Background: My fiance and I have been together for over two years, and have been living together the entire time. For the first week of October, I temporarily moved back to my hometown for a job and had my period the entire time, until the day I moved back in with my fiance. I never messed around while I was gone, nor have I ever messed around behind his back EVER. When I moved back, he proposed to me after he decided that it was finally time to make the big step, and we ended up conceiving about a week to two weeks after the proposal (by accident of course, we weren't trying). So here I am, a little over seven months pregnant. He's been so wonderful to me this entire pregnancy. Absolutely great. Going with me to my prenatal appointments and ultrasounds, talking to my belly, trying to get our baby girl to move around by tickling my tummy, talking to me about what kind of father he wants to be, what he wants to do with our daughter, everything's been so perfect. But something happened last night that kind of confused me. We were talking and I mentioned that I hope that she ends up getting his nose, and he kind of joked around that she's going to get some other guys nose, and how does he know if I wasn't messing around while I was gone back to my hometown. I kind of laughed it off because I know I had my period the entire time I was gone, and he knew that, and I had never messed around, and the dating is right on that we would have conceived about a week after I had moved back. I thought for a bit and remembered that my fiance was telling me that his mom told him to get a paternity test done because she doesn't trust me (she hasn't been supportive of us at all this entire time really), and I'm beginning to wonder if I should really worry, or if maybe I'm taking the joke too seriously?
Yeah she's been b**ching at him about how we're having him on the birth certificate because the state will come after him to pay for all the medical expenses apparently and she's been making snotty comments about me getting state benefits to help us get on our feet. Saying that her son/my fiance will end up paying for everything in the end. I'd get the paternity test done but it costs $900 here (which is way way way way way more than we can afford at once, even if we split the cost.) I just think its stupid. She and her daughters are throwing me a baby shower and she keeps telling me what names I should choose for our girl and telling me this and that but she just talks horribly about me behind my back to others -.-
My oh went funny when I was pregnant with our daughter, I'd never messed around so knew she was his 100% I told him if he didn't believe me he was more then welcome to have a DNA test done he didn't because the second she came out she was his double lol everyone says it aswell :P
dont know if this will help but you are due exactly 5 days before me and with mine being ivf i know the exact dates she was concieved,
i had my embryo put back on 22nd oct and it was 5 days old so therefore my ovulation date would have been 17th oct this being the date i would have concieved in a 'normal' cycle.
if you are due 5 days before me that means you must have concieved 12-13th october last year otherwise you would be due another week or so earlier if you concieved a week or so earlier. Hope that helps and doesnt confuse you x
i posted it so she can show her oh as i too would be offended if my bloke said that to me even if he were joking, if it were my oh i would just like shoving proof of dates etc in his face to shut him up.
sorry if it came across the other way
I totally see why you're upset by those comments. Neither my DH nor any of his family would ever dare say anything like that, even if it were a joke. It's extremely distasteful. Ask him if he meant what he said and if he did tell him you'd take the paternity test if he and his bitchy mother will pay for it (you shouldn't have to pay to prove yourself when you're totally innocent). I don't know if I'd stay with my DH if he made our baby have a paternity test, he'd have to beg for my forgiveness for all eternity.
@Bumski: I ended up moving back on the thirteenth, and I had literally gotten over my period the day before I had moved back, so I guess it could have been a possibility that I had concieved with my OH the night I moved back even. When I had oopsed on my birth control, I had started on it wrong so anything's possible according to my doctor. But yeah, I explained it to him, and he kind of shut up.
@NewlyWedFifi: About having my OH's mother pay for it, I was thinking the exact same thing. I'm not willing to spend any $900 just for it to come back saying that it's his, even if it broke down her huge ego once and for all. I wouldn't be against having a paternity test done, its just not very logical to me at all. If my OH ended up asking for one from me, I'd leave without a doubt. Anyone who couldn't trust that I would mess around, and especially with a baby, would have some serious ass kissing to do. If she wants to say anything to me when the baby comes, I'm just going to tell her that if I hear any comments regarding paternity, that she's still talking horribly about me, etc, she can say goodbye to being involved in my family. I'm just shocked that "family" actually acts like this these days....
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