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Old Jan 17th, 2017, 22:11 PM   31
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My experience was different, as I was induced both times so I never went to the hospital "in labor". Obviously I could have driven myself, I may have even done so! Ours has free parking for patients.

With my first, I had a c-section and couldn't drive for 2+ weeks. Some doctors write you off it for up to 6 weeks. I was not comfortable driving very much even after my 2 weeks.

With my second, it was a VBAC with an epidural. I was walking around and fine within hours of the birth. I was in the hospital for about 36 hours after the birth. I know they made me go out in a wheelchair (although, if I'd had DD in a bucket seat instead of loose to put in a convertible, I could have walked). I would not have driven. I was still shaky feeling, either from the residual epidural, or the huge body changes, etc.

Having been there done that, I would not do it. I would find someone, you have enough time now to find someone. It would not be a huge inconvenience for a friend. No other family? Do you belong to a church or religious group?

I would not automatically assume you will be assaulted (or worse) in an uber. Many, many people use the service every day. In fact, I have not heard of any local cases, or really a large quantity of national cases, where someone was assaulted in a uber or lyft, or even a regular taxi service. They are there for a reason. I am sure you have a valid reason for your concerns though.



 
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Old Jan 17th, 2017, 22:17 PM   32
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I could not of.

Back in 1980, my mom took the bus to the hospital and walked home.



 
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Old Jan 18th, 2017, 08:06 AM   33
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I don't think I would have driven myself. Maybe it would have been possible, but definitely not pleasant. I had a delivery with an epidural and some tearing that took time to heal. I was leaving about two days after giving birth, but I was still a little dazed and sore. I remember they insisted on wheeling me down to the entrance in a wheelchair and then helping me into the car and my husband drove us home.

I know friends who live in a city without a car and they'd just take taxis to/from the hospital. Sometimes they'd borrow a friend's car. I've taken plenty of Ubers and taxis and never felt in any danger, but I understand your desire to be cautious if it makes you personally uncomfortable. Mostly my drivers have just been focused on getting where they need to go -- it's just a job. The worst thing that's ever happened to me is making awkward small talk or suspecting the driver might be taking me on a slightly longer route than necessary when I'm in a new city.

My husband and I have also taken taxis when traveling with our son. We just pop the car seat in the backseat and all's well.

This is a pretty common issue, plenty of people don't have cars or don't drive, so I bet you can find a lot of wonderful advice online and from your medical professionals. I really hope you find a solution that feels best for you! You deserve to have peace of mind about the logistics, giving birth is big enough.



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2017, 07:23 AM   34
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I hope you won't be offended if I'm blunt here. I think planning to drive yourself is a terrible idea for several reasons. Driving in labour is definitely not a good plan. Labour unpredictable, a contraction might suddenly be much worse than previous ones or your waters might break or you might be sick out of nowhere. There are way too many things that could distract you or make you move suddenly or uncontrollably. Plus you go into a sort of primal state and your reflexes and general attention most definitely won't be what you need to be a safe driver. You'd be putting yourself and your baby and also other drivers at risk. Not to mention that I'm fairly sure you'd lose your licence or worse if you were stopped. For getting to the hospital, a taxi would be a much better option, or phone an ambulance! Driving yourself if you're in established labour would be pretty irresponsible.
Getting home really depends on how your birth went. If you had any anaesthetic or pain meds, you'll likely not be allowed to drive. If you've had a natural birth, you might be fine. But with a first baby, it's pretty likely that you'll be exhausted after possibly a few days without any decent sleep and again, you won't be safe driving. So I'd make alternative arrangements. It's just not worth the risk of killing yourself and baby or someone else on the road.

What's wrong with a taxi? And if you really don't want to take one, could you ask one of your mum's friends? Or even take public transport?



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Old Jan 19th, 2017, 08:50 AM   35
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Because you have no idea how the birth will pan out, I think a taxi is the obvious answer. Not really sure why you're so against the idea. If you can't get a ride with a friend, it seems to be the safest option for you and baby.



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Old Jan 19th, 2017, 20:00 PM   36
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Ok, so, I don't like Uber partly cuz of all the sexual assaults I've heard about. And did no one hear about the Uber driver who went on a shooting rampage between fares in Michigan a while ago? Also, they're taking jobs away from actual cab drivers. Most Uber drivers already have jobs. They're just Ubering to make a little extra money, but they usually don't have to adhere to the same guidelines as cab drivers. There have actually been protests and physical altercations over the issue in Toronto, which is right beside me. So, I'd never take an Uber for those reasons.

And then I don't wanna take a cab home cuz bringing your baby home should be a sweet experience. I don't wanna get jolted around in the smelly backseat of someone else's car, surround by who knows how many germs, and going at a very inappropriate speed for a newborn. Plus, I'm probably gonna end up as a single mom. I'd rather spend the money on diapers than transportation. I really would much rather walk.

I know you all mean well with your advice, and you obviously have the experience to know what you're talking about when it comes to pain, but I was asking if you COULD HAVE, and not looking for alternative options. I don't know what to expect pain-wise, but you guys have no idea what I'm capable of tolerating.



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2017, 21:05 PM   37
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Almost everybody in this thread said that they could not or would not though. So we were trying to be helpful and offer our experiences and other alternatives that way you could have the time to make up a backup plan. What will you do if you need a c-section? I'm sure you absolutely know your pain tolerance but you have never given birth before, it's a one of a kind pain.

We just care about you and your child-to-be's well being.



 
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Old Jan 21st, 2017, 12:56 PM   38
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Thing is you may well be able to tolerate pain but things don't always go to plan. Especially with first babies. So many women have to be induced, which often ends up in c section, epidurals etc.

I think you're better off arranging for transport, one way or another.



 
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Old Jan 21st, 2017, 13:43 PM   39
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Pain also won't be the main issue. It'll be the physical and mental exhaustion that'll make you unsafe to drive plus you might not be legally allowed to if you've had certain drugs. It's not just about whether you can get home, it's about whether you can do it safely and with two very straight forward births under my belt and having seen many other women in the first days after birth, I'd say that's very unlikely. It's not just about your safety or even baby's. What if you hit someone? I understand your reluctance to take a taxi but I think this is just one of the first of many, many occasions where as a parent you just have to suck it up and do the responsible thing. Your baby in a car seat in a taxi will be indefinitely safer than with you driving so soon after giving birth, and everyone else will be as well.



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Old Jan 21st, 2017, 20:37 PM   40
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Labor is unpredictable and every pregnancy is different.
So the answer to you question is no. You're not going to be capable of driving before or after delivery.
When you gave birth, your hormones starts to drop and you mind probably are going to be settle in your baby (which means you're going to be distracted for a couple of days or even weeks)
Trust us on this: the pain you're going to feel is way to different of any kind of pain you have felt before.



 
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