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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 05:47 AM   1
disneydarling
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Scared of having sex.... LOL


Just had to laugh at how ridiculous the title of this post is!!

Ever since we found out I was pregnant (only a week ago) me and my husband have not had sex. I'm way too scared!

He understands and isn't pressuring me or anything, and even though I want to do it, as soon as we get close to doing it I freak out and worry that I'm not protecting the baby!! Eeeeek! Please tell me I'm not the only one who feels like this??!!??



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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 05:54 AM   2
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I got my Bfp 5 weeks ago and only just slept with my partner yesterday, we had not planned this baby and he did not want to keep our bean so he was not very supportive to begin with so i was not in the mood then he began to support me and i wanted to but it really hurt me as he entered.... So no your not the only one, im still scared incase we *touch* the baby.. but its not possible as in there sac .

Good luck and healthy pregnancy



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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 05:54 AM   3
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I was a little apprehensive at first and we took it slowly. Have done it twice now but my sex drive isnt as high as it used to be (was very high) which I think OH is pleased about as his sex drive has never been as high as mine.

Just go easy and slowly. There shouldn't be any discomfort but if there is, stop and maybe have a chat with your doctor. Your OH can't hurt the baby as they are tucked away safely in your uterus, protected by your closed cervix and acidey CM

You'll be fine



 
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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 06:00 AM   4
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Thank you, I know I shouldn't be worrying as I know we can't actually hurt the baby. I'm just so worried that if anything happened I'd never forgive myself and blame it on us having sex!

I feel silly for being so ridiculous, but my urge to protect my baby is coming way above my urge for anything else!



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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 06:09 AM   5
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i know exactly how you feel.. im a little freaked out too coz dh usaully works away 1mnth then home a mnth. usually when he gets back we cant keep our hands of each other & can be a bit rough & it will be uncomfortable a little coz it would seem more tight down there after 4 weeks of no ..
so just before he left we got our but he is coming home today & im a little freaked out



 
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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 06:18 AM   6
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Try not to worry I was the same when I found out too!

We used to have sex near enough everyday and now were down to 3/4 times a week because some days I just don't have the energy. It took me a while to feel comfortable with it though. The first few times after I'd found out I was pregnant I was worrying at every little cramp thinking I'd done something to hurt the baby. I spoke to the midwife and she assured us everything was fine and that we can't do any damage.

But no, my sex drive isn't what it once was lol, I'm sure it will make a reappearance soon



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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 06:25 AM   7
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Just jumping over from 2nd tri; I didn't DTD from finding out until I was 11 weeks. I was so scared, then after my scan at 11+5 I started to relax. It did make me a little crampy to start with but now I seem to be fine xxx



 
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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 06:32 AM   8
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Just take things slowly and at your own pace girls.

This is my 3rd pregnancy and Iv always had an increased sex drive thoughout all of them! lol Much to my husbands delight.

I think us ladies do over think alot of things and we worry when there really isnt any need. The truth is, in a healthy pregnancy (ie..no bleeding or sever pain) it does not affect your little bean in the slightest.
I actually think its very important to keep the closeness between you and your other half at these times because you are both sharing a wonderfull time together and it is all to easy for us women to shut down a little and cut the other halfs out a bit when our maternal instincts kick in. Sex doesnt always have to mean full intercourse there are other ways to be intimate too.

When your little bean arrives, there will be little time to be intimate for a good while so you should embrace these early months to enjoy eachother (before the bump gets in the way!! lol)

Good luck xxx



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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 08:40 AM   9
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Found out 20 Aug and not put out since been bleeding and cramping xx



 
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Old Sep 13th, 2012, 08:56 AM   10
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Your baby is so well protected there is nothing to worry about. Just imagine it this way when you orgasm (yes i'm going there) Your uterus contracts, when your uterus contracts this will move the amniotic fluid around the baby and give baby a little massage. Oh and I are rough and I stress the word rough, and we haven't stopped. I've never had any bleeding or spotting from it and for me and supposedly for most women orgams feel even better.

Start slow with fore play and work your way up till your comfortable. But the hormones you release during sex have actually been scientifically proven to help babies development. So remember love the intimacy use this time to connect and you'll help not hurt your baby.



 
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