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Old Jun 25th, 2017, 21:17 PM   11
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I'd tell her either before or after just so u don't get all worked up thinking it will ruin your visit with her. Even if u edit a pic of your test and send it too her .



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Old Jun 26th, 2017, 14:59 PM   12
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Oh the joys! Ive had to tell my mum 4 times now (2 boys, 1 loss and current bean). Each time was a nightmare, I was a wreck!! This last time was the worst, baby no3 and Im sure she doesnt think I can cope as it is lol

Anyhoo, I blurted it out and she said "Are you sure you want another?" "I dont know if I should congratulate you or not."
Lovely......

So next day she actually appologised and said she didnt know why she said that. Shes been great since and with ds2 starting nursery soon shes looking forward to another little one to watch.

I like her knowing as it helped with our loss a few years ago.

Your mum will no doubt be overjoyed but sometimes that first reaction isnt quite what you want or expect. You are still her baby and she will worry about you. I understand why my mum said what she did lol xx



 
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Old Jun 26th, 2017, 15:28 PM   13
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I'm in a similar situation, except this pregnancy wasn't exactly planned. My mom visits next weekend and I've been struggling with whether I tell her or not. It's just so early (I'm 5 weeks-ish). And I think she feels like we shouldn't have any more as I'm exhausted by dealing with the two I've got, and my husband isn't around much during the week so it's all on me. When I had a chemical a few months ago, I told her what happened and she didn't say anything. Literally nothing. Maybe she didn't know what to say. But I know my mom pretty well. And when she doesn't approve of something she's very tight lipped. She doesn't want to be critical but she can't be supportive if she's not feeling like she agrees with something. Anyway, we are very close and would absolutely want her support should something go wrong, so I probably will tell her, but I'm hella nervous about it. Because I anticipate her reaction will be astonishment followed by disapproval. So anyway. I can relate. I hope your mom reacts more positively than you anticipate and congrats!

Thank you! Just a few more days now, I've decided to go ahead and tell her on Thursday. Waiting and keeping it a secret have just been making me feel awful. FX'd that both of our mothers react positively!



 
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Old Jun 26th, 2017, 15:29 PM   14
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Good luck for Thursday, and congratulations!!



 
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Old Jun 29th, 2017, 08:44 AM   15
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Today's the big day! Just praying she takes it well, or at least keeps any negative opinions to herself.



 
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Old Jun 29th, 2017, 08:45 AM   16
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Goodluck!



 
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Old Jun 29th, 2017, 15:27 PM   17
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Hope it went well xx



 
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Old Jun 30th, 2017, 04:23 AM   18
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I know this feeling. I've told ONE of my siblings. I haven't told my mother or other sister. My mother I THINK will be okay but she will worry my other sister on the other hand will give me the 'you need a bigger house and your not working full-time' speech. Yes, we NEED a bigger house but given the housing shortage in my area at the moment, I'd rather STAY where I know we are guaranteed a home and I might not be working full-time but I work part-time (unlike her) while I study full-time for a better future I can have without taking time out to have babies.



 
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Old Jun 30th, 2017, 10:28 AM   19
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Hope all went well with your mom! If not... well you have a group of wonderful ladies on B&B that you can always vent/talk too!



 
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Old Jun 30th, 2017, 16:00 PM   20
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Thanks for checking in, everyone! It actually went really well with my mom last night!! I wouldn't say that she's exactly excited yet but she wasn't angry or disappointed. She freaked out a little bit and then pretty much immediately transitioned into practical mode - asking us what our plan was. After dinner we went to my grandparents house with her and told them and they are VERY excited. My granny said "I'm going to take care of that baby everyday! It'll give me something to do!!" Hah!

Also, my mom wants her grandma name to be "Fancy", which I'm only agreeing to because that's totally going to end up being "Fanny" in kidspeak



 
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