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Old Sep 20th, 2008, 06:49 AM   1
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Last names/Birth certificate?


Me and my OH live together but arent married. Not sure we will ever be married to be honest. I always thought that I wanted the baby to have his last name but recently I think I have changed my mind. What happens if my some miracle we do end up married and I want the baby to have his name?

Could I get it officially changed on the birth certificate?



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Old Sep 20th, 2008, 06:54 AM   2
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i dont thnk you can have the birth cert changed, but yiou can change his/her namr by deed pole



 
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Old Sep 20th, 2008, 06:58 AM   3
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Apparently the dads name always goes on. But I want mine in there also, only on the birth cert though as we arnt married either. I know people who change their names without deed pole! my mate has two second names, he uses his mums maiden name and then sometimes the dads. Not sure why but he has two second names.



 
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Old Sep 20th, 2008, 13:45 PM   4
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Apparently the dads name always goes on. But I want mine in there also
Nope....dad's name doesn't have to go on at all. You can give baby whatever name you like.

If you're not married, Dad also has to be at the registry office with you to put his name on the certificate. If you're married he doesn't need to be there.



 
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Old Sep 20th, 2008, 14:38 PM   5
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Me and my DP aren't married either, we're planning on doing it at some point when we get round to it. After lots of discussions on the subject we've decided to go double barrelled so LO will have both our surnames then when we get married we'll take each others surnames too so eventually we'll all have the same double barrelled surname.

I didn't want to change my surname unless DP was too and I didn't want LO to not have my name so this way works well for us. DPs mum said that she think that the mothers name has to come first in double barrelled names and I don't want that as it doesn't sound as nice so am going to look into that.

Re your original question I think you can change the name of your child when you do get married but not officially so, for example, your son / daughter can have it's new name on it's exercise books but not on the register and the birth certificate would stay the same. Think that's until they can change their own name at 16.

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Old Sep 20th, 2008, 15:40 PM   6
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The law is changing so that the father has to be listed on the birth certificate, but you can name the child what ever you want; your surname, the father's, double-barrelled, something else entirely! (The certificate will have both parents' names and the child's name, previously the father could be left off.)

If you do get married, and you decide that you want to change yours and the child's name you can do this very easily for pretty much all casual use. I know that you can have a different name on your passport to that on your birth certificate if you can demonstrate reasonable grounds for a change, such as a marriage certificate. The once your passport has been changed all other official use can follow. If a woman can do this for herself after marriage I see no reason why the same couldn't be done for a child.

I knew lots of people back in school whose mums remarried and the kids names changed on all school registers etc, apparently automatically. My (half) brother took my dad's name without having to jump through hoops. I think my mum had to write a letter to the passport office explaining. She did this for me too when I wanted my middle name on my passport - it isn't on my birth certificate.

Elm: When double barrelling you can put the names whichever way around you want.

I kept my name exactly as it was when I got married, including the title: Ms. The child(ren) will have my surname. My hubby doesn't like his surname much, whereas I have very strong feelings about keeping my family name running. He will probably never change his name by deed poll, but he doesn't mind if teachers etc assume he is Mr [my surname].



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Old Sep 20th, 2008, 15:57 PM   7
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Ive always thought it was pretty standard that if you're with someone, and you two have a baby, the baby takes the dad's last name. I would do that simply because if you do get married, it would be strange if your last name, and your husbands last name were different than your child's last name. Or, you could always do double barreled. whichever!



 
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Ive always thought it was pretty standard that if you're with someone, and you two have a baby, the baby takes the dad's last name. I would do that simply because if you do get married, it would be strange if your last name, and your husbands last name were different than your child's last name. Or, you could always do double barreled. whichever!
Maybe it's different in the USA, but from my experience here in the UK, it's more common for unmarried couples to give the child the mother's surname, or double barrel them.



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Ive always thought it was pretty standard that if you're with someone, and you two have a baby, the baby takes the dad's last name. I would do that simply because if you do get married, it would be strange if your last name, and your husbands last name were different than your child's last name. Or, you could always do double barreled. whichever!
Maybe it's different in the USA, but from my experience here in the UK, it's more common for unmarried couples to give the child the mother's surname, or double barrel them.
You don't have to take your husbands name if you marry either. I know a married couple, the boy took the fathers surname and the girl the mothers. They just had 2 surnames in that household.



 
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Old Sep 20th, 2008, 16:36 PM   10
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We definitely couldnt have double barreled. Poor child would be called Micklewright-Wright... or Wright-Micklewright. I couldnt do that to him/her!



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