My pregnancy phobia

Emma12 · Jan 19th, 2017, 04:19 AM

Hi there,
I am in the 3rd-trimester pregnancy. This is my first time, I am very much tensed and worried. I am happy but my tension is high. I can't withstand it at sometimes. I feel like I am standing in the fire and heart beats fast. I don't know how to control my fear. I tried to listen to music but I am able to concentrate on the songs. My mind always thinks about the pregnancy pain and procedures. How can I overcome this fear? Would there be a change if I go for any prenatal classes? My husband is asking me to participate in pregnancy programs. I think he is too worried about seeing me in this condition.

comeondance77 · Jan 19th, 2017, 08:58 AM

I'm sorry you're having such anxiety about it. I can't really offer you any advice since I'm also in the 3rd trimester of my first pregnancy. I haven't started freaking out about it yet. Probably because I keep myself pretty busy worrying about other things, but I think it might be a good idea to take some classes though. Maybe they will help take some of the anxiety away by walking you through the procedures and maybe there will be others there in the same boat as you. That's what I would do anyway.

SweetPea3200 · Jan 19th, 2017, 14:03 PM

Aww I'm sorry you're dealing with this anxiety. Is it the labour pain and procedures you're worrying about? Are you hoping to do it naturally or are you planning on getting an epidural? Either way, no matter what happens you'll be just fine! It's only one day (hopefully only a few hours) and then it's over and you have your bundle of joy

That totally sounds like a cliche but I promise it's true. I had my babe naturally and it for sure sucked but I lived and if it was that bad, I would have asked for drugs!

Emma12 · Jan 19th, 2017, 21:33 PM

I want it in a natural way. I wonder how many hours do I have to bear the pain? Really I don't think I can withstand the pain.

SweetPea3200 · Jan 19th, 2017, 22:59 PM

If you can't then you can't. No biggie. But I bet you can! I was surprised that I could. The really bad part was only about an hour and a half for me but it depends on the person. Just make sure your doctor is aware that your nervous and to take things slow if possible. My understanding is that it's harder if things go faster because you don't have time to adjust to the new levels of pain. Also artificial contractions from being induced can be a lot more intense so that's something to be aware of too. But There's Noooo shame in needing some pain management. It doesn't make you any less of a mom or any less amazing then the next woman giving birth. You'll do so great! I was terrified too but I wish I spent more time researching newborns than I did birth and labour.

xdxxtx · Jan 20th, 2017, 03:27 AM

I got an epidural the first time. It just got in the way. I've had pitocin deliveries most of the time without any pain relief. It's not that bad. Your body is producing so much oxytocin once you're in labor (even on pitocin) that it gives you a natural feeling of calmness and love. Having your partner hold you and Rub your back and avoiding laying flat on your back helps an awful lot. I understand being scared. I was sooooo scared when pregnant with my first, but I went into my second delivery with no fear. I went into my subsequent deliveries with no fear. Sometimes, you need to experience it on your own to just understand how you can be in so much pain but be okay and happy that you're about to hold your sweet baby. I have very long labors, most of which lasting over 20 hours, and I approve this message.

mara16jade · Jan 20th, 2017, 04:16 AM

I was so nervous and scared with my first pregnancy! But I can honestly say, it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it was going to be. I got the epidural when I was about 6cm dilated (and that only took about 2.5 hours from arriving at the hospital). And from there...easy going waiting.and mostly enjoying labor. I could feel when to push, I did 3 different birthing positions (on my back, on my side and squatting using a birthing bar - on my back was my favorite). He popped out, and about 2 hours later I was up and walking and used the bathroom.

I know it's easy to say, but try not to be too scared. And know that pain medication is there to help you! Some women don't dilate when they're under so much stress and pain. Just go with the flow, and if you need pain medication, go for it. This is supposed to be one of the most memorable moments in your life. Don't let pain consume you.

Emma12 · Feb 22nd, 2017, 03:08 AM

I feel like my hands are shaking and cold air is passing through my body.

Emma12 · Feb 23rd, 2017, 21:42 PM

I got an idea to avoid my excessive tension. Whenever I get fear I watch baby's fun videos, that make me happy and I forget about my fear.

BabyGirl999 · Feb 24th, 2017, 04:04 AM

You will be fine, I promise. If you are able to relax your body and go limp during labour contractions I promise you, the pain will be bearable. Practice relaxing your whole body and breathing slowly. It will be worth every second, this is the best thing you will ever do.

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Emma12 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 13	My pregnancy phobia Hi there, I am in the 3rd-trimester pregnancy. This is my first time, I am very much tensed and worried. I am happy but my tension is high. I can't withstand it at sometimes. I feel like I am standing in the fire and heart beats fast. I don't know how to control my fear. I tried to listen to music but I am able to concentrate on the songs. My mind always thinks about the pregnancy pain and procedures. How can I overcome this fear? Would there be a change if I go for any prenatal classes? My husband is asking me to participate in pregnancy programs. I think he is too worried about seeing me in this condition.

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BabyGirl999 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: N Ireland Posts: 675	You will be fine, I promise. If you are able to relax your body and go limp during labour contractions I promise you, the pain will be bearable. Practice relaxing your whole body and breathing slowly. It will be worth every second, this is the best thing you will ever do.

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comeondance77 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2016 Location: Minnesota Posts: 43	I'm sorry you're having such anxiety about it. I can't really offer you any advice since I'm also in the 3rd trimester of my first pregnancy. I haven't started freaking out about it yet. Probably because I keep myself pretty busy worrying about other things, but I think it might be a good idea to take some classes though. Maybe they will help take some of the anxiety away by walking you through the procedures and maybe there will be others there in the same boat as you. That's what I would do anyway.

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SweetPea3200 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 1,093	Aww I'm sorry you're dealing with this anxiety. Is it the labour pain and procedures you're worrying about? Are you hoping to do it naturally or are you planning on getting an epidural? Either way, no matter what happens you'll be just fine! It's only one day (hopefully only a few hours) and then it's over and you have your bundle of joy That totally sounds like a cliche but I promise it's true. I had my babe naturally and it for sure sucked but I lived and if it was that bad, I would have asked for drugs!

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Emma12 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 13	I want it in a natural way. I wonder how many hours do I have to bear the pain? Really I don't think I can withstand the pain.

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SweetPea3200 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 1,093	If you can't then you can't. No biggie. But I bet you can! I was surprised that I could. The really bad part was only about an hour and a half for me but it depends on the person. Just make sure your doctor is aware that your nervous and to take things slow if possible. My understanding is that it's harder if things go faster because you don't have time to adjust to the new levels of pain. Also artificial contractions from being induced can be a lot more intense so that's something to be aware of too. But There's Noooo shame in needing some pain management. It doesn't make you any less of a mom or any less amazing then the next woman giving birth. You'll do so great! I was terrified too but I wish I spent more time researching newborns than I did birth and labour.

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xdxxtx Other BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: East Coast, USA Posts: 9,658	I got an epidural the first time. It just got in the way. I've had pitocin deliveries most of the time without any pain relief. It's not that bad. Your body is producing so much oxytocin once you're in labor (even on pitocin) that it gives you a natural feeling of calmness and love. Having your partner hold you and Rub your back and avoiding laying flat on your back helps an awful lot. I understand being scared. I was sooooo scared when pregnant with my first, but I went into my second delivery with no fear. I went into my subsequent deliveries with no fear. Sometimes, you need to experience it on your own to just understand how you can be in so much pain but be okay and happy that you're about to hold your sweet baby. I have very long labors, most of which lasting over 20 hours, and I approve this message.

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mara16jade Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: So. California Posts: 12,355	I was so nervous and scared with my first pregnancy! But I can honestly say, it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it was going to be. I got the epidural when I was about 6cm dilated (and that only took about 2.5 hours from arriving at the hospital). And from there...easy going waiting.and mostly enjoying labor. I could feel when to push, I did 3 different birthing positions (on my back, on my side and squatting using a birthing bar - on my back was my favorite). He popped out, and about 2 hours later I was up and walking and used the bathroom. I know it's easy to say, but try not to be too scared. And know that pain medication is there to help you! Some women don't dilate when they're under so much stress and pain. Just go with the flow, and if you need pain medication, go for it. This is supposed to be one of the most memorable moments in your life. Don't let pain consume you.

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Emma12 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 13	I feel like my hands are shaking and cold air is passing through my body.

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Emma12 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 13	I got an idea to avoid my excessive tension. Whenever I get fear I watch baby's fun videos, that make me happy and I forget about my fear.

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