Hello ladies,

Last week I sent out my baby shower invitations. The majority of people who have confirmed they can make it have asked me what I want for a present??? I always just assumed that people got you things and not what you asked for??? It would be nice to choose as I'm sure it will be annoying if I end up with duplicates of things but I feel a bit rude saying I want this, I want that etc

Also, having similar problem with work. I'm usually the one who sorts out the leaving/maternity present- I usually get a hamper or something made up. But the lady in charge of getting my present asked me what I wanted. The kitty is usually (or is when I do it) £10 per person. There are 10 people on my office and there is a lovely bedding set I want- would it be really rude to tell her that it is what I want and show her it (it's made by a lady in america on etsy) and would cost £80 including shipping.

I have ignored all the texts from people asking, but said to the lady in work that I wasn't really sure and she told me to have a think over Easter break.

Would appreciate it if anyone could help me

Thank you

Make a wish list of everything you want and have a close friend or your mom give or mail it to the people asking that way it's not coming from you.

Are registries common in the UK? That's how we handle these sorts of things in the US. You just go to a shop and scan anything you want onto a list and then your list is available to people to see. They can even see what items are already purchased by another person so that you don't end up with duplicates.
So when people ask what you want you just say "I'm registered at <store name>".

Thank you ladies, I don't know why I didn't think of this!! I'm not sure if you can get these lists here in the UK for babies but I know you can for weddings so worth a try I guess!!

Thank you x

I have a baby registry on Amazon.com, its cool because if you find something on another site that Amazon doesn't have, you can still add it to the registry and if someone buys you the item thats on the registry, but buys it in a store or somewhere else, they can still mark that they bought it. That way everyone can see what you need and what's been purchased so you don't get duplicates!

i second the amazon registry!

I had an amazon wedding registry and it worked a treat! Just put a selection of items in different price ranges and people will feel quite happy they got you something you actually need/want.

a girl from work has told me to write a wish list. but no one has mentioned doing me a shower-cue the violins-i think because im on the sick i feel lonely and want to be made a fuss of-violins again- I WANT A SHOWER!! who is meant to organise them??

They said friends or coworkers put on the showers. Sometimes people do surprise showers, but not as often. My friend volunteered to do mine, but I can tell she's in over her head so my mom and I have kind of taken over.. I don't care much for the "proper" etiquette, I know a few other ladies who have thrown or are throwing their own shower.

Fidget, in the UK it generally isn't common to have a baby shower, especially at work. If you want one, maybe you could throw some big hints in the direction of your mum/sis/friends?