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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 08:25 AM   1
Mrs5707
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Ready to kick my husband out and change the lock **RANT**


I will apologize in advance for my language...
I'm so floored at the arguments that I've had over the last several days with my husband that I could just throw up on him rather than look at him. He has ZERO patience for me, and just hangs up the phone whenever I spout off a sarcastic comment or get irritated with him. He is being extremely sensitive for whatever reason and this is NOT the time for HIM to decide to be sensitive. It's really nice to find out what your spouse really thinks of you when they get pissed off and let it all fly. Apparently, I am a f*cking liar, and a lazy bitch who has "played the pregnancy card" too many times and I'm over exaggerating and just making things up, like being tired and feeling like pure shit. He goes "you may be tired but you could do better than you've done the last 3 weeks.." Oh and all I do is "sit on my ass" at my job all day, nevermind the fact that I'm also going to school full time and regardless of whether I"m digging ditches or sitting behind a computer I'm STILL WORKING A FULL TIME F*CKING JOB. Pretty funny to me because when he goes 1 day feeling sick with a stomach bug or something then it throws him on his ass, and he reverts back to an infantile state needing me to wait on him hand and foot.. but me having CONSTANT diarrea, vomitting, and constipation for 2.5 months straight is apparently no excuse - nevermind the raging hormones that multiply each and every day. That's no excuse. All of this started because HIS sorry butt got off work at 11:00 yesterday morning, came home and did HIS projects out in the yard that HE was obsessed with doing, not anything that I had asked him to do. ALL I asked of him was to take 30 minutes and clean up HIS mess that he leaves in the guest room and get 3 things from the grocery store ACCROSS THE STREET from our house and in 6 hours he couldn't even do that. But it's MY fault that I get mad at him and he has the right to hang up on me like I"m something he can just dismiss and throw away. I AM SICK TO MY STOMACH OF HIM.



 
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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 09:20 AM   2
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Awe i'm sorry your dealing with this!

I always read about all these wonderful supportive partners that do anything and everything! My OH is truely wonderful as well. He cooks dinner every night and does the dishes. But I have to say, it has NOTHING to do with the pregnancy. He has always done it! BUT... when I even so much as trun on the couch and sigh (because I ate to much and feel completely bloated) I get the: Don't start the prenancy shit already! So... don't feel bad! Mine has also told me: You don't get to complain, because you wanted this! and "Your not gonna be one of THOSE pregnant women, are you?"

I think they can't understand, because it is still unreal to them. A friend of mine once told me, that it doesn't really set in, until the baby is born. From that moment, it hit him like a brick!


Don't let it get to you



 
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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 10:20 AM   3
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Sorry he's being such a poop! but remember, you are experiencing a lot of physical symptoms, but he is still welcoming a child into the world too. This may just be his unfortunate way of dealing with pregnancy!

Just tell him if he's not going to do anything you want to do then you're not going to do anything he wants to do, including all things !!!



 
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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 10:36 AM   4
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Are you sure we don't share the same OH?!

In the last week we've probably had more arguments than in any previous month. Every time we have an argument he turns nasty, calling me all sorts of names and then hours later says "I didn't mean it, I was angry" like it makes up for it?

He really does say the nastiest things during arguments, even says he's gonna leave etc. If it weren't for the fact that he's said it thousands of times before i'd be a nervous wreck but it's just like he's crying wolf when he says it now One of these days he'll say it and i'll pack his bag for him

He still thinks that I shouldn't be tired all the time or having a few mood swings (ok more than a few ) and says that I make up how i'm feeling according to what it says on the internet

I've had the phone put down on me numerous times after I make a sarcastic comment or question something he says. He knows how mad this gets me and does it even more

We must also have the same job, cause all I do is "sit on my arse all day" too!

I'm sorry you're feeling so shitty hun but I wanted you to know that your OH isn't the only one being an idiot at the minute



 
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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 10:41 AM   5
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I'm sorry your OH is being an idiot right now (just like mine, lol). I hope things improve for you soon. I think some men just don`t understand because they cant experience pregnancy with us. ( I wish my hubby could feel my nausea and ligament pain, for just one day, he wouldn't beak then)

My husband feels that I should be able to do everything I used to around the house( all the cooking, cleaning and laundry, he won`t even put his own laundry down stairs, I have to bring it down), and more now that we need to finish the reno`s on our master room quick so we aren't living in our guest room when baby arrives. He said I`m not allowed to complain till I`m big and fat, men can be pretty silly at times



 
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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 11:35 AM   6
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My husband has been great the entire time (a few hiccups but nothing major), and even he was so confused in the beginning as to why I was so tired and off in first tri. It happens to the best of us!!!

If you want to be really evil, get your husband really wasted and then the next day when he's hungover and bitching, tell him to do a thousand things and tell him he's a lazy bitch who sits on his ass all day :O



 
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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 11:37 AM   7
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Quote:
Originally Posted by keepholdingon View Post
My husband has been great the entire time (a few hiccups but nothing major), and even he was so confused in the beginning as to why I was so tired and off in first tri. It happens to the best of us!!!

If you want to be really evil, get your husband really wasted and then the next day when he's hungover and bitching, tell him to do a thousand things and tell him he's a lazy bitch who sits on his ass all day :O
bwhahahaha what an awesome idea!



 
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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 12:28 PM   8
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Men!!! My Husband has been a bit of an idiot recently too. I used to work park time and had to do all the house work because he worked harder, apparently. Then when I got a full time job...did it get split? Nooo...apparently I sit on my arse all day so can do more than him. I think that saying must be a man thing!!!

Today I got made redundant. At 4 weeks pregnant I am devastated, scared, worried, upset...a complete barrel of emotions. His idea of offering me support is to kick me when I am down. Apparently he would never have gotten into the situation of being made redundant and I have lost count of the amount of times hes went on and on about how I will have to do the house work now (????? When did I ever stop????) and he's spent the day searching for jobs for me and telling me I will have to get a job asap. In his next breath he's saying he wants to go to abroad to see his football team play in the Europa Cup. Ehh....sure thing!!

Flipping men. They are such children. I totally empathise with you.



 
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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 13:23 PM   9
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@ op i am not going to list my issues with OH right now but i know where you are coming from. Try to ignore him like i am doing.



 
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Old Aug 10th, 2012, 17:36 PM   10
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My husband is awful! He insults me constantly and never apologises. I got no help with my last pregnancy or the kids and doubt i will now. Men are A holes!



 
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