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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 13:44 PM   1
missmayhem
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help with elective C section


hello ladies,

i had a very traumatic birth with my DD, induction 3 days in labour, the drip failed to work then worked to well, then turned down, stopped working so repeat cycle.

I went from 2cm to 6cm to 3cm to 5cm back to 1cm, in the end DD was born via forceps in theater


I'm terrified that i will have another horrible labour, since have DD i have been diagnosed with anxiety which is playing a massive part in me wanting a CS.


I had an internal US at 6 weeks that had me writhing on the bed with fear, taking me back to being in labour and internal exams.


do you think i have a case for having an elective section??



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 13:57 PM   2
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Yes definitely. I had an elective with my 2nd following a long labour ending in emcs. I basically had failure to progress and only reached 2cm after 30 hours, so based on that there was no reason for me to have a section next time. I was so scared though and basically just told them I was having an elective. My consultant was fab, he talked me through all the risks and said his preference was natural labour or at the very least a trial of labour where I would only labour for a certain amount of hours before being taken straight through to c section. Is that an option for you? for me it was a no go and once I made that clear, consultant was great and just booked me in there and then. Think I was about 36 weeks then though.

Try not to worry too much, if you really want an elective they will give it to you. I am sorry you are so stressed though. Have you been and had afterbirth counselling? They can talk you through your labour and make it all a bit clearer in your mind for you.



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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 14:11 PM   3
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i'm still awaiting CBT for my anxiety and this is were i will tackle my birth experience, for 2-3 weeks after the birth i couldn't climb the stairs of get into the car easily as i was in so much pain, I under stand a CS is major abdominal surgery but at least i won't feel like i've been attacked with a hot glue gun in my nether regions.


I would be prepared to labour naturally for a little bit as long as i was sure that if things got too much then i could have a CS.

i was unlucky enough that my epidural failed from the off so i think thats what has upset me most, that and the fact i had to be constantly monitored and every time i took a deep breath they lost the trace.


thank you for your reply will talk it over with the OH



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 14:20 PM   4
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You could think about trying hypnotherapy? It could help you deal with the trauma of your previous birth, and make you feel better approaching this one. Natal hypnotherapy is amazing - I know a lot of people who've used it after a bad first birth, and gone on to have really positive experience. Even if you do choose a CS, it might help you feel better about your last birth and calmer about internals and the whole process.

Just a thought - hope whatever you choose works out and you get a happy birth this time.



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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 14:36 PM   5
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Absolutely. My first birth was horrific. I won't get in to all the detail but I ended up with a 2nd degree episiotomy, a 4th degree tear, grazing and a fractured pelvis. I demanded a section with my second, I honestly couldn't have gone through another natural birth. Good luck and be insistent xxx



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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 16:20 PM   6
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I am glad you are getting some help with coming to terms with it, it does sound horrific.

Yes, a c section is major surgery - but if I'm honest I found it a walk in the park. My emergency wasn't great but the elective was amazing, it was scary but it was also so calm and completely different to before. I found the recovery really good, especially as I hadn't gone through any labour and exhaustion. The first few days are painful, but the drugs are gooooood!

Good luck with it, be insistent.



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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 16:26 PM   7
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I too found my c section to be a walk in the park! It wasn't half as bad as I thought it would be but I won't be going for an elective c section this time! I'm going to try and shoot for a VBAC! C sections aren't bad I just don't want another major surgery, plus you get pain medicine to cope with the pain, so it's not bad!



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 16:34 PM   8
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Forgot to add, I'd choose an elective section over a natural birth every time. My recovery was faster, I enjoyed my baby more and the whole experience was one I enjoyed and can look back on without panic attacks x



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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 16:46 PM   9
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I had to have a c section with Joshua. I wasn't given a choice, but wasn't emergency. I for one would not want to go through that again. I had a tough recovery and severe bruising. I struggled to walk for 5 days, even with morphine. Walking up/down stairs, getting in a car, trying to get dressed, lying down/sitting up, was sheer hell for weeks. I'm now 8 months on, I hate being scarred, and still have pain and some numbness around the wound. Sadly, Joshua passed away at 13 hours old, but 3 weeks after I struggled to pick him up to place him in his casket, and he was only 2lb 7oz. You'll be advised not to lift anything heavier than a kettle, which includes your daughter. Not trying to put you off, but it's not always a walk in the park. You put that you couldn't get in a car/go upstairs, it's horrendous with a wound across you stomach. I had to move in to my mums for 6 weeks as I live in a first floor flat and couldn't cope with the stairs. Just really weigh up your options and research everything first. As someone else said, hypnobirthing can help a lot of women. I for one would do anything to NOT have another c section. x



 
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Old Oct 13th, 2012, 16:52 PM   10
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I'm hoping for and elective c section too. Obstructed labour with our first, Vaccuum extraction, nasty tear, Healing took 8 months+ and still have issues. I see my ob Thursday, hopefully we can discuss it then.



 
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