For some reason dh has become moody lately. He's been snapping at me a lot lately over the smallest things. It feels like he's the pregnant one. I agree, I'm moody too but I explained to him my hormones due to the pregnancy has put me on a rollercoaster and to bare with me if I suddenly start crying.
Anyways, for some reason today I was happy and perky but just now dh called and somehow our conversation took a wrong turn and he got upset with me. When he gets upset with me I get upset too and my mood changes and I go quiet. I was just too chatty since I was happy and poor him wasn't getting the chance to give his two cents. That upset him so, I happily explained to him how happy I was and that he can do the talking when we're in person and I'll listen. I was just on a natural high, I don't know why but I felt good and bubbly. During our conversation I had expressed a concern of mine but said it wasn't a big deal and tried thinking of positive aspects of that situation that concerned me. He took me wrong all together and made me feel bad. Once he became upset, so did I and my whole chattiness turned into silence. I felt silly for even expressing my concern because he says I think too much. He kept getting upset that I wasn't giving him the chance to talk so once I went silent he could speak but now that bothered him why I wasn't talking anymore. I was saying yes, yes okay but I no longer felt good and bubbly and wanted him to just hang the phone on me because by then he had made me feel silly about myself.
Yesterday he snapped at me for asking him to wear a warmer coat since it was cold outside due to the winter. He wanted to wear a different coat that wasn't warmer. He felt I was controlling him. uhhh...not my intention. The day before he got angry at me for pushing him to eat breakfast before he went to work.
Have I become more sensitive due to the pregnancy?
Thanks for reading my rant. I couldn't help but cry over this. I feel awful inside and needed to get it out of my system.
It has been said that men also go through the emotions that we go through. Mine has thrown up a few times out of nowhere and also has been super tired... Makes sense that his emotions might be affected as well. While we go through the majority of it of course I am sure they get something out of it too. Hopefully it passes soon.
my dh has been a complete mess omg. It just seems like everything i say or do just makes him upset latly same with my kids he has been soo upset with them too. and omg is it driving me mad!!! i am soo upset with him but then again it could be my hormones too idk... uggg
Lol you have more patience than me. If my dh snapped at me because I asked him to wear a warmer coat or to eat breakfast then I would probably go off like there was no tomorrow.
However, my mom was being cranky with me today and killed my good mood and I started bawling. Lol. Made her feel bad but sorta serves her right for making a nine month pregnant chick cry!
I have read that men get symptoms of pregnancy too and maybe he is just freaking out and going crazy about the pregnancy and is unfortunately taking it out on you. I don't know how you guys communicate but may be worth bringing up that you have been feeling a little hurt with him being so short with you? Just a thought.
Thanks everyone. Like before he's told me again he's sorry for snapping at me. I don't know how long that'll last. He wasn't like this before. He has admitted that other things have been bothering him but somehow loses his temper on me. I could be that he's experiencing preg symptoms too or it could be old man winter is been playing with his mood. He loves the sun and when he doesn't see it he becomes sad.
Thanks again! *Hugs*
I think men suddenly feel the weight of responsibility when you fall pregnant, justified or not. They worry about being a father, about making enough money, about supporting you the right way, how they'll react to labour, whether they'll lose you, whether they'll have sex again or want it again after seeing the birth..
It's exactly the same as when we're snappy at them. Try not to take it to heart and to cut him a little slack. Pregnancy and a newborn can test even the strongest relationship. It can also make your relationship stronger than ever in the end.
My husband and I have a pact to not get upset when the other is snappy, but to gently tell the other to bog off when it gets too much. It works really well and we rarely to never get upset about snappy behaviour
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