I'm in the UK and have similar questions (having miscarried this past weekend at 9+4). Scan on 9+6 showed only thickish lining and a clot/tissue near cervix (no sac) so unsure how far along I got.
I asked my nurse about trying next time, timing of it all, what we've learned, etc.
She advised ovulation monitoring to figure out timing as we get started (things will be 'off' a bit and so may be a bit tricky to monitor...was, for instance, the bleeding last weekend actually a period, after fetus stopped developing in, say, week 5 or 6)?
I asked about the possibility of early scans next time and/or hcg monitoring. She told me only after TWO miscarriages does the NHS care routine change. At that point, she said I'd be classified (at age 40) as a 'recurrent miscarriage' patient.
When I become pregnant again (and I do think it will happen...this was our first 'calculated' attempt and presto!, result!), we'll most definitely be paying privately to get an early scan and any other diagnostics that are available to us. We will do this not so much because we don't have faith it might just work out, but rather in case something DOES go wrong, we'll then have some information to go on because this time we have next to nothing and that's been tough...feel I'm starting afresh with very little learned, and if we are indeed joining the queue on the long and winding road to parenthood, information is what's needed, it would seem. And time is working against us.
When I hit the 11 week mark with my last pregnancy, I thought whew! I am out of the woods. But the baby had actually quit developing at 6 weeks. What a heartbreaker! We tried for several years for that baby, so I had no hope of another "miracle".
Well today I started spotting (5 days before AF is due) and immediately knew something weird was going on. And, yes, I got a BFP!!!
BUT I'm terrified!!!!!!!! I know the spotting is probably implantation, but still, I know how you feel because I'm on serious high alert!
I had a missed mc last year too. We found out we had lost the baby in June and we didn't even think about trying again until about October. It took 2 months to conceive and I am now 20 weeks pregnant and everything is fine. I had slight bleeding very early on and was convinced I was losing the baby, but it turned out to be implantation bleeding. I still feel very nervous even though we have had the 20 week scan. My only advice would be don't think about being pregnant for as long as you can when you have conceived. Keep yourself busy constantly so that you can't dwell and stress yourself out, and then when you do inevitably stress out don't blame yourself for very natural emotions. In terms of trying, my top tip is putting a cushion under your bum during!
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