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Old Sep 17th, 2013, 23:53 PM   1
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I had no idea! Am I a wuss??


I really had no idea that the first trimester was going to be this hard! I thought that I might throw up a few times, maybe need to sleep a little bit more, etc. I had no idea the other things that come along with it like constipation, bloating, all day nausea and headache feeling like I'm hung over, sore throat, incredibly irritable (this started today, I just am so.. don't even want to deal with anything today lol), generally feel uncomfortable, sore breasts, sense of smell increase, food aversions, feeling starving and then not wanting to eat after the first bite, having difficulty thinking sometimes, dizzy, and so much more. I really honestly didn't know it was going to be this rough and I don't even have it as rough as some of you ladies. I'm feeling like SUCH a wuss but I'm like, "How am I going to get through this pregnancy?" It's like I don't feel tough enough. It makes me scared of how I'm going to handle the birth and handling caring for my wiggly new one. I think having my OH expect SO much of me during this time gives me a skewed perception of what I should be able to expect from myself during this time but I'm not sure. Some women seem totally fine throughout even the first trimester, other women deadly ill with vomitting, and I'm in the terrible in-between of being able to function enough that loads of expectations are put on me that I really can't live up to and I just end up feeling down on myself on TOP of feeling awful physically.

Can someone tell me where I fall in the curve of pregnant ladies? Am I a lazy wuss or is what I'm experiencing normal? I feel so overwhelmed. I could use a hug and ice cream.



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2013, 00:13 AM   2
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First Trimester IS hard! Your body is litterally creating a human and you are no wuss it takes a big tole on a persons body! I do hope that once second trimester comes for you things start to calm down a bit



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2013, 00:43 AM   3
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First Trimester IS hard! Your body is litterally creating a human and you are no wuss it takes a big tole on a persons body! I do hope that once second trimester comes for you things start to calm down a bit
Thanks! I don't know how to prove this to my OH because he won't read anything from online or books as he thinks it's all just overblowing it or putting ideas into people's heads. I don't know why he has this viewpoint but every time I try to tell him that I'm growing a human being inside of me he just sort of shrugs. He thinks I'm getting enough sleep and he watches movies late at night when there's no where else really I could go to sleep. Frustrating! It is good to hear from you though that I'm not a wuss and that it does take a big toll on a person's body! I also hope when the second trimester comes around things will be better!



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2013, 00:43 AM   4
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You aren't a wuss. It sucks. Big time. I felt like I had the stomach flu all day every day and the only thing that kinda helped was to eat a little bit all day, but nothing ever sounded good and by the end of the day I was so pissed that I had to eat more. Blah.



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Old Sep 18th, 2013, 00:46 AM   5
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You aren't a wuss. It sucks. Big time. I felt like I had the stomach flu all day every day and the only thing that kinda helped was to eat a little bit all day, but nothing ever sounded good and by the end of the day I was so pissed that I had to eat more. Blah.
I'm so sorry you've felt so rotten as well! It really does help to be able to talk to other people about it!!! Ugh, the best way I can describe it to OH is that I feel like I have a hangover every day.



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2013, 00:49 AM   6
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My OH is like that too. but every morning he asks me how I am I tell him "I feel like shit and I just puked" and honestly don't try and convince him, men are stuborn animals lol if you need a nap just say "Hey, I finished doing this, I'm feeling dizzy and tired so Im going to go lay down." I dont give my OH the option lol if I feel like shit I'm going to say I feel like shit and this is what I am going to do to help me not feel like shit. And if he asks "why do you feel like crap" just say "why do you think? I'm pregnant" Men will never know how hard it is dealing with pregnancy. Its like waking up with a horrible hangover but you are expected to function in society like a normal human. It's hard but like I said, if you need a nap , you take a nap! lol (thats been my biggest thing lol)



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2013, 00:53 AM   7
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your not a wuss, it is HARD! not far from second trimester though, the good one, the easy fun one, before you look and feel like a whale worrying about popping !



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2013, 00:57 AM   8
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Todays the day!


Sorry this was meant to be a new post! not jump on some one elses!



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2013, 02:08 AM   9
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I have the exact same thoughts and at the same time I feel guilty for feeling like it because I feel so incredibly lucky to be pregnant and I know how many people would love to be in this situation.
I feel 'off' everyday and everyday is an effort especially socialising which I'm
Avoiding!
I think its really normal and your OH needs to accept its tough on you as your growing his baby!
I have the app on my phone 'what to expect' it gives a countdown of what's happening and I show that to my husband and it also says what symptoms to expect. It's good because he can understand exactly what's going on inside me! Maybe try that? It's not like chucking a book in front of him its just short and to the point? xx



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2013, 02:25 AM   10
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It does get better. I was MISERABLE between 6 and 9 weeks and then it started slacking off. The past two days I have noticed it pickung up but the exhaustion has stayed away.

My DH has douche moments but on the whole accepts what I am saying. I did force him to read a few articles etc but he has been doing his own reading. He loves nothing more then using Google to prove me wrong and I have a feeling it back fired because after our first major blow up he seemed to be more understanding and have a bit more information to quote.



 
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