im getting it from Argos £300 is $479

im geting a car set and pram combo for £180 (thats $287)
that leaves £120 ($191) for extra little things

Ohhh gotcha...
I think moms are just like that. My mom says the same thing to me that I need to save money. It's like lady don't worry about me okay. I got this,

It is 100% not a selfish thing to do. As you have money already saved and have baby things anyway, heck, I'd probably have spent the whole £500 on a PC. Just because you're pregnant it does not mean you can't buy things for yourself. I worked for my money, first spent it on baby things and once that was done then started treating myself again, so we are in the same boat...well... kind of.
In this age where technology is such a pivotal part of everyday life, a PC is not an outrageous spend.

my sister says things that drive me mad.

these are my second babies and obviously with twins things cost double.

she compares everything i get or like to what her friend has for her son, bare in ,ind her friend doesnt work ives with her parents and is a single mam but manages to buy her 1 yr old hugo boss cothes. why?????

so if i say i like something in next or mpothercare shell say-well natalie paid this much for her babies coat etc etc etc.

she wants to buy my bath and change mat etc so ive told her to just get a simple white one nothing flash and her response is-well i want to get the same as i got natalie cos hers was £30, im not buying cheap shit. It a bath for gods sake and also my bloody babies!!!!

so yes i get annoyed too. she was the same when i got married last yr, was a pain in the ass, moaned anout everything, hated her dress, shoes, complained non stop.
shes 21 but acts younger and has a lot to learn in life.

as they say you can choose yr friends.

Go treat yourself. It's not like you'll be blowing all of the money on some extravagent nothing and as you pointed out, you'll still have enough to buy the baby what it needs.
It would be different if you were hurting for money and wouldn't be able to buy your LO anything.

def treat yourself!my OH is paying for me to get massages, and my parents keep buying me little presents to cheer me up(ive had a rough time recently) also mum announced she wants to buy the cot or travel system and OHs parents will buy the thing she doesnt (iykwim?) my friend also wants to get something like a cot or changing unit for us. we r very lucky....helps tho cause we are also very broke :s (i was made redundant recently, got a new job but can only work PT due to disability, and this was a month after we bought our first house) eek... but youre doing nothing wrong!also a laptop will let u access help and support for raising your child as well as fun and educational activities when they are older, so its for both of you

HA! even if you were buying yourself a purse WHO CARES! I treat myself all the time. I have a 4 year old son and he has everything he needs and more, I will always take care of my child, but I also work hard and take care of myself too.

If you figure you can afford it, then go for it, you're an adult and can make your own decisions

We bought a new laptop a few weeks ago with our birthday money (mine and oh's birthdays are 3 days apart), we have a bit of money saved too but not much (yet), and no one said anything which is the way it should be tbh. Oh's parents even said that we may as well have bought it now since when LO is here we won't have the spare cash to do so, which is exactly what we thought as well. Just ignore them, you know what you're doing and if you want a new pc then go for it, better to get it now when you have the time/money to iykwim.

Things people have said that have upset you?

This really upset me, the other day I bumped into a neighbour out shopping and she asked if I knew what I was having and I replied "im having a baby girl" and she straight away said "oh poor you, my daughter is a nightmare or maybe its just the 2nd child thing" and I said "dont feel sorry for me my daughters are wonderful & I wouldnt change them for the world, have a nice day" I dont think she will be talking to me anymore and I dont care to talk to her either. And what really anoyed me even more was that her gorgeous 4yr old daughter was right next to her, imagine how her daughter will feel hearing comments from her mother like that, how negative

Anyway there's my rant!

By the way its your money so you are entitled to do what you want, its not like your spending it on gambling, drugs, alcohol, you know what I mean.

thank yuou al for replying i feel much better now.
my mother is wonderfull she hasnt demanded to be at the birth or brought me things without asking or acted like i know a few peoples moms have by inviting herself over after the birth so i really cant fault her for one slip up. she is so used to moaning at me and it going in one ear and out the other that i think she does it as more of a joke these days as she knows i dont listen (i quite often say the nag she is going to say before she has said it and we both laugh) but i suppose ive been more fragile recently with hormones etc and i suppose she may not realise that things that id usually take with a pinch of salt are getting to me.
anyway feel free to ad your own things that sum1 may have said to you as the above poster has done so we can all get this stuff of our chest.

in reply to the above poster i think thats quite rude to her own daughter and to you. id forget she said it and not talk to her in future if she says stuff like that a lot it would be horrible if she said it in front of your LO.
i think quite a lot of mums say things to pregnant women thinking they are helping or warning when in fact it makes things worse.
i could certainly do without the 2 friends of mine who dont breastfeed telling me i wont be able to it because its too hard i wonder how they would feel if i said no i will be able to you just didnt try hard enough? i totaly understand if you dont want to breastfeed thats fine but dont make a task that can be quite daunting harder by ruining someones confidence before they have even tried.

ohh rant over