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Old May 13th, 2012, 04:02 AM   1
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Missed Miscarriage- found out at first scan


My baby stopped growing at 4 weeks, found out at my dating scan (on Thursday) at 9-10 weeks. My body never processed the miscarriage, I had no signs. In fact my Hormone levels continued to double and my Sac even continued to grow like a normal pregnancy, I even have a little baby bump because of my larger uterus. But no baby

To make matters worse I was told to wait a week for another scan, so I am still technically pregnant which is killing me. I just want to get rid of it, dust myself off, and start again.

I had no signs, no cramping no bleeding. Still had/HAVE sore boobs and am SO tired (which is probably emotionally). Life is cruel but I did MC at a very normal time, just finding out this late is horrible. I'm not inconsolable, I am very accepting of how natural and common a MC this early is I am just very angry with my body for still being pregnant, this is killing me and I am very VERY sad.

I have no doubt in my mind I will be pregnant again in the coming months and will have a very very healthy little sprog. But I am most definitely having a private early scan next time.

I had a bad gut feeling and desperately wanted an early scan because of my lack of symptoms but everyone told me to enjoy not feeling ill or tired, I ignored my very correct female instinct and waited for the dating scan I had booked, I so wish I had listened to myself and gone for that early scan.

I don't want to worry anybody else, I just really need abit of that powerful female support.
Hope you're all well xxx



 
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Old May 13th, 2012, 04:09 AM   2
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I'm so sorry. There are no words that will take your pain away right now, only time and hope.

I had a missed miscarriage 2 1/2 years ago. I found out at my 12 wk scan that the baby had stopped growing at 8 wks. Like you, I had all the pregnancy symptoms right up until the scan. It was a horrible time, my thoughts are with you.

It took me a few months to get pregnant again but I now have a beautiful daughter and I'm pregnant again. 9 weeks and had an early scan yesterday. I'm telling you this to give you hope. It's such a rare thing to happen but this time was not the right time for you. It will be soon.

Stay hopeful and positive although I know it's hard.

My thoughts are with you. X



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Old May 13th, 2012, 04:12 AM   3
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Firstly so sorry for your loss. But your attitude is very admirable. Nature can be cruel but you seem very accepting of that and very level headed.

I can't quite believe how long your body has gone on for without any symptoms of miscarriage. Did they give you any clue as to why?

I've booked an early scan next Tuesday, I'll be 7+4. For the exact reasons you mentioned.

Why do they want you to wait another week?

My thoughts are very much with you hun, and im sure you will go on to have a lovely baby....

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Old May 13th, 2012, 04:15 AM   4
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Thanks SarahP13.
If I had physically MC at 4 weeks had a bleed and been done with it I think I could have accepted that a lot more, but this is so unfair. I DO NOT want to still be pregnant. I'm stuck in limbo.

I will be back here PG again in the next few months and probably moaning about being violently sick and desperately tired which I never got this time around.

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Old May 13th, 2012, 04:21 AM   5
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Firstly so sorry for your loss. But your attitude is very admirable. Nature can be cruel but you seem very accepting of that and very level headed.

I can't quite believe how long your body has gone on for without any symptoms of miscarriage. Did they give you any clue as to why?

I've booked an early scan next Tuesday, I'll be 7+4. For the exact reasons you mentioned.

Why do they want you to wait another week?

My thoughts are very much with you hun, and im sure you will go on to have a lovely baby....

Xxxxx
The Sonographers (were horrible) were going to send me home accusing me of being no where near as pregnant as I was claiming to be, I kicked up a fuss and told them I knew exactly how pregnant I should be so they sent me to emergency gyne. The doctor I saw was very sympathetic and didn't seem very happy with the ladies who done my scan because of how upset and in shock I was at the time.

He said he just wanted to make double sure with another scan before terminating the pregnancy. Didn't really elaborate more than that, I was so upset I just left as quick as I could.

He said this is quite common and is a very unfair way of miscarriage. I am going to ask a lot more questions with a clearer head Thursday about it all, I wasn't on this planet last week. But your right its mad my body is still pregnant, how long would it have done this for?? I must have a strong body, I don't know??

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Old May 13th, 2012, 04:23 AM   6
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Also SarahP13. Hope your scan is all good xx



 
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Old May 13th, 2012, 04:25 AM   7
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oh gosh your talking about my fear that i have had since i had my BFP!!!!!....i so so so understand how upset you must be...i am so so sorry about this and you have just proven my point why this ridiculous new rule in the NHS (to bloody safe money so stupid MP's can fuel their lifestyles) have decided not to see or deal with people who have just found out they are pg....i mean this i ridiclous!!!! only 4 years ago i could go to the docs tell them i was pg, had myself booked in for my first MW appointment so i could voice my fears of past histories and all, in my case even book me in for an early scan at 6 weeks and done my blood works to see if things are progressing normally....so if they weren't you could get yourself the pill that encourages a quick mc and you could move on with your life and ttc. but now...this is exactly what i fear.....and hence why you have just convinced me to book my early scan as soon as i hit 7 weeks......
i hope you get through this difficult time asap and wish you with all my heart a speedy recovery and lots and lots of baby dust...bear in mind your super fertile now....so as soon as you have stopped bleeding...you should be ready ttc again.....

and i admire your acceptance of this whole sad situation...i will be exactly like you...when i saw spotting yesterday i felt a bit anxious wanted to cry but then took a breath and thought oh well...this wasn't mean tto be maybe.....

the news stystem is pathtic and cruel........



 
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Old May 13th, 2012, 04:31 AM   8
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oh gosh your talking about my fear that i have had since i had my BFP!!!!!....i so so so understand how upset you must be...i am so so sorry about this and you have just proven my point why this ridiculous new rule in the NHS (to bloody safe money so stupid MP's can fuel their lifestyles) have decided not to see or deal with people who have just found out they are pg....i mean this i ridiclous!!!! only 4 years ago i could go to the docs tell them i was pg, had myself booked in for my first MW appointment so i could voice my fears of past histories and all, in my case even book me in for an early scan at 6 weeks and done my blood works to see if things are progressing normally....so if they weren't you could get yourself the pill that encourages a quick mc and you could move on with your life and ttc. but now...this is exactly what i fear.....and hence why you have just convinced me to book my early scan as soon as i hit 7 weeks......
i hope you get through this difficult time asap and wish you with all my heart a speedy recovery and lots and lots of baby dust...bear in mind your super fertile now....so as soon as you have stopped bleeding...you should be ready ttc again.....

I am so sorry to worry anybody, that's not my intention. But I so wish I had just ignored everybody else and said b0ll0x to it and booked a scan for me. Lots of people told me there was no need and because it was my first pregnancy thought I was the one who should listen to everybody's advice, I wont next time.

I have hated the past month 1/2 through worry, felt quite abandoned by the NHS as the are so inundated with PG women.

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I am so sorry for your loss hun x



 
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Old May 13th, 2012, 04:36 AM   10
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Thanks SarahP13.
If I had physically MC at 4 weeks had a bleed and been done with it I think I could have accepted that a lot more, but this is so unfair. I DO NOT want to still be pregnant. I'm stuck in limbo.

I will be back here PG again in the next few months and probably moaning about being violently sick and desperately tired which I never got this time around.

xx
That is exactly how I felt. I felt like my body had let me down. Knowing I was carrying a baby that would never grow was awful. I was so upset and hurt. The doctor turned it round in my head though and told me I had a strong body that was obviously capable and wanted to carry a baby. I too wished I had had a natural miscarriage and that it would have been easier to deal with.

If nothing had happened by your next scan I suspect the doctor will give you options which you may want to start considering now. I was given the following..
1. Wait and let my body miscarry naturally - he said this could take up to a month and that was something I couldn't deal with.
2. Take some pills that would start things happening- this would take a few days and you would pass the baby at home.
3. Minor surgery, an ERPC- this is the option I chose as I couldn't bear waiting and did not want to pass the baby myself.

It may not be your choice but it was right for us. A simple procedure whilst under general anaesthetic. Think about all options carefully and talk to anyone that can help.

This is a horrible time for you but please stay strong and think of the future. If I can help anymore please ask. Inbox me if you prefer.

Sending big hugs xxx



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