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Old Jan 30th, 2018, 05:08 AM   1
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Embarrassing sex/masturbation question!


I havenít had sex since my BFP 7 weeks ago (now 9 weeks pregnant)!! Iím going out my mind, but Iím too scared to do it! Iím having sex dreams every night, thinking about it all day, but I canít bring myself to do it, either with my husband or by myself! After two internal scans with this pregnancy I bled, and Iíve had three early losses in the past. I donít want to do anything that might harm the baby or cause another loss - I am a massive worrier at the moment (probably made worse by the fact Iím so pent up!). I heard that orgasming causes contractions of the uterus, which does not sound like something I want to risk! And the other thing is my vibrator is really strong vibe wise, and Iím worried using that could shake things up too much! I had my booking in appointment and was too embarrassed to ask, and then annoyingly on the checklist thing in my pack I looked at after the midwife ticked that we spoke about it so obviously she was too embarrassed to discuss it too! If sheíd have started the conversation it would have been much easier! Does anyone know whether it is okay! And if anyone was told not to, why was that (e.g. I know some people have a weak cervix but how do they know that?).
Sorry - this is an embarrassing one!



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2018, 06:11 AM   2
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It is completely fine to have sex unless told otherwise, we did during first trimester with my son.
But I understand your fear because we havenít this time Ďjust incaseí. (Well we had it the day before I tested to be fair )

You just do what makes you feel comfortable, go easy, if you decide not to then your not under any pressure xx



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2018, 11:35 AM   3
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I didn't have sex the whole timey last pregnancy, but I did take care of myself when needed! My poor husband though ha.
This time I've had sex loads, I'm just desperate most of the time and I'm definitely more relaxed this time.
I would say go for it, just take it slow. I really didn't want to do it for months and months after she was born and I felt so bad for my husband then. So if you feel like it, do it while you do!



 
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Old Jan 30th, 2018, 15:24 PM   4
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I didnt with my son as i was spotting for weeks but i think i was over 12wks when i hopped back in the sack. With my daughter i think we just carried on but this pg i havent really done so far, i dont know if its because it was unplanned & im totaaly scared incase i mc.. my god im so horny haha! I may just have to give in lol



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2018, 08:58 AM   5
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So I was spotting every time the BF and I had sex. Im 7+1 today. The Dr said the cervix can be very sensitive during this time and that minor spotting is normal. I also spotted with my internal. Another note, my BF is...um... Raaaaaaather well endowed (hey im with him for a reason right??? Lmao) The other night we had sex again but very gentle and I did not spot afterwards.

I do however understand your concern... Just remember, being intimate with your man does NOT have to mean vaginal intercourse. SORRY FOR THE TIM but give him head, or do you enjoy anal? There are other ways to be intimate if you are worried...



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Old Jan 31st, 2018, 09:10 AM   6
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Thanks all I think I’m going to wait til at least the second trimester as I’m just too nervous at the moment! I know there’s lots available other than vaginal penetrative sex, but it all winds me up even more, and I don’t want to orgasm in case that causes contractions. Poor hubby! He’s being really understanding and we are doing other things occasionally followed by me having a cold shower! But I do feel bad for both of us as it’s torture! Lol!



 
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Old Jan 31st, 2018, 15:26 PM   7
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I'm the same, I want to have sex but have been avoiding it for now until I get my first scan atleast and see that everything is going well.

I'm not so sure about the first trimester so much, or even the second, but I do know that in the third trimester, having orgasms is actually extremely good for you and baby. Having those contractions are good practice for your uterus and for baby. So, I was advised by my midwife to orgasm as much as possible lol!



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2018, 13:56 PM   8
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I know that you've already had a lot of great answers here, by I just wanted to say that durring my second pregnancy after my 12 loss, I was bleeding early on and my midwife said I had a very sensitive cervix and told me no sex until second trimester. I did go on to have a healthy pregnancy. Hope you do too.



 
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