I want the exact same things, even looked into an unassisted birth so OH could catch the baby. I want as few people visiting as possible in the first few weeks and just OH at the birth center. My sister and best friend want to be at birth center when LO is born, but we are not going to call them until later, I don't want anyone there. I might let OH's parents come right after, but am still thinking it over. You can decide whatever you want!
We have basically said that we will not be having any visitors at the hospital..unless i will be in longer than normal (hospital tends to discharge after about 8 hours with all being well). I have also said we would like 2 or 3 days at home with no visitors to settle and bond however I realise I may want to show my LO off so have said I will invite people over if we feel ready before that for a little cuddle and that if people turn up unannounced/uninvited..i will disappear upstairs with the bambino...might sound harsh but I have a very large family and if i don't set rules, they will just take the pee
Thankfully my OH fully supports me with this and I think he is looking forward to the family time with our new little unit we can always change our minds when the time comes
I didn't want anyone visiting while in the hospital, and told everyone as soon as I told them I was pregnant. With DD we were staying with my parents when I went into labour, so obviously I didn't have a choice but to let family see her right away.
With this pregnancy we have our own place, but I've already told DH I want time for ourselves first. If I have a hospital birth, no-one will be allowed to come visit again. If I have a home birth I'll call MIL to let her know when I'm up to her visiting, as she'll have DD. I want DD to see the baby before anyone else of the family though.
My parents will, I assume, be flying over from Holland once I've given birth. Not sure if they'll already be here when I give birth or if they'll arrive after. Obviously I can't keep them away for days, and I wouldn't want to. I want at least a few hours with just DH, DD and the new baby though. I'm sure everyone will understand.
I do agree with those who have said to set the rules as early as possible. I like the sound of '30 minutes visiting'
Maybe my pregnancy hormones havent kicked in yet (9 weeks), or its just my situation. But honestly, i would love to have as many visitors and family around as possible. I want to celebrate this time with my loved ones.
My hubby will be deploying, so he won't be here. This is my first baby, and a little scare to be left alone with a newborn. I welcome all and welcome advice (though i may not take it). There will be plenty of time after the mad 2 weeks (or so) rush for it to be just baby and me.. as im going to quit my job and be a stay at home mom.
My mum will be in the room when baby is born and OH's parents will be in the waitin room so obviously they will all see the baby at the hospital.
When I get home I would love to be able to spend time alone with just me, OH and baby but I'm not going to have a chance to do that at all because I live at home with my mum and OH lives with his parents, so wherever we are there will be family too. I've only just realised this after reading this thread actually which has kind of bothered me
Family and very close friends can come after a few days if they like. Evryone else can wait
I think its personal choice but you are definately not crazy!
I definately wouldnt want parents at the birth (mine or his) as despite being very close to both sets the idea of it creeps me out but I would definately want my parents and my sister to visit in the hospital as soon as the baby is here. Dont really care how many people handle the baby TBH particularly as it gets older. I dont want my baby being clingy with me or crying its eyes out when other people hold him/her. x
I dont really want family going made at hospital this time. Last time there was always some one with oh and I never got proper time to see him or time as a family. I think this time we will just have my parents maybe the day after and then people around when im home and settled. It will be different this time as oh will be looking after my lo but when he can see me i dont want family taking over and then moaning afterwards that we used them to get us out of hospital xx
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