I am almost 11 weeks pregnant with a planned baby, but since 6 weeks I have had hyperemesis. It has taken its toll on my marriage as my husband is used to me doing everything for him so now he's having to do it all himself he feels as though I'm horrible to him. He resents me for disrupting his life so much. I am going to stay with my parents for a week and then my friend for a week but my husband has asked me to not come back.
Maybe he will change his tune but just in case, my problem is this.. I am unemployed, I have no money (he controls it all) and nowhere to live (my relationship with my parents isn't great and I can't stay at my poor friends all the time). Is there some sort of help for people in my situation? I'm in the UK.
Also, can I move my maternity care between counties (my family and friends live 150 miles away)?
Funny thing is, on the surface my life looks perfect - I'm married, have my own house, have given up work to start a family, but instead I'm puking my guts up all day every day, my marriage is a wreck and I need a place to stay!!
*Huggs*. I am so sorry. I don't know what your laws are like in the UK, but in the US, I would tell you to get a lawyer, and get copies of as many financial records as you can. Here, you are entitled to 1/2 of the net assets, but I am not sure about there.
I am so sorry you are going through this HUGS xxxx I have had it since 7 weeks, and let alone going through what you are going through. If you have paid enough NI contributions i thibk you should get ESA- which I believe is £60-something a week.You still have to get a sick certificate from your Dr.This is in England I am unsure about other parts of the UK.
I am sorry but I don't know about other benefits or about moving maternity care, hopefully someone who knows a bit more can help you.
I would speak to your midwife, she may be able to point you in the right direction and I'm sure she'll be able to help with moving your care. Also have they given you any tablets for your hyperemesis because if they aren't working you may need to change them.
*hugs* Sorry you're having such a rough time hun.... I do know it's pretty straight forward to change your antenatal care over, my SIL moved from Cheshire to Ipswich at 8.5 months pregnant & all was switched over v.smoothly.
Speak to your local council re:housing as you may need to go on a waiting list etc.
Again, I know nothing about UK laws, but I did find this online, from a UK website:
Much here will depend on how the property is owned and whether it is in joint names. It can also be affected by any prenuptial or co-habiting agreement drawn up when you first acquired the property. Basically, if you are married you have a right of occupation. Whether or not your name is on the deeds, you have the right to live there and not to be excluded, for instance by the other party changing the locks.
In any situation, if your partner is trying to force you out of the house you should take legal advice straight away.
He CAN NOT just 'kick you out' because he doesn't want to play at marriage anymore. Sorry, it doesn't work like that. He AlSO isn't entitled to all of your savings/income/assets because he has controlled it in the past. You have contributed to the household/income too - even if it is just by working at home. If he is going to be a total jackass and try to throw you out when you are pregnant with HIS baby, then you need to stand up for your and your baby's rights. He doesn't just get whatever he wants in a situation like this, unless you let him.
Your husband is being incredibly selfish kicking his pregnant wife out of her own house, without any money !! I agree you should stand up and try to make him understand how unreasonable he is being, if he is unhappy he is the one who should give you some space. Not you !! Maybe he is scared of changes but that doesn't excuse him. Try to talk to him, hopefully that will put some sense into his head. Good luck xx
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