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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 16:08 PM   1
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those with kids already, when are you telling them?


The first time I told my daughter right away cause she was just 9 months old and didn't know what it meant lol. But I'm obviously not planning on telling them soon for a variety of reasons. I just dont know when is a better time. When do you plan on telling your kids? When have you told your kids about pregnancies in the past?

My not yet three year old knows all about babies in mommies tummies - she has a recently born cousin and a cousin on the way in January she often talks about being in mommy's tummies, and she will point out pregnant women and tell me she has a baby in her tummy.



 
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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 16:20 PM   2
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Its hard to know when its the right time, my 4 year old also knows all about baby's come from ladies tummys she has also said lots of times she wants us to have a baby & she even drew pictures of moon, stars & rainbow to put on the wall when baby comes

I'm desperate to tell her! I have my scan tomorrow but I think im going to wait a couple more weeks to announce all being well



 
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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 16:23 PM   3
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Because of my Sch I'm waiting until after 12 weeks, maybe longer to tell them. Mine are going to be 6 and 3 tomorrow, the older one will understand so I'm not telling them right away. Also, I'm fat so I won't show for awhile. I think I can keep it a secret until half way lol



 
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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 16:26 PM   4
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I told my kids right away, they are pretty young as well ( 3 1/2 and 2 on saturday) but even if they were older I would have told them right away as well.. I want them involved as much as possible!



 
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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 16:27 PM   5
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I have a 6 year old and I will be 15 weeks around christmas so I am buying a t shirt that says "I will soon be a big sister" something like that.

I think that would be fun she is so ready to be a big sys



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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 16:30 PM   6
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DD is not quite 10 months old and we have already told her she is going to be a big sister. She has no clue what we are talking about, but I HAD to tell her.



 
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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 16:39 PM   7
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The main reasons we're waiting is my parents dont know yet and I just know dd1 will blurt out something about he baby in mommy's tummy lol. Also I think 9 months I just too long fr kids to have to wait. My 3 year old has to skip through 3/4 of a movie to get to he part she likes, she will not like having to wait and wait and wait for the baby

The other part I forgot to ask was those of you waiting, how do you tell your kids no to roughhouse with you the same as usual? Mine like to sit on my stomach and jump up and own, and obviously I've put a nix on that. But I've always been one oexpain why not to do something rather than just say no, but dont know what to tell them.



 
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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 17:02 PM   8
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My DS will be ten at the end of this month, he has wanted a sibling for years and just a few days ago said to me "I'm never going to having a brother or sister", when I asked why he replied "because when ladies get old they can't have babies" - I'm 29! anyways, my DH and I are desperate to tell him but we are going to wait until at least 10 weeks I think (I am 5 just now). We plan on paying for an early ultrasound at 8 weeks so we may or may not tell him at that point. I've got two fears of telling him - How he would cope should happen to the pregnancy, especially as he has autism, and secondly we know as soon as we tell him then others will find out. So for now we are playing it by ear - sometime between 8-12 weeks probably, but we have to be ready to tell others and confident the pregnancy is going well before we would tell him.



 
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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 17:43 PM   9
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My DS will be ten at the end of this month, he has wanted a sibling for years and just a few days ago said to me "I'm never going to having a brother or sister", when I asked why he replied "because when ladies get old they can't have babies" - I'm 29! anyways, my DH and I are desperate to tell him but we are going to wait until at least 10 weeks I think (I am 5 just now). We plan on paying for an early ultrasound at 8 weeks so we may or may not tell him at that point. I've got two fears of telling him - How he would cope should happen to the pregnancy, especially as he has autism, and secondly we know as soon as we tell him then others will find out. So for now we are playing it by ear - sometime between 8-12 weeks probably, but we have to be ready to tell others and confident the pregnancy is going well before we would tell him.
My son has autism and coped with becoming a big brother really well. He's a bit younger than your son and was almost 7 when his sister was born. I never told him as such as he wouldn't of understood what I meant as he had limited speech and understanding at that point. We would briefly mention it to him, but he wasn't interested and I didn't want to force the topic. So around the 38 week mark we started getting all the baby things in. So in the car he would say this is my car seat(booster seat), that is baby car seat. This is baby's bed, baby's chair etc, etc. So at that point things started to become real to him. Then when he met his sister he was fine with her, he told me every time she was crying and went to find me, he'd put her nappy in the bin (he had a bin obsession but that is now gone), he'd start wanting milk with her but he was also happy doing his own thing and generally ignores her most of the time. Now as they are older he's helping her play with her toys even if its just for a few minutes, trying to comfort her, playing babies with his own doll, and to top it all off he's getting more fruit in him as he's having Erika's yoghurts as he likes to call them, which is pureed fruit. Can't argue there. You know your son better than me so you'll know what will work with you, but if he shows an interest try teaching him about how baby grows each week or get books to help him adapt to the change.

So with that, I told my daughter but she's only 7 months and I don't think she really cares although she did give me a grumpy look so how knows! With my son, I won't as that is what works for us.



 
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Old Oct 8th, 2014, 18:37 PM   10
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My kids are almost 9 and almost 7. We are going to tell them at 11 weeks after we hear the heartbeat on doppler. We've seen it at 6w4d, but I need that reassurance closer to the end of the first trimester before I tell.



 
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