selfish housemates keeping me awake, what would you do?
I got sent home from work 2 hours early, due to being sick When I got home, two of my housemates announced people were on their way over for a house party. I'm not the sort of person who enjoys parties in my house at the best of times, let alone when I'm feeling sick, and have to be back in work for an 8 hour shift again tomorrow.
They have had music blasting full volume since 7pm, and its showing no signs of stopping. There have been posts on facebook inviting more people over, saying we need the party to be "an all-nighter"
I'm already pissed off, as they music keeps getting louder, even though its getting later and later.
They are running up and down the stairs shouting and screaming, and they are also smoking in the house (even though it is in our contracts that it is a strictly non smoking house)
My pram is kept just outside my bedroom door, and I have heard a few people asking why there is a pram in our house (i'm sitting in my bedroom trying to keep away from the smoke) My female housemate has created a story where she has a daughter, but she lives with her mother!! If anyone lays so much as a finger on anything of my babies, I will literally kill them!!
Now, asking them to turn the music down lasts approx 2 minutes, until the next song, and then it gets turned up again. Even when the music is turned down, they're "singing" along, so the noise is just as loud. In Cardiff, we have a non emergency police number, which includes noisy neighbours and house parties. I know I am in the house, and I live there, but I am severely tempted to pretend I'm calling from next door and get the police over if it doesn't calm down any time soon!!
Do you think thats petty of me? I've been confined to my bedroom all night, and haven't even been able to properly watch a film, as their music is so loud I've had to use subtitles on my tv! I feel like shit, and was hoping for an early night so I'd feel better for work tomorrow, as I can't afford to take the day off. My main worry is, the one time I have called the non emergency number, about children in the street throwing stones at cars, they've called into the house to speak to me and double check details. Obviously if I call, I can't say I live in the house the noise is coming from, but the neighbours won't know anything about it.
If they had warned me that they were having a house party, I would have asked my OH to leave the keys to his flat here when he went to his parents for the weekend, but they didn't think to mention it until people were already here, so now I'm stuck in my house, with no-where to go, unable to do anything, when all I want to do is sleep! I'm so desperate I even thought about trying to do something to fuse the house so the music would stop!!!!
I ended up calling the non emergency police line, after googling it and their website saying loud parties/noisy neighbours was something they dealt with. According to the woman I spoke to, it isn't, so I had to ring the council instead!
Had to log a complaint, and was told if I didn't leave a name and address, they wouldn't be able to log it, as they wouldn't be able to follow it up. So I fibbed and said I live next door, as there are two flats there.
They basically said there was nothing they could do for a first offence, but someone is going to pop round in a few days to have a quick chat with them. Knowing my luck, it'll be a day everyone is in work and it'll be just me in the house!!!
They kept me up until 3.30, and then woke me up again at 7!
Part of me really hopes the baby comes before I move out, so they get a few sleepless nights too! I'm due 5 days after I move out, so there is a chance lol
No help now, but can you not have a word with your flatmates and ask that, in future, if they're planning a house party they consult you first? Pregnant or not, you live there and deserve a say in what happens in the house especially if it goes against your rental contract.
I'm afraid I'm a bit of a stroppy madam and would have gone out, turned off the music and suggested that if they couldn't enjoy their party without ear-splitting tunes then I would be phoning the police. End of.
Hun I am so glad you are getting out of there. Reading your story bought back a lot of memories for me. I lived in a house that sounds awfully similar to where you are now, although I wasn't preg. I feel for you Hun
Is there anyway you can leave sooner chick? Surely a heavily pregnant woman shouldn't have to put up with people as disrespectful as that. Do you consider these people friends? They are showing you no respect, you need to leave Hun surely your OH can't be too impressed by this either.
Good on you for calling council!! It is a shame no one came out to tell the to turn it down. Where I used to live the police would be at our house 3-4 nights a week telling us to keep quiet, and even threatened to take our stereo once
But all things aside, I hope u can get out of there before bub is out. Take care hunny, and remember you did the right thing. I admire you strength. I would have told them all to get the f@$k out lol xx
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