In the area where I live, it just depends.....mostly close family or really close co-workers organize shower.
Babies born close together of the same sex...folks may do a diaper shower (or a sprinkle...that's a relatively new term for a really small shower).
Mom with lots of kids, both sexes....usually no shower....though family members will buy needed items.
Different sex....traditional shower again
Big span between ages...traditional shower again
Keep in mind I'm in the Southern US.....where showers are VERY popular .
some people think shower should be for first time moms. my husband's work just threw a huge surprised baby shower for a couple of his co-workers (first time parent) and he think they will do the same for him. I told him it is unlikely because this is our second child. I never had a baby shower, and my first son is almost 11 years old (11 years gap between my first and second child) and I having a girl this time around and even with that, I doubt I will be having a shower simply because it is our second child.
I have heard of baby sprinkler (instead of shower) for each additional child.
I really like the idea of a Baby Sprinkler. (that sounds funny). Even with babies of different genders there are so many things that you can reuse so you really don't need the whole lot that comes with a shower. That being said 11years is a big gap and it's quite unlikely you still have anything around and if you did it's likely outdated or recalled. In a situation where a lot of time has passed it seems totally relevant to having another shower.
A shower isn't just about splashing gifts on the new parents, it's about celebrating life. Why should only the first baby be celebrated?
I do recall a post here a couple years ago from a mom-to-be who had a child just over 1yr. She sold all her baby's stuff to cash in on the resale value and wanted a new shower for her new pregnancy just to get more gifts. She was robbing her friends and family of cash. It had nothing to do with celebrating life. I think I may have even told her off in a reply...
Anyways, it's circumstantial. Consider if a friend were in your situation would you want her to have a shower or not? Would you want to buy a gift for her or not?
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