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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 18:08 PM   1
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confusion about missed miscarriages


I've been paranoid constantly that something is going to go wrong ever since I've been pregnant (first pregnancy). I'm sure its unnecessary worrying though...

now, I've noticed that A LOT of women on this site have mentioned having one or more missed miscarriages. It seems like a really high percentage which makes me nervous.
but then I feel better when I do research where it says that a missed miscarriage only occurs in 1 out of every 100 pregnancies.

this has me so confused... Are the stats off or am I just coincidentally stumbling on a lot of threads where women have had this happen??

thanks in advance for your ideas



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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 18:33 PM   2
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This forum is very concentrated... a large portion of people are pregnant so it's going to sound more common. Like heart attacks would seem more common on a heart problem forum or sore backs on a back pain forum etc! The risks are very slim, it just seems like it happens as often as it does because of the forum you're on!

I worry too, though. It's why scans are never an exciting time for me (I've had 2), the weeks, days and moments before are horrible and full of anxiety! Right up until the tech said "there's the heart beat." Then I'm fine for a day and back comes the worry



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 18:58 PM   3
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Thing is you come to a forum because you need help. So you are more likely to have people posting about MMC symptoms. Also remember that a "missed miscarriage" can also be a "delayed miscarriage"...... and eventually, given enough time a missed miscarriage will become a miscarriage.

I think that people who are on a forum become hyper aware of the symptoms of a MMC, hyper aware of how to get scans and do things the "general population" might not do as often like get a doppler.

My MMC was suspected at 8+5 and confirmed at 10+0. I had slight spotting at 8+1 which led me to seek a scan. If I hadn't been a big forum poster and member of a online mummy community I may well have just though, aww well its one of those things. .... Then I would never have had the scan and would probably have miscarried naturally before my 12 week scan. I would therefore have had a "miscarriage" rather than a "missed miscarriage".



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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 19:12 PM   4
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Most pregnancies end in miscarriage don't they? These days we have such accurate and early home tests, in the old days you wouldn't have even been sure you were pregnant, let alone that you weremiscarrying.

My first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage. It is heartbreaking. And impossible not to worry, I know.



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 19:47 PM   5
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I've had one, at 8 weeks. I'm sure I would have mc'd naturally, but after a week, nothing happened. It does seem way too common on here, but like a pp said, we are a very concentrated group of ttc'ers. I'm sure you'll be just fine!! Chances are in your favor!!



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 20:45 PM   6
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Most pregnancies end in miscarriage don't they? These days we have such accurate and early home tests, in the old days you wouldn't have even been sure you were pregnant, let alone that you weremiscarrying.

My first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage. It is heartbreaking. And impossible not to worry, I know.
I would have to disagree with you most pregnancies result in healthy babies less the 20% end in miscarriage and that includes the real early ones most women aren't aware of. The reason there is so many on a forum like this because this is where women who have had them end up, seeking reassurance it wont happen again



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 21:30 PM   7
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Missed miscarriages are VERY rare. Just seems so normal here because of the forum. I was 14 weeks along before I knew the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. So mine was DEFINITELY out of the norm. I really don't understand how my body went 6 extra weeks without miscarrying normally. My doctor told me it only occurs 1-2% of all miscarriages. It's funny how the body works sometimes..



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 21:34 PM   8
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The reason there is so many on a forum like this because this is where women who have had them end up, seeking reassurance it wont happen again
This is exactly the truth when I first came over from the ttc threads I was shocked at the amount of negative threads but truth be told if everything is going great for you you'll probably have less to talk about.



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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 21:40 PM   9
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The reason there is so many on a forum like this because this is where women who have had them end up, seeking reassurance it wont happen again
This is exactly the truth when I first came over from the ttc threads I was shocked at the amount of negative threads but truth be told if everything is going great for you you'll probably have less to talk about.
I agree as well! It's nice when you see threads about scans or people finding the heartbeats. There needs to be more positivity out there!



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2014, 23:13 PM   10
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I found that as you move up into the 2nd and 3rd try there is much more positive things to talk about. When I was in first tri I spent time looking at the others as well, and it gives you things to look forward to (halfway, movement, viability, birth). I'm sure your find sweety. Good luck



 
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