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Old Mar 9th, 2014, 18:54 PM   1
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Just found out and now everythings messed up


Im still overjoyed dont get me wrong, its just the dad. He freaked out despite being planned... He has went so weird... N I think he has been with someone else. Just dont understand! Anybody elses OH went strange after finding out? x



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Old Mar 9th, 2014, 19:49 PM   2
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With our first child DH was all for it till I actually got pregnant. Then he totally freaked out saying he thought it wouldn't happen for a year and he wasn't ready and he only said he wanted kids cause I did. At the time I was devastated, but once he had some time to process it all was fine! So fine in fact we are on number three. I think it's totally normal for a man to react this way. Especially for first babies becaus they think their life will be over as they know it. Only they don't know how much better it will be with a LO of their own. Give him time. I know it's not ideal, but my DH came around and it all seems unimportant now.



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Old Mar 9th, 2014, 21:50 PM   3
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My oh had a proper breakdown over it. We planned it for months and then fell pregnant the first time we tried, our relationship then went so badly down hill that if I hadn't fallen pregnant when I did we honestly would have got divorced. It took until my son was 8 months old for things to start to get better - not really what you want to hear but at least you know you aren't alone



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Old Mar 10th, 2014, 08:57 AM   4
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yup...lol and when i asked why he was being weird he said it was because he was looking forward to months of trying



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2014, 09:03 AM   5
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This baby is planned, but after 20 seconds but being excited when I told him, hubby freaked out about finances/time/omgitstheendoftheworld. Took a couple days but he settle down and is now excited, asks about the development this week, etc.

Give him a little time....

What makes you think he was with someone else?



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2014, 09:04 AM   6
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These posts are making me feel less depressed...

we also were trying for awhile and DH was never SUPER gung ho but he was on board and we had made the decision together.. and until this week he seemed ok but now has gone into a deep dark depression/funk over it and he has been just awful. I am really hoping it just takes time for him to get used to the idea and that he will come around.

I feel shocked by his reaction and I feel so alone right now.. I am used to being incredibly close with him so Its really very painful for me... we've been together 16 years (high school sweethearts).... so i hope so much that he gets out of this funk and becomes my partner. If i knew he would feel so badly I would never have done this as awful as it sounds.. but its how I feel



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2014, 09:05 AM   7
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My BFF's hubby and my DH, were both cheesed off that we both fell 1st month of trying, they were expecting at least 6 months of non stop sex, and came unstuck, so can relate to that!



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2014, 17:23 PM   8
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How are things for you now? I know it feels scary when your oh seems to change their mind but whatever happens please don't let it spoil your pregnancy that's what I did and now I don't have any happy memories of expecting my first just crappy miserable ones



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Old Mar 13th, 2014, 18:59 PM   9
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N I think he has been with someone else. Just dont understand! Anybody elses OH went strange after finding out? x
What makes you think he's been with someone else? Just his weird behavior?

Mine freaked out when we found out I was pregnant with our first..and it was his idea to start trying! lol but he got it together very quickly. I think he was more shocked we got pregnant the first month of trying.

This pregnancy was kinda..a surprise lol. He's scared that we'll have a similar traumatic experience as our first. And so am I. So we're both a little freaked



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2014, 19:23 PM   10
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I feel like mine was the opposite. When we discussed trying he was very elusive and avoiding the conversation. Finally he somehow agreed and three months later we conceived and now he is so excited and so wonderful. It was so upsetting before because I felt I would never have kids because the way he felt. So hang in there ladies, sometimes it takes our men longer to adjust, I feel like they don't have the same baby clock like we do so they're not as eager. Haha



 
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