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Old Sep 2nd, 2017, 15:41 PM   11
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There never is a "perfect" time.

Before DS1, we talked about it for a very long time....not enough time, money, job security, support...there seemed to be many reasons to wait. In the end, we came to the conclusion that we just had to go for it. Otherwise, we'd simply keep talking about it for the next decade, because there never would be the perfect time.

This time around, age is a big factor. We can't afford to leave it too much longer because I'm 2 years from 40 now. DS1 is also starting school, so we don't have nursery fees any more (a big reason for us not to have a second child yet).

MelissayLynn - Good luck with medschool!

Whackymom - I'm sorry that your colleague felt that he could judge you. This decision is solely between you and your husband, and made in the best interests of your family. I know it hurts, but please ignore any such reactions. They have absolutely nothing to do with you.

MindUtopia - I'm in the same boat. I waited until I finished a 7 year PhD to have DS1 (was 33 at the time). I'm now a Research Associate, and my current funding stream runs out around the time that baby is due. I don't know what is going to happen after that. With DS1, I only took 3 months maternity leave, but plan to have close to a year this time around. I'm trying not to dwell too much on finances, because I get incredibly nervous.
I know that my boss is going to be unhappy when I tell him (which will probably have to be soon, given the nature of the work), but this is our decision. We're not going to do this again, so I plan to enjoy it as much as I can.

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