Terrified to feel happy.

mammag · Mar 27th, 2012, 10:24 AM

With my m/c last month, the day before I started to bleed I felt really good, I cleaned out the computer room and was generally in a good mood. Now this month, I am unexpectedly pregnant again, and so afraid. But what really sucks is when I hear an upbeat song, or just want to feel good, I'm immediately stifled by my illogical fear that a good mood comes before a miscarriage. Shit

I'm screwed up.

SabrinaKat · Mar 27th, 2012, 10:51 AM

Do you know the expression, 'hope springs eternal'? We have to have some hope amongst our worries otherwise we'd do nothing and just be depressed all the time! I was so incredibly excited when I did a pregnancy test after two years trying post-mc and it was positive, then immediately got worried. It's normal, really, for us ladies who have lost to be almost superstitious and that is how we protect ourselves, but try to take it one day at a time -- it can happen, and hopefully, this time, it will be your sticky!

best wishes

msb5 · Mar 27th, 2012, 15:43 PM

I had a mc last july, and i found out last week that i was pregnant and im so scared that something may go wrong. Trying to take one day at a time. I told my husband i didn't want to tell our family and friends till i was 20 wk.

srrhc · Mar 27th, 2012, 17:59 PM

Hey ladies. I recently had a miscarriage too. The cycle before that a chemical. I have been so sad and worried that I'll never be able to maintain a pregnancy. My doctor acts like it is nothing so I'm getting a new doctor that will show at least some concern. I know miscarriages happen but it seems like my doctor would at least want to try me out on something??? Anyways...my husband and I are going to try again and not give up. I hope I get another BFP in April, but I feel like I'd be in the same boat as you...worried about everything. Hopefully this time it will work out for all of us.

mammag · Mar 27th, 2012, 20:11 PM

Me too Srr. So sorry for your losses.

Mackerel · Mar 28th, 2012, 06:09 AM

I have been feeling exactly the same. I had a miscarriage in January, and got pregnant straight away. I am now 7W5d and have been afraid to enjoy my pregnancy in fear that I will M/c again.

I went for an early scan last friday and everything seemed to be fine in terms of size and heard a heartbeat. This has provided me with some reassurance - I dont know if this would be an option for you to help ease your mind.

After a loss I think its difficult to remove the assoication of the previous m/c - Try to take each day at a time. Miscarriages are surprisingly common, and its very likely that you will go on to have a healthy and happy pregnancy.

xx

Mar 27th, 2012, 10:24 AM	#1
mammag Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Ross, OH Posts: 9,322	Terrified to feel happy. With my m/c last month, the day before I started to bleed I felt really good, I cleaned out the computer room and was generally in a good mood. Now this month, I am unexpectedly pregnant again, and so afraid. But what really sucks is when I hear an upbeat song, or just want to feel good, I'm immediately stifled by my illogical fear that a good mood comes before a miscarriage. Shit I'm screwed up.

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Mar 27th, 2012, 10:51 AM	#2
SabrinaKat Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Transplanted American living in Ireland Posts: 4,666	Do you know the expression, 'hope springs eternal'? We have to have some hope amongst our worries otherwise we'd do nothing and just be depressed all the time! I was so incredibly excited when I did a pregnancy test after two years trying post-mc and it was positive, then immediately got worried. It's normal, really, for us ladies who have lost to be almost superstitious and that is how we protect ourselves, but try to take it one day at a time -- it can happen, and hopefully, this time, it will be your sticky! best wishes

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Mar 27th, 2012, 15:43 PM	#3
msb5 Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 6	I had a mc last july, and i found out last week that i was pregnant and im so scared that something may go wrong. Trying to take one day at a time. I told my husband i didn't want to tell our family and friends till i was 20 wk.

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Mar 27th, 2012, 17:59 PM	#4
srrhc Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Myrtle Beach,SC Posts: 2,215	Hey ladies. I recently had a miscarriage too. The cycle before that a chemical. I have been so sad and worried that I'll never be able to maintain a pregnancy. My doctor acts like it is nothing so I'm getting a new doctor that will show at least some concern. I know miscarriages happen but it seems like my doctor would at least want to try me out on something??? Anyways...my husband and I are going to try again and not give up. I hope I get another BFP in April, but I feel like I'd be in the same boat as you...worried about everything. Hopefully this time it will work out for all of us.

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Mar 27th, 2012, 20:11 PM	#5
mammag Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Ross, OH Posts: 9,322	Me too Srr. So sorry for your losses.

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Mar 28th, 2012, 06:09 AM	#6
Mackerel Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 30	I have been feeling exactly the same. I had a miscarriage in January, and got pregnant straight away. I am now 7W5d and have been afraid to enjoy my pregnancy in fear that I will M/c again. I went for an early scan last friday and everything seemed to be fine in terms of size and heard a heartbeat. This has provided me with some reassurance - I dont know if this would be an option for you to help ease your mind. After a loss I think its difficult to remove the assoication of the previous m/c - Try to take each day at a time. Miscarriages are surprisingly common, and its very likely that you will go on to have a healthy and happy pregnancy. xx

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