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Old May 4th, 2014, 16:58 PM   1
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So scared of losing my baby :(

After losing my daughter at 9 days old I'm so terrified of losing this baby It's still early days and I'm only 8 weeks but considered as high risk because my beautiful Lucy had iugr. Also I'm just missing her so much. Every night I go to bed I'm reliving the 9 days in my head and I'm so scared of going through anything like again

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Old May 4th, 2014, 17:15 PM   2
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I'm so sorry about your beautiful Lucy. I can't imagine what it must be like to go through that. Fear in pregnancy after any sort of loss is very real and completely normal to feel. So far, I've found the best way to cope is to take it one day at a time and try to focus on the positive.

Congratulations on your new pregnancy. I hope it's a happy and healthy one.

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Old Jul 15th, 2014, 18:47 PM   3
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's not the same, but I had a MC, and I'm terrified my new baby will suffer the same fate. It's natural to worry. Mothers always worry. Just try to remain in the moment and remember that as long as no bleeding or bad cramping, things are all right, unless a doctor/medical provider tells you otherwise.

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Old Jul 15th, 2014, 20:43 PM   4
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a tragic club that no one ever wants membership to. My oldest dd died from pneumonia when she was 2 1/2. It's a blind siding sort of pain. Her loss was followed by a chemical pregnancy and then her beautiful, healthy, amazing little sister, now almost 5. I've also had a blighted ovum and now I'm 11 week 3 days along with another seemingly healthy child. It's a rough road. And there's a lot of fear, both during pregnancy and after the little one comes. We waited over four years after our 2nd child because we were terrified she wouldn't see her third birthday, too. Long story short, the fear is normal. The pain is normal. And there is a break in the storm. It's been six years since I lost my firstborn and some days are as raw as the first, but I have joy in my present and hope beside the fear. Hugs and support and I'll stalk the thread if you need someone to talk to. Child loss is child loss in all its forms, but there's something particularly trying about a loss you've cradled in your arms.

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Old Jul 17th, 2014, 13:53 PM   5
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to all the strong ladies here. Fear is normal. I've had 2 early mcs and this is my third pregnancy. We've been trying for number one for just over 3 years and after having tried for so long and each time we lost our bean it felt like starting again. I am so scared about this pregnancy. But you have to take each day as it comes and I just enjoy the fact that today i am pregnant and therefore there is hope.

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