimal feotal positioning the lot! On the day I laboured at home for 10 hours...baby was OP again but I was managing beautifully using the pool and entenox. When I was examined having started pushing I was only 6cm and involuntarily pushing on cervix so was tranferred to hosp in an ambulance. Once there I had an epidural which slowed things right down...baby was constantly monitored and started getting decels..got to 9cms registrar decides not to put me on synto as doesnt want to force the baby out...after 3 more decels they take me for EMCS. This was 11 weeks ago now and I'm just starting to feel the psychological effects of my experience. I feel disappointed in my body...envious of women who got the birth I so desperatly wanted...guilty on the baby...the list goes on xx

I didn't even get to go into labour! I had preeclamsia and she had to be delivered via emergency cSection at 38+1.
We got no skin to skin, took 2 hours before I could breast feed her. It was not what I had in mind at all.

No I'm so sore after the section that taking care of her is really hard. I feel shit all the time then feel guilty about that!

I love her so much I just wish I could have done it naturally for her.

There were no complications either time I gave birth, but I had to be induced both times as I went way past my due dates. I bet going in to labour properly is really exciting and I'm guessing I'll never get to experience it!

I used to feel dissapointed that I found it so hard to push my lo out. My actual labour was perfect up to the point of pushing. I just got so tired and by the time I was pushing 'right' I was knackered! So I had ventouse delivery. I think because my labour was so great I felt I had failed when it came to pushing. I then suffered a 3rd degree tear and internal bleeding and ending up having 3 blood transfusions so even though I had skin to skin straight away, this wasn't for as long as I had hoped and because I was rushed down to theatre I didnt get proper cuddles and bonding until about 4 hours after giving birth. I did worry at first that this would affect my bond with lo but when I look at him and I see him looking deep into my eyes and smiling I know our bond is so strong and will continue to grow each day x

I took a drug (not epidural) that made me sleepy and I slept between contraction. it was a blur to me as well and upset me that I couldn't stay awake (the drug effect) after birth so I handed the baby to the nurse and told them I don't think I can stay awake. I need to sleep this drug off.

Me! And I had what everyone defines as the 'perfect labour'.

I didn't feel any pain, I must of slept through the whole of the labour stage. I woke up, went to the toilet, felt my baby's head, pushed twice and she came out. I felt no pain, I don't remember anything properly though.

You would think that's the perfect labour. But to me it wasn't. It was too quick. To wake up, go to the toilet and find out your about to have a baby is so frightening. Then to deliver the baby yourself alone. I had a second degree tear and the cord broke as she came out, the placenta came out straight after.

My daughter was completely fine considering. When the amberlance got here, I had lost alot of blood. I was drifting in and out of consciousness. They took me into theatre to stitch me up and I felt violated for some reason.

It sounds horrible (and I apologise to those lady's who have had long horrible labours) but next time I hope I get a longer labour and remember it. But the midwifes etc have said it's likely to be the same again in future.

Eurgh I sound so ungrateful. But it was so scary, it still bothers me now. Especially when people tell me there jealous and I have to pretend it was brilliant and I'm so lucky.

OMG that sounds terrifying and not perfect at all!! There is much more to giving birth than just the physical aspect, it is a very emotional thing. Glad you & LO got through it ok.