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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 13:26 PM   11
maryanne1987
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Maryanne to be honest it sounds that she is acting out of character and that could be an early sign of Alzheimer's/ dementia. Because a person who can control their emotions would never say stuff like that to your face. And lose her home and support network too. So I wouldn't be upset

Also her comment doesn't actually make sense. Never heard anyone saying it's embarrassing to have children. It's embarrassing to run around naked, to have drunken rows in front of neighbours etc but doesn't apply at all to having children!

My grandmother started acting weird and saying stuff that was out of character years before she was diagnosed. I remember one comment about my other grandmother upset me so much I was in tears, but now I realise it was the illness and not her talking.

As for everyone else, stuff them. I don't care what anyone thinks and I don't need their approval. I have a cousin who thinks I am baby obsessed and she doesn't even know about my losses and trying for a second one, she doesn't want children. Well that's her problem, not mine.

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Thank you sweetkat. Really appreciate it. I think you may be right that there may be more to this. Hoping I can talk to her and calm things but she's so angry. May just keep an eye on things and see how things progress because it is odd.



 
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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 13:37 PM   12
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Her anger and weird responses and saying she will move out are signs of something being wrong. Ppl with dementia lose their empathy - in extreme cases they laugh at bereavement, react out of chararacter and inapropriately in social situations etc.



 
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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 13:42 PM   13
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I'm going to wait till after 12 week scan so I know everything is ok but I will probably tell my mum sooner. She's just found out she's more than likely got ms and is very down and can no longer drive so I really don't know when the best time to tell her will be x



 
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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 14:04 PM   14
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I'm going to wait till after 12 week scan so I know everything is ok but I will probably tell my mum sooner. She's just found out she's more than likely got ms and is very down and can no longer drive so I really don't know when the best time to tell her will be x
Im sorry to hear about your mum Kirsty. You never know your news might cheer her up x



 
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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 14:05 PM   15
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Her anger and weird responses and saying she will move out are signs of something being wrong. Ppl with dementia lose their empathy - in extreme cases they laugh at bereavement, react out of chararacter and inapropriately in social situations etc.
I think I might have a little chat with her social worker when she calls over this week. She needs care so she can't just leave and now I'm worried that there's more to this than meets the eye.



 
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Old Jul 14th, 2017, 14:49 PM   16
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I'm sorry you're worried maryanne, but like I was suggesting above, this also screams dementia to me as well. My family has lived through it several times. My grandfather was the kindest man you could ever meet. I remember him yelling at me when I was 12 because I took diving loops to their pool (just small waited hoops to help you practice diving down to get things from the bottom). They were designed for the pool and I had asked before bringing them. Then afterwards he yelled and yelled about how they would damage the pool. It made no sense at all. Shortly after he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease.

My grandmother has a different type of dementia. She doesn't lash out, but she sure speaks her mind. She was a very devout Catholic her whole life. Now we'll take her to church and she'll happily mock the priest on the way home. It's amusing a lot of the time, but definitely not "her". Same with neighbors and relatives. She has no problem talking about how someone has gained weight or made stupid life decisions. Things she would never have said before this started.



 
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