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Old Jan 3rd, 2013, 20:05 PM   1
Jenirx
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Do i still love my OH???


Hi ladies. Im about 9 weeks preggo at the moment and suffering the usual pregnancy symptoms. However i seem to have lost feelings for my OH. I know i want to be with him but i just seem to snap at him constantly. When im with him i dont want him near me, no hugs, kisses, nothing. Weve not had sex since november when i found out i was pregnant. Is this normal? I know i love him, but i just cant stand him being near me!! Will this go soon?!



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Old Jan 3rd, 2013, 20:40 PM   2
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I've had this on and off. I've been somewhat irritable lately, especially when I don't get enough sleep. I've snapped on my hubby a few times and felt really bad afterwards. I found out I was pregnant the beginning of December and we haven't had sex since right before I found out. I think a big part of that though is my sore breasts and the fact that I have the "full feeling" in my pelvic area. Otherwise, we're the same as always.

I'm sure it's just your hormones and will pass.



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2013, 20:44 PM   3
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Hopefully it will pass

Try to rekindle the romance, and just be affectionate to be affectionate..sometimes if you make yourself do it, you'll end up enjoying being close and together.



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2013, 22:57 PM   4
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I had a buddy on here who was going through something similar with her dh. I think she was almost considering leaving him? but I think things turned around for them when he was getting deployed to Afghan.. Good luck!



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2013, 23:51 PM   5
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It's your hormons! Don't make any decisions now, try to get through this stage. And I am sure in a little while you will go back to loving your husband as you did before pregnancy.



 
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Old Jan 4th, 2013, 00:59 AM   6
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You and me both my husband is getting really snapped at and I think it's the hormones once things settle around second tri I'm hoping my hormones will calm and ill stop feeling this way.try not to let it worry you our bodies are going crazy right now xx



 
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Old Jan 4th, 2013, 02:30 AM   7
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I have to say, at the moment hubby and I are getting on better than ever because we're both more relaxed now but I can totally relate to the irritability and the not wanting to be hugged/kissed, etc. I just don't want to be touched because I feel so yucky in myself. I'm bloated, sick, sore and just generally want to be left alone. I can see how this could feel like a change in your feelings towards hubby but I wouldn't write him off while you're a big bag of hormones.



 
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Old Jan 4th, 2013, 04:41 AM   8
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I think it is hormones. I have been feeling the same way, short fused and not interested in affection at all. Even my older kids said I have been moody. Sometimes I get so irritated and I am not really sure why. Everything he does seems to irritate me, it is little things too, so senseless. Then I will sit down and cry because I am having another one of his babies yet I want to strangle him lol I know it will get better, hopefully they will forgive us and not think we have totally lost our minds.



 
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Old Jan 4th, 2013, 05:19 AM   9
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You know, the poor men in our lives don't have it easy whilst we're pregnant (or indeed dealing with newborns)

They mightn't get the whole pregnancy thing but they do get their wives going bat shit mental for a year or so, and they deal with it. Often far better than we would if the shoe were on the other foot.

Not feeling up for affection shouldn't be confused with not being in love. Pregnancy and babies do change relationships, and yes, the hormones do make you dislike them a little bit for a while, but you know, it's so much easier if you talk to them and explain the way you're feeling. Don't shut him out, he'll already be feeling pushed to the side regardless.

Pregnancy and babies can destroy relationships, but only if you let it. Make the new dynamics work for you and face it together and you'll be all the stronger for it.



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Old Jan 4th, 2013, 05:31 AM   10
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Hi ladies. Im about 9 weeks preggo at the moment and suffering the usual pregnancy symptoms. However i seem to have lost feelings for my OH. I know i want to be with him but i just seem to snap at him constantly. When im with him i dont want him near me, no hugs, kisses, nothing. Weve not had sex since november when i found out i was pregnant. Is this normal? I know i love him, but i just cant stand him being near me!! Will this go soon?!
I am having this now. Exactly the same. I also know that my relationship was a rebound one...I am also very mixed up and confused and I have only been with him 7 months...When I was pregnant with my ex (with him for 6 years and lost the baby at 5 weeks) I felt nothing like this. I wanted him near all the time.

It doesn't help that my OH lives like a student and doesn't even have heating (his boiler is on the blink). He is not in work at the moment and can't pay his mortgage, but I can't step up the funds as I am in the process of buying my own house.

In the past few weeks everything seems to have spun upside down. I still have feelings for my ex and my head is confused! Sorry for taking over the thread, this has been building for a while!



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