View Poll Results: Have you had a loss?
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Yes - First Trimester 46 58.97%
Yes - Second Trimester 1 1.28%
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Old Apr 15th, 2014, 06:16 AM   31
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Wtbam, i did all those things like you.. for years before i even became pregnant as i did athletics in my teens and was always really careful with what i ate due to my trainings and such (no sugar, no gas beverages (ever! i find them disgusting!), no caffeine, tons of veggies)... to the point of being one of those annoying miss book example nutrition & health freaks lol... perfect blood results, cycles on time, never had period pains, bla bla...
both times i got pregnant within the first month of trying (was in my mid-late 20ies), but none of my pregnancies lasted long. and also no medical reason was found for neither one of those. it really doesn't matter what you do.
i had friends and acquaintances drinking, smoking and even witnessed some do heavy drugs in the first weeks and carry to term. (and after my losses, it felt so so so damn unfair. and for good two years i really had to control myself when seeing a heavily pregnant woman with a cigarette! i still don't have living children yet).

i don't mean to say "do drugs and drink" with this. i just mean to say, you can't do it right. there is no right, as there is really nothing you can do to stop it from happening if it is to happen early on. hugs to you and i keep my fingers crossed for a healthy sticky bean in there!



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Old Apr 15th, 2014, 06:50 AM   32
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Wtbam, i did all those things like you.. for years before i even became pregnant as i did athletics in my teens and was always really careful with what i ate due to my trainings and such (no sugar, no gas beverages (ever! i find them disgusting!), no caffeine, tons of veggies)... to the point of being one of those annoying miss book example nutrition & health freaks lol... perfect blood results, cycles on time, never had period pains, bla bla...
both times i got pregnant within the first month of trying (was in my mid-late 20ies), but none of my pregnancies lasted long. and also no medical reason was found for neither one of those. it really doesn't matter what you do.
i had friends and acquaintances drinking, smoking and even witnessed some do heavy drugs in the first weeks and carry to term. (and after my losses, it felt so so so damn unfair. and for good two years i really had to control myself when seeing a heavily pregnant woman with a cigarette! i still don't have living children yet).

i don't mean to say "do drugs and drink" with this. i just mean to say, you can't do it right. there is no right, as there is really nothing you can do to stop it from happening if it is to happen early on. hugs to you and i keep my fingers crossed for a healthy sticky bean in there!
Couldn`t agree more!! We had some tests done after our 2nd loss and were told to hold off TTC until the results. We still DTD even though we we could only see each other on weekends due to work, and there was 3 days or so before DTD and ovulation, but I still got pregnant and lo and behold that one stuck. Thing is because we were just ''having fun'' I was drinking coffee, eating not so well and super stressed because of a new job (ended up hating that job with a passion lol). So yeah, miscarriages strikes no matter how healthy or unhealthy your lifestyle is. If it's due to a genetic abnormality (most 1st tri losses) you will lose the baby no matter what you do or don't do.



 
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Old Apr 15th, 2014, 07:02 AM   33
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Thank you all. Linny, I am 26, normal BMI, fairly active (only walking exercise now though as don't want to strain), eat as healthily as possible (low GI when I can).

It took me 4 months after coming off the pill to get a BFP, I think I am worried because it was my first 'egg' after birth control, and I was told it might not be a good quality (so perhaps a blighted ovum?). I was also told there is an increased risk of miscarriage in PCOS (possibly due to the levels of insulin?? I am taking Metformin until the end of the first trimester, if I get that far, to help with this).

I don't drink at all, I don't smoke, I don't take drugs, I don't drink coffee.... I hope I am giving myself the best chances but I do have to keep telling myself, what will be will be, and if this little baby isn't meant to be.... well then that is ok too.
Also looks like i caught first egg after depo which is evil and took 16 months so i understand your worry. I read many women mc first pregnancy after being on the depo.
This pregnancy been very difficult i couldnt even keep water in me and i got vert concerned what knock on effects it would cause lil bean, i heard a good HB this morning.

Weirdly enough month i got caught i had consumed a lot of cocktails (hubby a lot of pints) so just goes to show anything is possible.



 
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Old Apr 15th, 2014, 07:51 AM   34
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Wtbam - Well, statistically it seems that many odds are in your favour - But as one of the pp posters said - you could be necking cocktails and still get a perfectly healthy and viable bfp.

That said, I prefer statistics to anecdotal evidence. I had spotting in this pregnancy early on and was very dismayed to find in forums everywhere that the majority of women responding to queries about this would relay their story of miscarriage. It's completely understandable however - reading them only served to foster fear and paranoia in me especially since the pregnancy before had ended in an mc. I then bought a lot of articles through scholarly sites on the issue of spotting in pregnancy to better understand what the risks were. The fact was that if you bled your chances of mc could be as low as 6% to as high as 75% and it all depended on a multitude of variables particular to just you.

This is a bit of a waffle - but basically what i'm trying to say is - you're unique and simply having pcos is only one aspect of that. And....ultimately the only way to figure out how it's going to go is to take one day at a time and see what happens....bear in mind the highest likelihood with a pregnancy is that it ends with a baby x



 
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Old Apr 15th, 2014, 08:03 AM   35
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I joined before loss as well...we sadly lost our son at 32 weeks due to Dr error...while recuperating from that I had ankle surgery...and became pregnant! It was so hard on my body that I had a blighted ovum and after 4 months of no period pregnant again.

Loss happens...but pregnancy is in our favor of moving forward. I was one of those shocked by all the loss until it happened to me. I think once it happens you learn from others and they feel more open to share it has happened to them or in their family...

I tAke it one day at a time and thank the heavens we have been blessed...don't dwell on it and move forward bc whatever happens you will survive...hoping you have a sticky bean in there!



 
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