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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 03:32 AM   1
BecksBabyB
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Men - lack of empathy!!


Hi all

Just wanted to have a bit of a moan because I'm sure I can't be the only one with a partner who doesnt quite understand that pregnancy symptoms begin immediately!

Apparently the following is wrong;

I'm not allowed to suggest I'm bloated - "you won't show this early!"
I'm not always tired - "you're not big enough to get tired out" ( not the reason you idiot!!)
I don't feel sick - "it's too early for that!"

Argh!! Some days as you know ladies, we feel rubbish all the time, you can't always say what it is either you just feel bleugh!!

Rant over...anyone in the same position?? Bx



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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 03:35 AM   2
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Tell him it's like having man flu for at least 5 weeks. I keep telling my husband and male colleagues in work and they get the idea



 
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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 04:07 AM   3
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I was sitting with my head in a sick bowl a few weeks ago,generally feeling cack...my husband said 'it can't be THAT bad...'

I think my look said it all...x



 
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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 04:58 AM   4
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Omg yes!
I have cirvical erosion (had it before pregnancy too) which causes spotting if I over do it. Yesterday I told DH I was going to take it easy to be on the safe side. This morning he's getting the hump because I'm not helping him with rearranging the furniture!! Not only is there the bleeding risk but I have no energy to do that stuff anyway!
He blamed me for not doing anything so I just told him I'm building a person and until he knows how tiring that can be he can sod off lol



 
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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 06:15 AM   5
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I keep being told I've only been pregnant for a day so it's to early for symptoms lol. He's just an idiot!! X x x



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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 06:20 AM   6
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Men are so predictable, they just dont understand the majority of them anyways



 
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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 06:31 AM   7
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Inform your partner that I got morning sickness at 3 and a half weeks - with full blown throwing up. Even I didn't believe it was morning sickness until several throw-up filled days later and a positive pregnancy test. It's real, and it's probably gonna be around for awhile, so the sooner he comes to terms with this new reality the better.

Hopefully he'll come around soon. You could buy him a book for fathers to be. I got my DH one (while we were TTC) and read to him the section about being sensitive about not flouting your beer and wine drinking around your wife (which was an irksome issue during those exceedingly frustrating months of not being pregnant but acting pregnant). There is actually a lot of good information for guys in these books, and I even caught him reading it on his own one day - so cute!



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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 07:08 AM   8
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yes men have no idea! But someone posted this in another thread http://doctoranddaughter.co.uk/?page_id=737
I showed dh and it helped him understand what i'm going through. In fact, after he read it he said he was taking the dog for a walk and when he got back he would help me (I was cleaning house).
When he got back he moaned a bit about it but I told him to go read it again and get in here and help! lol



 
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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 07:53 AM   9
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I honestly don't think mine will 'believe' any of my symptoms until after I get a proper bump, that way in his eyes I will be properly pregnant.

I keep telling him how exhausted I am and he can not understand why, it is annoying me and also he can't understand why my bbs hurt! Grrr men!



 
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Old Oct 14th, 2012, 07:57 AM   10
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yes men have no idea! But someone posted this in another thread http://doctoranddaughter.co.uk/?page_id=737
I showed dh and it helped him understand what i'm going through. In fact, after he read it he said he was taking the dog for a walk and when he got back he would help me (I was cleaning house).
When he got back he moaned a bit about it but I told him to go read it again and get in here and help! lol
That's even better than a book for the first trimester! Gets right to the important bits. Could be very helpful for lots of pregnant ladies and their partners.



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