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Old Aug 6th, 2017, 11:40 AM   1
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Can't help feeling something will go wrong


Hi ladies
As you can see from my sig I've experienced many losses all in my late teens. It was a bad time poor relationships poor health etc

Anyway I'm now settled in my mid 20s. This is the furthest I've got in a pregnancy. Midwife has no concerns consultant is also quite happy baby looks healthy. Had 3 scans already

But I can't help thinking something will go wrong. I still have periods of feeling slightly sick i.e. This morning I had toast for breakfast then met my friend for coffee I had tea and felt nausea for around 5/10 mins
I do have a bump forming-it's pretty evident in pregnant now (or that I have constant pasta/bread bloat lol).

I've been really anxious and stressed at work-I've a lot going on and a lot to deal with right now there

I kept getting twinges sometimes down where my ovaries are sometimes random up towards my stomach.

We have a private scan booked for 4 weeks time. I'm so concerned something is wrong with the baby



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2017, 13:06 PM   2
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I thinks it's totally normal to feel that this after a loss hun. I've only had the one loss at the start of this year and I'm a wreck thinking something is wrong all the time. I can only imagine how you feel is 100 times worse. The main thing is right now your baby is doing fab and once you start feeling all those kicks your anxiety will go down a lot xxxx



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2017, 13:49 PM   3
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I hope so Kirsty I'm so desperate to feel the baby moving I'd feel a little better with that



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2017, 14:31 PM   4
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I'd say it's totally normal. I have also only had the one loss and I have a hard time letting myself think this pregnancy could possible go well. Having been through multiple losses, including a second tri loss I imagine it is really tough for you. I don't think the worry and fear will go away, but you can rest assured knowing that you are completely normal for feeling this way and that it likely will fade as you get further along.



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2017, 14:55 PM   5
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I hope so Kirsty I'm so desperate to feel the baby moving I'd feel a little better with that
hang in there hun won't be much longer xxx



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2017, 15:44 PM   6
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Thanks hopefully I feel better soon



 
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Old Aug 7th, 2017, 03:47 AM   7
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I think all we can do is take it one day at a time and hope for healthy babies. In the second trimester the chance of things going wrong is a lot lot lot less than in the first 12 weeks, although I know that doesn't stop me from worrying, but it does make me feel a bit better

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Old Aug 7th, 2017, 04:01 AM   8
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Aww hon I'm so sorry you feel like this. I think it's normal though. It's hard to not wonder what could go wrong with everything you have been through. It looks like you are due your little one around the same time as me so just focus on each day positively, don't worry about what might happen. If your ultrasounds are looking good and your midwife isn't concerned, don't focus on anything but the finish line. If you approach it on a day to day basis, it will be easier to see your goal. You will have your little one in your arms.



 
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Old Aug 7th, 2017, 13:15 PM   9
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Hi! How far along are you in your pregnancy?

I know how it feels as I am pregnant now (29 wks) and I lost my son at 33 weeks in September 2016. I wanted to get pregnant right away as I felt a part of me was lost forever and I needed to fill the void I experienced daily. I was overwhelmed when I found out I was pregnant again. I had a Pulmonary Embolism less than a month after I delivered my son stillborn so I was worried about so many things.

The best advice I can give you is this: Take this pregnancy day by day. Don't get your hopes up but don't let your loss bring you down. God has a plan and if this baby is meant to be in your arms, he or she will. The other advice I will give you is to #1 find an OB you are 100% comfortable and confident with. Schedule a visit with a peri and request blood tests, ultrasounds, etc., as often as you need to so you feel confident. My other suggestion is to by a fetal Doppler and start to use it around 12 weeks. You will notice a difference in the baby's heartbeat and yours. Don't depend entirely on the heartbeat until 14-16 weeks, though. Once you begin to feel baby's movements consistently, record them every single time if it helps you feel better. Around 18-20 weeks I started to text myself everytime I felt her and what she felt like! She is kicking now as I type!! Also, in the beginning especially, I religiously wrote in a journal about my day, how happy I was to be pregnant, any worries and fears I had, what I did that day, what I was hungry for, etc., For some reason... It made me feel better to know I was paying attention and keeping track.

I'm high risk again and I have Vasa Previa so I will be admitted to the hospital at 31-32 weeks and I will deliver her at 34-35 weeks via c-section. I've went to the hospital over throwing up one day, and I haven't hesitated to call the OB emergency line over any question I thought was or could be important. I wanted to be the crazy paranoid pregnant women because I wasn't going to let anyone except for myself rule my care this time. My baby boy would still be here if it weren't for my previous OB who ignored my concerns (partial placenta Previa at 20 wks) and he refused to order me the follow up ultrasound. I fell down 2 or 3 stairs at 31 weeks and I called the OB to tell them I had a bad migraine and severe lower back pain and I told them I could drive into their office to make sure he was okay. I was told no, no that isn't necessary and to "monitor my symptoms from home". I lost my son to a placental abruption. :/

If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to message or email me at anytime. I am starting a blog to help everyone who was went through stillbirth and for pregnant moms, nurses/doctors and those effected by stillbirth. I don't want anyone to go through what we have went through.

Please stay positive and I will pray for you and your baby!



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Old Aug 7th, 2017, 13:21 PM   10
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Also, if you or anyone who reads this is 5 or more months pregnant, I'd love handwriting samples to study. If you would like to send me your handwriting, I can analyze it and it will show me that you're pregnant (science not psychic lol). Let me know! I'm 29 weeks now so if I can do it, you can do it, too. Stay strong!



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