Meaggers- I had terrible cramping last night too! And yesterday I was told I could stop taking progesterone since the placenta is now producing the hormones. Luckily it got better after I rested and put my feet up and this morning I haven't had any more cramping. I wonder if mine was because I stopped taking them?
Hey ladies. I hope everyone is doing okay. I am at war with nature this morning and I think my allergies are getting worse every year. I love springtime and the new flowers and leaves on the trees, but my eyes are swollen so I can't see them, and my nose is plugged up so I can't smell them! I need to go to the doctor, so I may try to get there before they close today..it is an early out day for them... Good Luck on the upcoming scans!
Hi everyone! Could I please join you? I haven't dared until now as I have been to afraid to believe in this pregnancy after an 11 week MMC...but yesterday I had a 13 week scan and bean was doing great, doc thinks its a boy! We even dared to tell some friends last night after keeping it so secret for ages...
Anyway, I'm due around the 1 October, and I hope its ok to join you all on this thread?
Good luck to everyone xxx
Hello gorgeous ladies. Mind if I join? I'm 10+3 today and due 25th October.
I would really love to talk to some other pregnant ladies who understand the fears and emotions associated with pregnancy after a loss. I enjoy the first tri thread but it's just not the same. While many women on there fear m/c, if they haven't experienced it, they just don't understand.
I really need to reach out. I've been so sad today as I have been trying to hard to connect with this bub and I just can't. I'm so worried that it's because my body "knows" something is going to go wrong and is defending itself from the devastation to come. I talk about my pregnancy constantly, not to tell other people, but to try and convince myself that it's happening and I still just can't believe it. I've seen bub 5 times and listened to it's heartbeat on my home doppler yesterday. I feel like it's real while seeing/hearing it and then as soon as the device is off - nothing.
I suppose it doesn't help not being particularly sick or anything. So many women on B&B are saying "oh I'm so sick, this is awesome knowing all is well" so I feel like I'm grasping at straws. I suppose I should be thanking my severe constipation as a sign? Hahaha.
Is anyone else feeling as disconnected even though we're almost 2nd tri? I just want to cry because I feel so guilty. There is no positive to this - if the pregnancy is fine I'll feel guilty that I didn't connect earlier. If something happens to bub I'll feel guilty that I didn't love and appreciate it as much as I should of during the time that I had it.
I know the chances of loss at this stage are exceedingly low but I still worry. I don't think I could emotionally go through a loss again.
Thanks for listening ladies. That feels like a weight off my chest. Now to go have a little cry so I can continue on with my day. xxxooo
I think pregnancy after a loss is just plain hard emotionally. I feel like I am constantly waiting for something to go wrong. I keep telling myself "I'll feel better if..." but honestly I always have some sort of worry.
Not connecting with your pregnancy is not a sign something has gone wrong, it is just your body trying to avoid the emotional pain "should" something go wrong. I think we all will connect with these babies at somepoint, it just takes us longer because of our previous losses.
Oh and when I was pregnant with my son I had NO symptoms at all, except constipation which I blame solely on the vitamins. He was born full term and healthy, so no symptoms doesn't mean the worst, it is just how your body is reacting to the changes in hormones
Emerald I have felt exactly the same as you!
Isn't it funny, when you are TTC all you can think is I will only be happy when I'm pregnant again, then you get pregnant and the goalpost moves to 'I'll only be happy when I see a heartbeat', then 'I'll only be hapy at 12 weeks'...etc etc
I think Twinkie is dead right and it's how we protect ourselves. I made a deal with myself a few weeks back that if I had a good scan at 13 weeks I would start to believe in it, and even though its hard and I don't feel connected yet, I have at least started to feel a little bit of hope now.
It really does get easier as time passes, but we won't be happy until these babies are in our arms, I think that's natural after such a horrid experience.
And then I have a sneaky feeling that a whole new world of fear and worry will open up to us!
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