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Old Jan 23rd, 2018, 10:37 AM   11
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It is really nice to know we’re all in this together, although obviously it’s also horrible we are all in this position. I’m not enjoying being pregnant as I’m too worried, but if everything is okay then I am having a really easy pregnancy symptoms wise(although I do think I too had some psychological ones at the beginning!) so I should be counting my lucky stars. But it just makes me think something is wrong. I was speaking to my parents (I told my mum straightaway I was pregnant, swore her to secrecy but she told my whole family - so I was upset with her anyway) that I was upset I wasn’t having morning sickness and my mum turned round and said I’m always negative and thinking the worst and then my dad followed up by saying it was probably my anxiety that caused the previous losses!! And then when I left and was really upset they are blaming me for being sensitive and hormonal! Sorry for ranting here but I’m so annoyed - I know people who haven’t been through this don’t get it, and I know my anxiety is a massive issue (and one that didn’t start until my second miscarriage as it was very traumatic), but seriously?! And now I am second guessing whether I am being over emotional but I just think that’s a nasty thing to say.
Anyway... sorry about that!
Empty - my first hcg came back low (50) but I was just earlier than I thought and things are progressing right on track so don’t worry if it does come back low - it really is the doubling that matters. Good luck!



 
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Old Jan 23rd, 2018, 10:53 AM   12
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I am so sorry you are going through that. It is already hard enough without others adding to your stress. I had to have a heart-to-heart with my husband last night for him to be quiet and not add to my stress. LOL! Poor guy. We already have enough stress, others around us need to help with that. I know it is hard for them to understand if they have never been there. My first miscarriage was super traumatic, so I know exactly what you mean. Just try talking to them (when you aren't a hot mess) and explaining the support you need. Maybe that will help. I am sitting here biting my nails to hear the results. I know the first one doesn't really matter. The last two times, my level was never above a 7 (so really low). I am praying for something that is at least above 25. That would ease my stress a little (I think). I'll let yall know when I hear something.



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Old Jan 23rd, 2018, 11:12 AM   13
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Can you pick up some FRERs? For some reason, with this pregnancy, they made me wait 3 days before I could get a second beta so I got FRERs to get me through lol. I had cheapie tests but they arent as sensitive so the lines were super faint. Atleast the FRERs are super sensitive and you can see the line get darker much easier. That's the only way I kept my sanity



 
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Old Jan 23rd, 2018, 11:24 AM   14
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Iíll keep my fingers crossed for you
Bee Bee - do be careful with the frers as I freaked myself out as I was using them for progressions and then one went really light - I fell to pieces thinking it was over but I must have just had diluted wee as I then had betas which showed everything was normal! It was so scary! So even if you do get one a bit lighter, donít worry straight away!



 
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Old Jan 23rd, 2018, 11:33 AM   15
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Can you pick up some FRERs? For some reason, with this pregnancy, they made me wait 3 days before I could get a second beta so I got FRERs to get me through lol. I had cheapie tests but they arent as sensitive so the lines were super faint. Atleast the FRERs are super sensitive and you can see the line get darker much easier. That's the only way I kept my sanity
What is an FRER?

Nevermind- Just looked it up. I am trying to to test anymore. I have done that before and it makes me crazy. I tested a day after my first test (very faint line) and it did get significantly darker, so I am going with that I have to try and stick with the positive.



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Old Jan 23rd, 2018, 11:33 AM   16
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Old Jan 23rd, 2018, 11:36 AM   17
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Yeah, FRER is a brand essentially. First Response Early Result test. typical cheapie tests (wondfo or others you get) read 25HCG or higher while the FRERs can read as low as 6 or 7. My cheapie tests were squinters but the FRERs had a good, strong line so it just helped me feel better mentally



 
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Old Jan 23rd, 2018, 13:40 PM   18
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So many people have healthy pregnancies with no symptoms! Iíve had HE and the pregnancy actually ended in blighted ovum so even the worst symptoms doesnít mean anything really, weíve just got to stay hopeful but it is so hard after losses and itís incredibly insensitive for your mum to call you negative and for your dad to say that also, anxiety doesnít cause miscarriages! That must of been upsetting for you to listen to

Iím such a POAS addict. Iíve only done 4 tests so far but Iíve got 3 more in the cupboard itching to use them but I know I need to wait a few days if I want to see progression!



 
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Old Jan 25th, 2018, 10:35 AM   19
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So now I am really nervous. I got my levels back- 12.8. I am trying not to freak out. My husband made a good point- I tested before my missed period and my first blood sample is coming from the day I was supposed to get my period, so I am hoping that is why it is so low. Also, I did break down and take another pregnancy test and it was way darker than the first one. I want to stay positive, but my past experiences don't help at all. I read an article the other day about how women who have miscarriages are robbed of the "innocence of pregnancy". Having had a child before, I think that is so true. I had no fear with my son 6 years ago. Now, every little twinge makes me worry.



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Old Jan 25th, 2018, 10:53 AM   20
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it’s the doubling that matters so don’t give up hope yet - assuming you have a 28 day cycle you would have been tested on about 14dpo? So assuming you implanted at about 10dpo that could be about right - at 12dpo you would have been 6, and before that at 10dpo about 3 - so it really could be fine. I am hating this whole process and I got the lower end of average hcg levels at first which is really scary, but if your tests are getting darker that’s such a good sign (even though I really recommend stepping away from the sticks as mine went faint for no reason which was terrifying). Fingers crossed for you!



 
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