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Old Mar 17th, 2016, 22:14 PM   21
kls9503
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ladies! Mind if I join in? I'm due Nov 11 and this is my 6th pregnancy. I have a sunshine and a rainbow. Lost my DS at 12 days old in 2011 due to a tumor on his liver and clotting issues. My last two pregnancies ended in mc at 6 weeks in Oct 2014 and at 16 weeks last April. I went off my anxiety meds in January anticipating ttc. Had plans on waiting until May to ttc since we have already booked and paid for a trip to Disney World. We have always had to used clomid to conceive so I was very, very surprised when I got my bfp 2 weeks ago.

My nerves are shot to say the least. I thought I was safe last April when we made it to 2nd tri. I don't think I will be able to properly breathe until my baby is in my arms. At times I wonder why I'm putting myself and dh through this again. We have 2 beautiful, healthy dd's. I just don't feel like my family is complete ya know?



 
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Old Mar 17th, 2016, 22:31 PM   22
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Welcome and congrats kls! I'm so sorry for your losses don't worry I've questioned why I'm doing this again too. Most people think I'm crazy. And I know I have a higher chance of losing this baby than bringing it home but i just have to try. Fingers crossed we crossed we all get our take home babies!

Doesn't sound harsh at all hmmohrma. Going through losses is hard. Sometimes you just want to talk to people in a similar situation. I was in a group on here while having dd. It was full of amazing ladies who helped me through my pregnancy. We are still in touch now as we started a facebook group. Lovely to still be able to chat and share pictures of our little ones.

What are all your due dates ladies? Will put them up in the first page.



 
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Old Mar 17th, 2016, 22:42 PM   23
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Welcome and congrats kls! I'm so sorry for your losses don't worry I've questioned why I'm doing this again too. Most people think I'm crazy. And I know I have a higher chance of losing this baby than bringing it home but i just have to try. Fingers crossed we crossed we all get our take home babies!

Doesn't sound harsh at all hmmohrma. Going through losses is hard. Sometimes you just want to talk to people in a similar situation.

What are all your due dates ladies? Will put them up in the first page.
Thank you! It makes me feel better to know others have the same feelings. I agree hmmohrma. It helps to talk with others who have walked our road.

Put me down for 11.11 however since I've had 3 c sections I'll probably be around Nov 5 or so but won't find out for sure until October.



 
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Old Mar 17th, 2016, 22:50 PM   24
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I'm the 16th if I make it that far, my daughter was a week and a half early though but hoping this one won't be as my sons birthday is on the 10th.



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2016, 01:48 AM   25
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I'm November 1st, I totally get what people are saying about the losses, you don't want to bring it to the table when others haven't experienced it but we shouldn't have to disguise our fears. I have only had the 1 MMC and really feel for those of you who have been through more losses I just found mine particularly traumatising as nothing seemed wrong, I walked into that scan room thinking I was going to see a 12 week baby bean and I learned I had been carrying my dead baby for several weeks. Things like that rob you of early excitement



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2016, 05:08 AM   26
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Welcome to the board, KLS. I'm so sorry for you losses. I can't imagine how difficult it must be to lose a live child.

Thanks everybody. This is exactly what I'm talking about.

Jemma, that is exactly how our second loss was. We thought all was well, and it definitely had the longest effect on our emotions. We waited 5 months to even begin trying again. It is hard for DH to make it all real, and seeing Baby on the screen, getting excited, then getting the horrible news was so hard on him.

My edd (according to LMP) is November 12.



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2016, 06:21 AM   27
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If anyone's due date changes after scans let me know and I will update.

Hmmohrma I think people forget how hard it is on the men. There's pretty much no support availible for them either. My poor DH suffered so much through all the losses. And when we lost our first daughter at 18 weeks he was broken hearted

How's everyone doing symptom wise? Morning sickness has hit hard today. In a way I'm glad though cause symptoms are a good sign.



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2016, 07:11 AM   28
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I am worrying myself stupid because no symptoms this morning and usually I have something

My OH didn't show any emotions when we learned of the MMC, think he was holding it together because I couldn't cope, I find that sad and I felt guilty but appreciated him taking over while I grieved



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2016, 08:57 AM   29
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Morning sickness hit me last night as I was trying to go to sleep. Woke up this morning to it still here. I'm okay with it...I hope I get almost every pregnancy symptom...

I agree men have it hard. My dh held it together so well after we lost our son. About 2 years later he kept thinking he was having a heart attack. Went to the er twice and turned out to be pretty severe anxiety attacks!



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2016, 09:20 AM   30
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Totally the same with my DH. He suffers with anxiety attacks after losing our daughter. He's had reccuring nightmares about the night we lost her for years. Feel so bad for him.

Kls me too! Bring on the exhaustion, sore boobs and cravings lol. Morning sickness was a good sign for me, Just got my 3+ on a digi, I'm so so happy!!



 
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