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Old Oct 13th, 2016, 05:13 AM   1
nicksi27
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Previous loss at 20 weeks ..13 weeks pregnant and petrified!


Hi ladies, very brief history - i sadly lost my first DS at 20+ when we found out at a scan he had died a few days before. We subsequently found out that he had IUGR due to the placenta not working. Then i had my 2nd DS and i had severe excess fluid throughout so they thought there was an abnormality (which thankfully there wasnt and hes just perfect!).

Im 13 weeks today and im totally anxious about missed miscarriage. I was exactly the same when i was pregnant last time and i thought this time it would be better but im actually worse for some reason. I have a doppler but im trying not to get obsessed with it because i was totally hooked on it last time. When i hear the heartbeat i feel relaxed for a day but then fear starts coming back wondering if the baby has died because the placenta has failed. I know its all related to losing Jacob It affects me everyday ...everyone knows im pregnant now and im constantly panicking thinking what if i have to tell everyone ive lost another baby/i dont want to let everyone down. Im having a scan every month so i should feel some relief from this but im just convinced im going to lose another baby. I just want to feel excited to be pregnant rather than waking up everyday worried stiff. I worry about everything pregnancy related ...is my bump big enough, why wasnt the baby moving much on the scan, is the heartbeat strong enough etc etc. Its a wonder i havent got a full head of grey hair!

Anyone else in a similar situation finding it difficult?



 
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Old Oct 14th, 2016, 09:46 AM   2
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Hi, my situation isn't the same but I didn't want to rnr. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, it's so cruel, I cannot even begin to imagine how difficult it must be in the second tri. I think any pregnancy after a loss is full of anxiety and sadly that stretches into the second tri for you because of your previous loss. I think it's great you have a Doppler, I use mine every morning as I have the same fears about another mmc, although mine was in the first tri. And having scans every month is great too. As hard as it is, try to remember your body has done this all perfectly before with your son so what happened before isn't something that will happen every time you are pregnant. I wish you all the luck in the world, were actually not too far apart date wise (and I also live in the north east)



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2016, 08:58 AM   3
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Hi. I lost a baby at almost 20 weeks due to my waters breaking which they think was caused by an infection (either that or I got an infection after my waters broke). What made it worse was that the baby was fine, but wouldn't have survived because of lack of fluid, and I had to deliver or I would have got sepsis. After that I got pregnant a year later and did not stop panicking until I was past 25 weeks. Even then, the fear was still in the back of my mind. But I had a healthy baby who is now 4. Since then I have had 2 early miscarriages, so I just have fingers crossed that this one works out. It's completely understandable how you feel. I probably won't relax until I have a baby in my arms this time around



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2016, 21:07 PM   4
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I'm so sorry for your loss! I know exactly what you are going through! I lost my little baby girl at 20 weeks in june. I had a partial placenta abruption due to low lying placenta and the bleeding sadly started the contractions which couldn't be stopped. She was a beautiful healthy little girl and looked just like her dad.

I am now 9 weeks pregnant and completely terrified. I'm really trying not to think about the fact that I'm pregnant because I don't know how to handle the anxiety but it's hard since I have severe nausea. My ob is great about it though and lets me come in as often as I want to have a scan to check that the baby is still alive. I've chosen every two weeks so far and I'm going tomorrow for my second scan. I'm petrified! And I'm afraid I'll feel this way all through the pregnancy and that I'll never actually believe that I will have a baby until I hold it in my arms.



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Old Oct 25th, 2016, 14:13 PM   5
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I honestly don't know how I'm gona get through this! I lost my little boy in July at 21 weeks and no explanation why, just that his heart stopped, that was after having 3 healthy children! I'm now about 4/5 weeks pregnant and a nervous wreck! I have 2 months to wait for my main scan but I'm convinced something is going to happen x



 
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Old Oct 31st, 2016, 11:01 AM   6
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Hi, my situation isn't the same but I didn't want to rnr. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, it's so cruel, I cannot even begin to imagine how difficult it must be in the second tri. I think any pregnancy after a loss is full of anxiety and sadly that stretches into the second tri for you because of your previous loss. I think it's great you have a Doppler, I use mine every morning as I have the same fears about another mmc, although mine was in the first tri. And having scans every month is great too. As hard as it is, try to remember your body has done this all perfectly before with your son so what happened before isn't something that will happen every time you are pregnant. I wish you all the luck in the world, were actually not too far apart date wise (and I also live in the north east)
Hi Mrs Unicorn, i know that every pregnancy is different i need to say that to myself every day. I feel guilty about using my doppler everyday but its the only thing that gets me through, its so lovely hearing the little hb isnt it. Wishing you all the luck in the world too ..hope you have a very happy and healthy pregnancy x



 
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Old Oct 31st, 2016, 11:08 AM   7
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I honestly don't know how I'm gona get through this! I lost my little boy in July at 21 weeks and no explanation why, just that his heart stopped, that was after having 3 healthy children! I'm now about 4/5 weeks pregnant and a nervous wreck! I have 2 months to wait for my main scan but I'm convinced something is going to happen x
Hi laurenmomma so sorry that you lost your little boy It must be so awful to not even have any sort of explanation as to what happened. Life is so cruel. I totally understand your panic ...its the worst feeling in the world expecting something to go wrong. You WILL get through this ..i hope the times flies for you until you get to see your LO jumping around on screen at your scan. Sending you lots of



 
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Old Oct 31st, 2016, 20:26 PM   8
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Lauren wont they offer you early scans due to what happened previously?



 
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Old Nov 23rd, 2016, 11:27 AM   9
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Sorry I didn't see your replies!

I have just got back from my early scan and I'm measuring 7+4 but though I was about 8+4 so they want me back in 2 weeks to check growth. I'm a nervous wreck now because I feel quite crampy and a sore back. I don't have any morning sickness which is a massive change from all previous pregnancies, I'm actually the opposite eating loads! The only positive thing I have is extreme tiredness ��



 
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Old Dec 19th, 2016, 14:03 PM   10
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Laurenmomma do you have any update?



 
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