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Old Jul 1st, 2017, 08:56 AM   11
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Not doing great here to be honest Sweetkat. My anxiety is getting much worse. The day before yesterday it was on constantly on my mind no matter what I did. I then qoke up yesterday and the few mild symptoms I had had before had to disappear overnight. So I'm now thinking even more certainly that things have stopped progressing. I just don't see a positive ending to this. I am dreading going through what I did before. I had to have 2 lots of medical management last time because my body just would not let go. I don't want to have to do that again. But if my body has failed again and doesn't realise then I don't think I could continue and wait indefinitely. But a D&C is not an option for me emotionally. I know a lot of women have them and if that's the right choice for them that's great. But I don't think I could deal with it.
I rang the hospital to ask them to book my scan for after my sons birthday as I will be 12wks the week before but I don't want bad news just before his birthday again. That will still only be 3 weeks away but it feels like an age. Part of me wants to ring the midwife first thing Monday and tell her I've been bleeding over the weekend so I need a scan NOW. I know that sounds terrible and I wouldn't ever lie like that really but it's just one of those irrational thoughts y'know? I feel like a dreadful person just thinking it. Like just thinking about lying about something like that will jinx the baby if it is actually ok. So sorry for the rambly thoughts. There is so much in my head right now. If we get to our 12wk scan and all is ok I cannot put into words the relief I will feel on every single level.



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Old Jul 2nd, 2017, 21:27 PM   12
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I am starting to get anxious about this pregnancy. I am only 5 weeks so it is way too early to be worrying, but there it is. Trying to stay positive, but DH is starting to get excited and I just hate the idea of having to give him bad news if something goes wrong again.

Pregnancy after loss definitely isn't easy.

I'm sorry you are feeling so down Mamamumum. As I said, I think I get it. I can understand wanting to hold off until after the birthday party. I also get wanting a scan now. The OBs here won't scan you until 10 weeks, but my family medicine clinic will do one around 7/8. I'm thinking about asking them to do one and then switching back to the OB. They prefer you to either stick with the family doc throughout pregnancy or the OB, but you can start with one then switch. I'm thinking about it just so I can get an earlier scan.



 
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Old Jul 2nd, 2017, 21:34 PM   13
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I just had my 7w scan, baby's doing well and hb is strong at 131bpm. But on my last mc, I had a scan at 6 weeks and then miscarried at 13 weeks. I Spotted around week 8 and then again towards the end of week 10 before hemorrhaging at end of week 12.

I'm trying to be positive, but it's hard. I know that once you see the hb, the chances of miscarriage is lower than 3%, but it could still happen, based on my experience. I hope it doesn't repeat for you and me.



 
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Old Jul 4th, 2017, 04:00 AM   14
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Just had a scan - measuring a day ahead - 7 weeks. Heartbeat of 138. Going back for a rescan in a week.

Feeling a little bit more hopeful but still expecting things to go bad.

Had a good scan at 8 weeks with last pregnancy and then no heartbeat at 10&2, so not getting my hopes up.

I am going to go for a rescan in a week.

Fingers crossed ladies



 
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Old Jul 4th, 2017, 04:02 AM   15
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I saw a heartbeat 3 times with my last pregnancy, but it turned out that the baby had Down's syndrome and I still miscarried.

The only positive thing is that last time at 6&3 and at 7 weeks it was measuring 2 days behind (maybe because of the Down's syndrome?) and now the measurements are a day ahead - measuring 7 weeks and 6&6.

I also have a subchrionic haematoma - I had that with my DD at the 12 week scan.



 
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Old Jul 4th, 2017, 08:07 AM   16
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Good luck Sweetkat! I'm so glad your scan went well and that things are looking good

I can understand your worry. I only had one scan at 10 weeks last time when it was discovered that baby had stopped growing at 8, but if I had had an earlier scan I bet everything would have looked fine. It must have been hard for you, I'm sorry.



 
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Old Jul 4th, 2017, 13:53 PM   17
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Thank you for your support ladies. It was a totally spur of the moment thing to go for the scan today. I just thought if everything is going wrong I would rather know.

The scan was good, and the baby measured a day ahead, but I had a perfect scan at 8 weeks last time....

I am going for a rescan in a week and counting down the days until 12 weeks.

How are you all ladies?



 
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Old Jul 4th, 2017, 14:37 PM   18
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Hey ladies.
Just checking in. 5+5 today. No MS yet so that worries me as things never seem to ramp up but I guess there is still time.
Boobs still sore and nipples sometimes hurt and throb.
I am very tired in the mornings but ok by lunch. I think the steroids are helping with that. Very hungry in the eves but again I think that's a side effect of the steroids.

I am on prednisolone and apparently it can mask some PG symptoms. It is used sometimes with cancer patients to ease sickness.
So maybe that's why I've felt nothing yet?
I don't know how to feel about this pregnancy really. I'm not getting the overwhelming feeling that this is the one. I don't feel anything if I'm honest. I guess I'm protecting myself as I know my chances are not the best x



 
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Old Jul 4th, 2017, 14:40 PM   19
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Awww Sweetkat im glad the scan went well! 😀 Xx



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2017, 03:56 AM   20
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It's sooooo hard being pregnant after losses. Especially after losses which were so near the end of the first trimester. I just need to get to week 12 and have all the chromosome abnormality testing and then I will feel better.

If the embryo is chromosomally abnormal there is nothing that can be done to change that, it's fate/ bad luck/ in my case OH's sperm issues.

All we can do is hope and be patient. Big hugs xxx

The dr is saw yesterday was soooo nice. She said I can come and see her any time and that she knows how hard it is....

Trying - I don't think MS or lack of it is a sign. I had MS with my last loss as I got to week 10.

Karoolia, after one loss your chances of a healthy pregnancy are very very high. So fingers crossed all is well this time.



 
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