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Old May 28th, 2016, 06:17 AM   11
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Chances are it is the first man but there is really no way to be sure. Are they aware that your not in a committed relationship with them and therefore there is a possibility you could sleep with other people?

If so I would be upfront - it's not ideal but it's nothing to be ashamed of. I know PLENTY of young people who think nothing of sleeping with different men. They are single and not in a relationship with the men so they are not doing anything wrong.

Just explain to both men that you are pregnant and there is a chance they are the father and once the baby is born yo u will do a test to confirm who is the father. These things happen.



 
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Old May 28th, 2016, 06:39 AM   12
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I agree that being upfront is the best option with the 2 guys.
Definitely a hard position to be in, but you asked for help, that shows you are strong and can handle this!! This board is full of amazing support and no judgement...



 
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Old May 28th, 2016, 08:49 AM   13
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It's most likely man#1. According to your dates you would have ovulated around April 18th, according to the ultrasound April 19th. So sex on the 15th would be the most likely day you became pregnant.

That being said, babies can measure ahead or behind so a 5 day difference isn't totally unheard of.
Getting a paternity test will be your best bet. I believe they can be done before birth through amnio or after birth through the traditional saliva test.



 
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Old May 28th, 2016, 13:40 PM   14
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Sounds like man #1. Hope you can get answers soon xx



 
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Old May 31st, 2016, 04:22 AM   15
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You will never really know unless you have a dna test, if i were you i would just be really honest with both guys, you haven't done anything wrong, its just one of those things, and hopefully both will be supportive xxx Good luck babe, h&h 9 months xxxxx



 
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Old May 31st, 2016, 06:46 AM   16
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Old May 31st, 2016, 15:27 PM   17
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Thank you for all the comments! All are kind and respectful! I was scared to post!
But I now talked to both of them...let's see what happens. For now, I am going to take care of myself because I am pregnant. Thanks for all the help!!



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Old May 31st, 2016, 15:48 PM   18
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I am so sorry you're in a position where there is uncertainty as I know how stressful that can be. I also was in your situation with my first. As much as I got judged and had to spend my entire pregnancy alone, I felt good in that at least I was honest. There is something very liberating about saying, hey, oh well, I am human! I am not perfect. I will say that things happen how they should and you will be fine no matter what! If you end up having/needing an amnio, you can also DNA test from that, but I think that gets pricey!

Now alternately, I had a friend who also found herself in this situation. She chose to lie to all ends in order to make herself "look" better and she ended up losing her child to a guy who is not even biologically related to her child! So I do believe that honesty pays off! Good luck with everything



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Old Jun 1st, 2016, 04:05 AM   19
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Guy 1. U would have ovulated around the 18th x



 
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Old Jun 7th, 2016, 15:33 PM   20
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Hi hon, no judgement at all. Difficult situation to be in. Have u considered being straight from the start with both guys. It takes two and they both knowingly didn't use protection. I know its a tricky one 😣. Was just a thought.
Going from what you said about having regular 28 day cycles , that should mean that your lp is 14 days so based on that I would agree with others Prob guy 1.
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