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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 01:03 AM   1
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How to tell family that aren't going to be happy?


Okay so basically my side of the family aren't going to be happy about this news. I was going to send my mum a text later on today as I can't face her again (she proper flipped out when I told her I was pregnant with my youngest).
She worries because of my health as I'm overweight (16.5 Stone) so I know she means well but I just can't face the confrontation right now.
So what do you all think of this?
(I'll add that 4 months ago I was 20.5 stone so I have lost a lot of weight to get here now)

I need to tell you something and I need you to just listen. When I'm done you can share but I need you to remember what what I need right now is your love and support. I'm pregnant. 4-5 weeks ish the doctor thinks.
Please don't contact me today unless it's for being supportive because I really can't take the stress of it all.
We are so happy about this and want you to be too.
I love you so much and as my mum and best friend I'm going to need your love and support.
Nothing will change, I'm still going to attend slimming world, I promise you that when this baby is here I will be a few stone lighter at least! I promise.
Don't worry about me, I'm going to be fine I'm a good mum, a strong woman, just like you raised me to be. You're the best mum in the whole world and I want to be just like you.
I wasn't going to tell anyone until I had a scan but you're my mum! And I love you so much xxx



 
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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 01:23 AM   2
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I guess it depends on your relationship with your mum. I completely get why you would text rather than call or do it in person but from a personal level I know my mum would be really upset if I just sent a text. I knew my mum wasn't going to be happy about my pregnancy, we weren't trying and it's a fairly new relationship too, but I told her in person. She was worried for me and my girls I have now coz we've been through a lot the past few years but in the end she was supportive and is now even excited for another grandbaby. Like I said though only you know your relationship with your mum so only you can judge. I really hope it goes better than your expecting and she's supportive



 
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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 01:42 AM   3
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I guess it depends on your relationship with your mum. I completely get why you would text rather than call or do it in person but from a personal level I know my mum would be really upset if I just sent a text. I knew my mum wasn't going to be happy about my pregnancy, we weren't trying and it's a fairly new relationship too, but I told her in person. She was worried for me and my girls I have now coz we've been through a lot the past few years but in the end she was supportive and is now even excited for another grandbaby. Like I said though only you know your relationship with your mum so only you can judge. I really hope it goes better than your expecting and she's supportive
Our relationship is amazing! She really is like my best friend!

But we didn't speak for about a month after I told her I was pregnant with my daughter because we got into a huge argument. I fee like this way I can text her, she can have time to take in the news and be happy.

I know she's only concerned about me but she does need time to absorb and adjust to things she doesn't agree with x



 
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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 16:34 PM   4
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Hello, i'm also a plus sized momma at 16.5 stone but im currently 11 weeks pregnant. Aside from being moaned at for my weight ( i have PCOS and had a baby 9 months ago!) I've had no ill effects and you can still go on to have a healthy pregnancy happy and healthy 9 months to you but so sorry to hear that you fear backlash from your mum x



 
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Old Jul 16th, 2017, 05:17 AM   5
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When it came to us telling family I told my parents over the phone. I was trying to get them to meet so we could talk face to face but didn't work that way as they guessed.
My siblings I told face to face my sister cried and stopped speaking to me for a week



 
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Old Jul 16th, 2017, 05:26 AM   6
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I still haven't told anyone apart from OH mum and dad. I know I need to soon but I'm dreading how everyone will react x



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2017, 05:39 AM   7
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Congrats on your news and amazing weight loss, well done. I hope it turns out OK for you!



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2017, 10:55 AM   8
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I think your text is good and the right tone. I also told my mum via text this pregnancy, actually a group whatsapp with her and my sister (it was my sister who I knew was going to be unhappy). Obviously it sounds bad to say you told someone by text, but actually I think it's kinder than trying to tell someone who won't be happy about it over the phone/face to face, because if you do that, it forces them to respond straight away. Sending a text is actually better for the other person because you can't see/hear their reaction so if they want to get upset they can, and then compose themselves by the time they talk to you.
Ps well done on your weight loss



 
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Old Jul 20th, 2017, 01:30 AM   9
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She worries because of my health as I'm overweight (16.5 Stone)
Honey, unless you are under 5ft, I wouldn't worry about your weight too much. I'm 5"5 and weigh around 90kg (14.1 stone). Although I wouldn't mind loosing about 10kg, I'm happy with my weight so as long as you are too, don't let anyone EVER tell you different.

I haven't told my Mum or Dad yet. I've told a friend and my youngest sister early on and they were happy. Sister wants me to have a 5th - not happening unless she pops out a third. I told my younger sister tonite. I got the 'FFS you guys need a bigger house' but that was about all she said before she told me I better stock up on nappies and she will go though all my niece's things for me to buy if baby is a girl. After I told her I said that I am working part time, studying full time and I want a career I can focus on AFTER having my family. I told her it wasn't a spur of the moment decision for us as it was something we had been thinking about since I was pregnant with DS3. She's not entirely happy but she knows we wouldn't have jumped without talking about it in depth first.



 
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