I started knitting a rainbow colored blanket for my rainbow baby. It's such a wonderful way of putting it. Can I ask ladies, how long did you wait to tell people and how did you keep it a secret? I only told 2 friends. Not telling my sister and my mom hurts, but telling them would be worse. They want this badly too, and they were there with me when my daughter Amelia died. It's not that they aren't supportive, but I can't get their hopes up. What if I have a MC? What if the worst happens and this baby has trisomy 18 too. I know that chances are good that everything is okay, but I can't take the "does this pregnancy feel different" every day. I don't know how to deal with keeping this secret though. I thought I wouldn't want anyone to know and now that it's real, that there is a baby in there, I don't know. My husband and my therapist agree this should wait, but I'm going on vacation in 7 weeks and my birthday is in June, but we wouldn't tell people until after an amnio, so that means July. I am a big women, but what if I start to show earlier. Amelia was so tiny, only 1 lb. 12 oz. at birth, so I didn't show much at all. I want to just enjoy this pregnancy, whatever happens. I couldn't be happier to have this baby and I am just trying to find some way to be zen.

Viperbunny, I am so sorry for the loss of Amelia. I think it is a very personal decision. After Honey was born sleeping at 36+6, I told my family right away mainly because I was scared and she arrived safely. I then had seven first trimester miscarriages my family only knew about one, I got pregnant with Riley Rae and told them at around ten week (just immediate family so parents and siblings) but didnt tell anyone else and then she was born sleeping at 24+3 15th April, I have since had three first tri loses and again my family know about one. If I am lucky enough to have a sticky baby again then I will probably wait until 20+ weeks to tell even my closest family. Like I said it i personal, so just follow your heart x

I'm sorry for your loss I was the same as you, I wasn't going to tell anyone other than my twin sister and my friend who's also pregnant. But now I've told my Mum and other sister too. The reason being that we were scared of another ectopic, but someone explained it in a way that changed our minds. We want to be able to celebrate this baby with our nearest and dearest and enjoy the fun part. If something happens, then we have a close support group around us, if nothing does then they feel special from being involved so early.
I can totally see it from both sides, I'm sure whatever is right for you will work out

I'm sorry for your losses, I honestly don't know how you stay so strong as to keep going. I hope you have your sticky baby soon