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Old Mar 27th, 2013, 15:07 PM   1
BubsMom17
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Getting annoyed...


OK, this may seem like a really stupid thing to be annoyed about, but I hate when people tell me they "know" what I am having, or "Jee, I hope it's a ... !"

I have a son, he is three. My husband and I TRULY do not care what the sex the new baby is. We will find out, but we GENUINELY will be happy no matter what! I love my son and would LOVE another little buddy, but a girl would be a whole new adventure!

So anywho... I have had so many people say, "Oh I hope it's a girl!" Or, "I can tell you already you are having a girl!" Or even, "Don't you want it to be a girl soooo bad???" Well, no... not really... I want the baby to be healthy soooo bad...

What would be so bad about having another boy? Would you all be that disappointed???
Am I alone here in this? It is really starting to get to me and I'm only 8 weeks!



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2013, 15:33 PM   2
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Try to stay calm
I am too slightly annoyed by people who seem sincerely think that they know better... You must go there... You will love that... really... you're psychic now, are you? Must be the same kind as the ones making predictions about your little one. I'm sure they mean well... but really? I find it hard not to come back with some sarcastic remark, but it really isn't worth it.

Not quite the same, but just an example of people "not thinking it through". My dad proudly tells a story how he came into the maternity unit after I was born (dads weren't allowed to participate back then) and they were waiting for the nurse to come out with me. And he was sort of surprised that most babies were wrinkly and not really appealing (he was young ) and then a nurse comes out with a baby so smooth and so pretty, and this baby was I, of course. I always bit my tongue not to ask him what would he do if his baby was wrinkly? Return?



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Old Mar 27th, 2013, 16:41 PM   3
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I think it comes par and parcel of being pregnant. Everyone makes predictions and has an opinion... My DH and I are the same - we honestly do NOT care whether we're having a boy or a girl as long as bubs is healthy. When my Aunty said something about DH trying to prepare himself for disappointment if it's not a boy it took all my energy not to say something just a rude back. This is the same Aunty that I kindly invited to my 20 week scan when I was pregnant with my daughter, before which she said to me 'I hope you don't mind if I don't look overly excited if it's a boy' (she has 2 boys and desperately wanted a girl).
So in saying all this, we have to develop thick skin and take what people say lightly or we will go crazy - because trust me, it certainly doesn't stop after baby is born! Then it's 'Shouldn't she be walking/talking/toilet trained by now". Everyone seems to turn into some kind of child rearing expert when they see you with one.



 
Old Mar 27th, 2013, 16:46 PM   4
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I think that's one of the reasons I don't want to find out the sex, I don't want to deal with all the dumb responses people have, I don't want them to get to me and somehow feel bad about the way I feel or what I'm having.



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2013, 16:53 PM   5
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Lol this is starting to bother me too!! I seriously do not care what the gender is... I'm just hoping for a healthy and happy little bundle. But I'm constantly hearing I hope you have... and i'm like WHY??? I have spent equal time with little boys and little girls and in fact I sometimes wish i was having twins one of each because it's so hard to choose which part I want to experience. But boys are great and so are girls. Just different! lol



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2013, 17:17 PM   6
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I think the thing that annoys me the most is my friend (and I know she means well... lol...), but she said, and I quote (these are taken directly from my text messages):

"I love your little girl already!" I said, "Well it'll be sad for you when that little girl is a little boy!"

She responded with, "Oh, you'll see." I just said, "Yea, we will all see soon enough."



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2013, 17:45 PM   7
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I seriously dislike people who put their own projections on your pregnancy! I know that I would rather have a girl than a boy, but I would still be ticked if someone told me they wished it was a girl. It isn't their pregnancy, so they shouldmind their own beeswax.



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2013, 17:54 PM   8
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Their opinions on gender guesses or what they wish for me to have doesn't get to me nearly as bad as when they tell me the things I'm going to need for my baby or that I won't need to get this or that. Especially when it's something I say I KNOW I will use, or I want for my baby. It's like okay, thanks for the advice or opinions but this is my baby and this is what I want so don't try and tell me what's best for me to get for my kid. Grrrr lol had 3 people do that to me today and it was so frustrating to me. Lol



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Old Mar 27th, 2013, 22:33 PM   9
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Yeah that would annoy me tremendously that a close friend wants a specific gender because it will make me feel like well will u love my kid less if it's not a girl and ends up a boy or vise versa! Smh there is 50% chance it's a girl lol



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 06:04 AM   10
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People don't know yet but I've had comments since having my 3rd son about trying again for a girl, or being disappointed having 3 boys. (Actually I had one friend ask if I was disappointed after finding out my 1st son was was a boy!)
Now yes I'll admit on here that I'd love a little girl. I wouldn't swap any of my boys for a girl and if I have another boy I will love him just add much as I would have loved a girl. As long as his healthy I'll be happy, but a girl would make a nice change.
But I do get very defensive over people thinking I wouldn't be happy with my boys.



 
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