i really dont mean to sound ungratefull or rude but my family have started to take over since they have found out im pregnant..im not even 11 weeks and i come home today to a pram/car seat/baby bath and toys
no-one asks me what i think or what i like they just go ahead..my OH is getting seriously pissed off with them but they just dont listen to anythink i say.
hope its not like this when the baby arrives...

I can understand being annoyed, but hey.. free stuff is always nice IMO

It just sounds like they're really excited for you.

Ive had the same problem, i found being honest and saying how you feel is the best thing to do it took many rows for me to do it but my family are much better now, you gotta remember that they are excited too and only want to help you.

100% can relate. With the list of stuff my sister has bought, you'd think she was buying for her own baby. She's even gone out and got bottles/teats without asking me first

I love my MIL normally, but her daughter (my SIL) got pregnant and gave birth a yr ago to boy. Now my whole pregnancy is being compared to hers, and I was told not to buy anything cause she was sure my SIL had everything I would need....

I can understand them buying little things, but buying a pram for your first child can be very special for some people and I would have been annoyed.

theclarks8687 - that's annoying! as soon as my brother found out I was pregnant he said "oh great I've got a garage full my our old stuff you can have, when shall I bring it round?" Some of this stuff was so damp or dirty it was only fit for the tip so I refused to take it!

This one I'm getting - and I'm really biting my tongue about. The worst bit is - SIL announced her pregnancy just after we lost our first one... and I had another miscarriage while she was expecting - so it's all bound up with that as well.

It's well intentioned - but when you're being told that the cot you bought won't be suitable because SIL's baby kicks about and wriggles when they sleep, it's like you're being laughed at and having the fact that she got in there first (and I'm more than a little bit suspicious about her timing coming after our first loss and her tendency to never let her brother achieve anything before her in his life) rubbed in our face... I've fought the urge to scream that I'm not her and this baby's not hers a couple of times of late. I'm also in excruciating pain with SPD and I know when MIL comes down I'm just going to get told "oh SIL was uncomfortable by now too"... like no, I'm NOT uncomfortable, my fucking pelvis is falling apart and every step I take feels like someone's slicing me in half with a scalpel from between my legs.

I'm sorry your MIL is comparing you to the SIL. Never fun and not right. However, you don't have to use the stuff they give you and you can buy what you like.

I have obnoxious family, too. I've learned to keep repeating, "This is what my boyfriend and I plan on doing and we're sticking to it. But thank you." I say it until I'm blue and I try to ignore them.

I can understand the pain of the announcement to a point. DH and I had told his mother that were going to try and conceive as soon as we got home from Iraq. Well the month we got back DH wanted to put it off again because he wanted to finish his med board stuff and get a house first. I was crushed but agreed because I needed him to be ready when it was time. Well then 3 weeks after we get home we get a call and SIL is preggo with her now child of 1 yr next month. It was a devastating time for me. And then with my LOW HCG levels all I got was oh SIL had those too and worried bout them and blah blah, mine were so low I was 8 weeks before we got above 1000. No hers were not that low. ECh, but Im not stressing too much, no I am not going to let myself feel like a second hand pregnancy nor am I going to feel guilty for spending money on my baby.

I know I dont have to use the stuff and what makes no sense and she plans on having another eventually too so why would she want to get rid her stuff now? I dont think she would reuse everything they gave to use expecting us to use.... Family whatta gonna do? lol

I cant believe they would even want you to use stuff in that shape for your child. I dont blame you at all for refusing!