ive had so many comments that have annoyed or upsett me but the other day i mentioned to my mom that i was taking out the £500 bond that my grandma gave me when i was born and i was using £200 to get myself a new pc for my birthday as this one is old (running windowds 2000 IE6 and flash player 10) and i was putting the other £300 into my baby fund. now i wouldnt be buying a pc if i thought it would mean my baby would go without and i thought putting the other £300 into my baby fund was a responsible thing to do but she acted like i havent thought about how much a baby will cost and like im immature she is usually so nice
i dont understand and its made me quite sad we allready have a cot,pram,moses basket,sterilizer and lots of clothes and more money saved
i guess i just need someone to tell me if im being selfish wanting to get myself something nice and its not like its a £200 handbag this pc really isnt going to last much longer and with a baby on the way i like to be able to get on the internet to find out important info on pregnancy and babies
has anyone else had something they have decided to do shot down by someone and can anyone tell me if i really am being selfish?
thankyou for taking the time to read a long post
You dont sound selfish at all!! You seem to be organized for your baby and you sound very responsable.My Mum tends to say things without thinking first and it upsets me but she doesnt mean to be mean sometimes its just the older generation they have different thoughts and opinions, I know when I was growing up Mum and dad did it tough sometimes and now they dont want my family and I to have to go thru that so they like to comment on the money I spend on things and how much Im saving!I know they mean well.Dont let it bother you relax and enjoy you pregnancy
thankyou for posting i think i knew it was silly of me to be upsett about it but its been making me so sad ill blame it on the hormones lol. im glad im not going mad and sum1 agrees with me. its so wierd that when you get pregnant that people start to say things to you without really thinking im sure normally my mom wouldnt have said anything about me buying a pc. but then again people dont usually ask me what im planning to do with my boobs and now its are you going to breastfeed? lol
You're not being selfish! You have enough time to go baby shopping! Mine's due in 20 days and my birthday is coming up in a 9 days. I guarantee that no body's gonna get me anything, everything will go to my baby.
You have plenty of time to get stuff for the baby, I would get something for yourself too I don't think it's selfish. Mommas need to be spoiled too I haven't really bought too much for my baby and I'm due in 8 weeks lol.
I don't mean this to sound bad but why is it, because we're having babies, we have to stop treating ourselves!?
I often get sly remarks from family members and some friends when I have gotten myself something new, I know I have everything LO needs for the first few weeks of his life, and I know he won't go without, but I feel so bad now If I go out and treat myself.
Whenever I do get myself something, or treat myself, I ALWAYS buy something for LO as I feel I need to, to be able to justify buying what I got myself.
My nan thinks I'm daft
But you're not selfish at all.
Even if you spent the full £500 on yourself, by the sounds of it, it's money your nan give to you... But it's fab that you're putting Money away for LO too.
Don't feel bad at all
None of us needs to justify anything. It's your money do do with whatever you please. You're an adult, maybe it's time she figured that out.
Sorry to be so blunt, but I find that parent's have a hard time adjusting to the fact that their kids grow up and make their own decisions...lol. We lost a pregnancy/baby in late 2010 and my Mom came to stay with us because she felt like I needed her. I told her that I needed to deal with my issues on my own and didn't want her to come and she still came anyway... She also followed me around and redid everything I did, because it wasn't done her way... haha. When I asked her to leave 5 days later (after she had spent $1500 and flown 5500km to see me), she was none too pleased. She did, however, learn her lesson. I am an adult and need to be treated as such.
thankyou everyone its nice to know im not in the wrong here
like one of the previoust posters said this money was from my nan when i was born and i will be doing the same for my LO when he is born and i want him to spend it on whatever he wants to that will make him happy so i feel i should do the same
considering im only using less than half of it on my self i cant see why she was funny about it £300 pounds is still enough for me to buy the pram, car seat and extra little things that i have allready got my eyes on
we allready have clothes, a cot, a moses basket, a steriliser and bottles, nappies and a few other bits and bobs and i have 4 months yet and with the £300 and my current savings i have £800 in total and im still adding to that monthly so by the time baby is here i should have gotten all the essentials
anyone else had a similar experience where they have mentioned something to a familly member who has acted like you are mad?
My family's all crazy and everything I do apparently affects them personally. Of course it doesn't, but it really doesn't matter. Ignore them and do what's best for you. Moms in particular struggle with keeping their mouths shut, so just do what you have to do.
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