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Old Jan 19th, 2015, 15:10 PM   11
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Blood may be thicker than water, but blood doesn't always function properly. I'm sorry that you are going through these struggles. On a level, I can empathize as you know my situation. On another, I have no idea how you feel because it's entirely different.

People are always going to judge you. It's something I learned very early in life. Most of the time, the judgement is going to be founded on absolute (excuse my language) bullshit. This is how I lived my life so you should too to the color of your skin to the reproductive organs you were born with. People are judgmental. The great thing is that, unless it's a judge in a court judging you as guilty, you get to IGNORE those buttheads.

Family is more important now than ever, but if your family can't be supportive then you have to rely on those that are. A very wise, strong, and kind woman once told me that my mom was just in shock and she would come around. So I want that wise, strong, kind woman to take her own advice.

Biggest hugs. You know we're always here if you need a vent fest. Goodness knows I come here and spill my drama all day every day.
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Thanks so much, doll I am trying so hard to ignore the hurtful comments. I know, ultimately, it's about my husband and I....and now our little baby! We want so much more for our child than we had. I just have to ignore the negative people around us.

Totally with you on being judged. I have had people hate me for no, and I mean NO reason. It's funny. I used to be chubby and I was called fat and ugly. Then, I lost a ton of weight and people thought I was slutty or stupid as a skinny girl. Or people automatically assumed I was a "bitch" when I am SO FAR from that. So meh, I don't care what people say anymore but once people start saying negative things in reference to me being pregnant....thats when Mama Bear comes out and I get angry. My child is innocent and people have no right to say anything cold and heartless about him or her--or about any child!!



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2015, 15:11 PM   12
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ohhhh geez. I had this long response about how I feel about weddings and throwing money around for parties that don't bear the slightest resemblance to us or the relationships we're celebrating. I just deleted it because I realized my thoughts aren't shared by the majority so, I'll just say, I'm right there with ya!



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Old Jan 19th, 2015, 15:14 PM   13
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Totally with you on being judged. I have had people hate me for no, and I mean NO reason. It's funny. I used to be chubby and I was called fat and ugly. Then, I lost a ton of weight and people thought I was slutty or stupid as a skinny girl. Or people automatically assumed I was a "bitch" when I am SO FAR from that. So meh, I don't care what people say anymore but once people start saying negative things in reference to me being pregnant....thats when Mama Bear comes out and I get angry. My child is innocent and people have no right to say anything cold and heartless about him or her--or about any child!!
This! hahaha after some observations, I did a social experiment at work and noticed that when I did my hair and makeup, people treated me like I was stupid. When I didn't, they trusted me and believed everything I said.



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Old Jan 19th, 2015, 15:31 PM   14
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ohhhh geez. I had this long response about how I feel about weddings and throwing money around for parties that don't bear the slightest resemblance to us or the relationships we're celebrating. I just deleted it because I realized my thoughts aren't shared by the majority so, I'll just say, I'm right there with ya!
Yeah....I feel that way about Facebook and engagements and everything now that has to be widely publicized to be recognized. I think it takes away the special feeling of things....we did post a couple of wedding pictures on FB but everyone was all shocked when they didn't know about the planning process. I just politely stated that we preferred to keep it private. That's unheard of these days!



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2015, 15:33 PM   15
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Totally with you on being judged. I have had people hate me for no, and I mean NO reason. It's funny. I used to be chubby and I was called fat and ugly. Then, I lost a ton of weight and people thought I was slutty or stupid as a skinny girl. Or people automatically assumed I was a "bitch" when I am SO FAR from that. So meh, I don't care what people say anymore but once people start saying negative things in reference to me being pregnant....thats when Mama Bear comes out and I get angry. My child is innocent and people have no right to say anything cold and heartless about him or her--or about any child!!
This! hahaha after some observations, I did a social experiment at work and noticed that when I did my hair and makeup, people treated me like I was stupid. When I didn't, they trusted me and believed everything I said.

Yep!! People are so silly!!!



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2015, 15:51 PM   16
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Haha my life is on fb. BUT in my defense it's because my family is so spread out, and 98% of my friends list is family and over half of them live in Thailand. It's how they get their glimpse into my life and vice versa. I'm also super introverted so anytime I can talk to someone via computer or text, I am all about that life. I prefer to interact with my school community and immediate family.

Anyway enough about me. I forgot what I was going to say now.. ... ..

But Mama Bear away! I say politely voice your opinion and move on as you know. If you need someone to be positive, you know where to find me



 
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Old Jan 19th, 2015, 15:59 PM   17
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Haha my life is on fb. BUT in my defense it's because my family is so spread out, and 98% of my friends list is family and over half of them live in Thailand. It's how they get their glimpse into my life and vice versa. I'm also super introverted so anytime I can talk to someone via computer or text, I am all about that life. I prefer to interact with my school community and immediate family.

Anyway enough about me. I forgot what I was going to say now.. ... ..

But Mama Bear away! I say politely voice your opinion and move on as you know. If you need someone to be positive, you know where to find me
lol my life was on Facebook too until THAT caused drama!! Geeesh! lol I'm glad you can communicate with them, though. It's important and FB really is a helpful resource.

Aww thanks Yeah...I'm trying to continue working on my inner peace to answer respectfully so I don't bite anyone's head off lol!!



 
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