Issues with OH

Stoke93 · Mar 28th, 2012, 20:50 PM

I'm not sure if this is normal or not, but I'm 33 weeks (nearly 34), I newly turned 18 and my OH is now 31. He's very excited for our son to be born so all is good in that aspect. We have been together for almost 2 years now with no bumpy periods. We have what i would imagine to be a perfect relationship, he's a great provider treas me like a princess 100% of the time. The only issue we are having at the moment is that he seems to have lost his sex drive quite a bit. We were having sex 2 times a day and now it seems to have diminished to 2 times a week. He doesn't initiate it anymore and while I have a high sex drive, he doesn't. Would this be due to the pregnancy or something else? Has anyone else had anything like this?

Dalila · Mar 28th, 2012, 22:20 PM

He might feel awkward my OH was like this

MrsSpunky · Mar 29th, 2012, 03:38 AM

Could be just that your pregnant my oh was scared of hurting the baby. Xxx

Belie · Mar 29th, 2012, 05:33 AM

I'd say it's just because of how far along you are in your pregnancy. Many males get kinda scared about hurting the baby or putting you in to pre-term labour around this time x

jenfirstbaby · Mar 29th, 2012, 09:48 AM

I have the total opposite problem , it's me that has went off it!

Like literally could count in once had how many times we have had sex since christmas.

It might be that he's scared of hurting the baby., or maybe he doesnt think you will be in to it? I think this is quite a common issue in pregnancy! I've heard alot of people say they're OH has gone off sex xx

Rigi.kun · Mar 30th, 2012, 01:42 AM

I don't know you guys from a bar of soap.

From the little information you've given it's probably that he's concerned for you and baby. It's most likely prenatal anxiety on his behalf, a lot of guys get it, but they don't speak about it.

My partner went off sex when he was being unfaithful.

Sunshine12 · Mar 30th, 2012, 17:35 PM

Some men get freaked out by it as they are worried about hurting the bubba. Ive not had sex since the day we conceived 7 months ago because he feels weird (and to be honest so do I). Twice a week is still quite alot. I wouldnt worry. x

ChesMik4eva · Apr 4th, 2012, 00:51 AM

Not trying to be rude, but if you have been together for 2 years would that even be legal if you've only just turned 18 and he's 31?

I'm not judging I am genuinely asking.

kittylady · Apr 6th, 2012, 15:22 PM

Heya

My hubby has gone off sex from every day to once a week. He says he feels more protective over me and I think hes scared of hurting the baby, Im sure things will get back to the way they were,

susan_1981 · Apr 6th, 2012, 15:31 PM

Mine has as well. He says it's because he finds it a bit strange now I'm pregnant and I think now when he looks at me, he is seeing me as the mother of his child, and not necessarily as his wife if that makes sense!

As long as we get our sex life back at some point after the baby is born, I'm not too bothered.

I think it's normal and doesn't necessarily mean that your OH is cheating on you!!

Mar 28th, 2012, 20:50 PM	#1
Stoke93 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Gold coast Posts: 51	Issues with OH I'm not sure if this is normal or not, but I'm 33 weeks (nearly 34), I newly turned 18 and my OH is now 31. He's very excited for our son to be born so all is good in that aspect. We have been together for almost 2 years now with no bumpy periods. We have what i would imagine to be a perfect relationship, he's a great provider treas me like a princess 100% of the time. The only issue we are having at the moment is that he seems to have lost his sex drive quite a bit. We were having sex 2 times a day and now it seems to have diminished to 2 times a week. He doesn't initiate it anymore and while I have a high sex drive, he doesn't. Would this be due to the pregnancy or something else? Has anyone else had anything like this?

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Mar 28th, 2012, 22:20 PM	#2
Dalila Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Everywhere. Posts: 1,095	He might feel awkward my OH was like this

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MrsSpunky Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 23	Could be just that your pregnant my oh was scared of hurting the baby. Xxx

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Mar 29th, 2012, 05:33 AM	#4
Belie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: New Zealand Posts: 381	I'd say it's just because of how far along you are in your pregnancy. Many males get kinda scared about hurting the baby or putting you in to pre-term labour around this time x

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Mar 29th, 2012, 09:48 AM	#5
jenfirstbaby Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 2,650	I have the total opposite problem , it's me that has went off it! Like literally could count in once had how many times we have had sex since christmas. It might be that he's scared of hurting the baby., or maybe he doesnt think you will be in to it? I think this is quite a common issue in pregnancy! I've heard alot of people say they're OH has gone off sex xx

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Mar 30th, 2012, 01:42 AM	#6
Rigi.kun Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 2,218	I don't know you guys from a bar of soap. From the little information you've given it's probably that he's concerned for you and baby. It's most likely prenatal anxiety on his behalf, a lot of guys get it, but they don't speak about it. My partner went off sex when he was being unfaithful.

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Mar 30th, 2012, 17:35 PM	#7
Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,589	Some men get freaked out by it as they are worried about hurting the bubba. Ive not had sex since the day we conceived 7 months ago because he feels weird (and to be honest so do I). Twice a week is still quite alot. I wouldnt worry. x

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Apr 4th, 2012, 00:51 AM	#8
ChesMik4eva Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Darwin, Australia Posts: 1,107	Not trying to be rude, but if you have been together for 2 years would that even be legal if you've only just turned 18 and he's 31? I'm not judging I am genuinely asking.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 15:22 PM	#9
kittylady Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Birmingham, UK Posts: 1,675	Heya My hubby has gone off sex from every day to once a week. He says he feels more protective over me and I think hes scared of hurting the baby, Im sure things will get back to the way they were,

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Apr 6th, 2012, 15:31 PM	#10
susan_1981 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: UK Posts: 4,745	Mine has as well. He says it's because he finds it a bit strange now I'm pregnant and I think now when he looks at me, he is seeing me as the mother of his child, and not necessarily as his wife if that makes sense! As long as we get our sex life back at some point after the baby is born, I'm not too bothered. I think it's normal and doesn't necessarily mean that your OH is cheating on you!!

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