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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 07:50 AM   1
MrsMurphy2Be
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Advice Please...


Im a couple of weeks late for my period... i take a test and BAM...a bfp. But we werent trying. I dont even want to be pregnant :/

My LMP puts me at 6+4 today.

I dont know what to think/do. Im devastated. I only had my youngest 5 months ago. Im not ready for anoher baby. Our relationship is awful right now and I havd no idea how to tell my partner. We only dtd about 4 times since having dd2. I feel horrible. I feel guilty. Sick.

I wish I could just forget about it and pretend hat I never took the test. Obviously I cant do that.

Please tell me it will get better



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 08:04 AM   2
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I am sure this is very stressful for you. I am sure that you will adjust to another baby and will love it just as you do your other two. Best Wishes!



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 08:29 AM   3
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Personally I can't really relate as I find pregnancy to be a blessing and after having a miscarriage I can't see ever regretting being pregnant.

However I can understand how nervous and scared you must be. Chances are once you give it time for the news to sink in you will be ok, you'll start to bond with baby.

Maybe it happened way sooner than you would have liked but that baby is there now, in your belly.

Sending hugs your way. I know it can't be easy.



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 08:39 AM   4
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You will come round to the shock lovely.

Jut give yourself time to process it.

Have you talked to your oh or anyone else about it?
Sometimes it just helps to have someone there to talk to.

Best wishes and congrats



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 08:42 AM   5
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Thanks ladies.

Unexpected, I hope my original post didnt come across as horrible! I agree, every baby is a blessig and I would never say I didnt want my baby. I just wasnt ready for it right now. I suppose I better get ready!!

Yo_yo, I havent told OH yet. He is at work and I just took the test this afternoon. I know Ill come around... i just cant get over the fact that Im pregnant... again!?



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 08:46 AM   6
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Thanks ladies.

Unexpected, I hope my original post didnt come across as horrible! I agree, every baby is a blessig and I would never say I didnt want my baby. I just wasnt ready for it right now. I suppose I better get ready!!

Yo_yo, I havent told OH yet. He is at work and I just took the test this afternoon. I know Ill come around... i just cant get over the fact that Im pregnant... again!?
It didn't come across horrible at all.

With my son he was a complete surprise I'd only been with my partner 6 months so I totally understand the initial shock and panic.

I was just saying after my experiences I see every baby as a blessing
Sometimes the best things in life are the challenges life throws at us and the suprises.

It must be really scary but I think you will be ok



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 09:10 AM   7
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Don't forget that you DO have options. Don't let yourself, or anyone else, convince you that your only option is to parent this baby. If the timing is wrong, there is no shame in that. Work on your relationship. A surprise baby MAY be a quick fix for a tumultuous relationship, but it's only a bandaid, the wound still exists.



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 09:28 AM   8
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I understand you must be very frustrated & stressed but give yourself sometime you might not feel this way later on .. You should talk to your OH and tell him that your pregnant I'm sure he'll be happy hope things work out for u xx



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 09:54 AM   9
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I has these same feelings when I found out with this one DD was only 6 month when we found out DH was over the moon but I just didn't feel happy about it at all was so down and upset but as soon as I seen the little one on screen I instantly fell in love again and we can't wait I'm sure when u see ur LO on screen u will be the same hugs to u Hun xxx



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2014, 10:10 AM   10
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I had pretty similar feelings with this baby, because I'm only 22 and in school. We weren't trying and when I was late and took a test, it came out positive and I cried straight for two days. It doesn't make us bad people. Weird thoughts accompany that kind of shock. Now that I've had a over a month for it to really sink in (and I've seen the little guy twitching around on a scan) I've come around and we're pretty excited!



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